I keep seeing dudes claiming that being offish, cold, or acting disinterested is a magic key to getting women, but I don't think it is.

ESPECIALLY as a man gets older, disinterest in women will be taken for flagging virility, and let's face it, it often is. More controversially though - I'd say dislike for women can be as well. And when it isn't, this can even less flattering for men; because developing a dislike for women even when you physically desire them naturally suggests you aren't getting along (i.e., you aren't getting what you want, that is, fucking them).

Young guys, attractive guys, guys who want sex from women - they will in a literal sense be attracted to them. They want them. They want it. If you don't, you're probably either literally an incel OR an older guy without lead in his proverbial pencil who can do without. That's not really that great, both from the perspective of women AND in terms of just being a man in the world.

You have to be very far down the attractiveness scale for women to genuinely prefer you not to be (mildly) interested in them as a group, out of relief that you aren't as much of a threat or whatever. My experience is that most women especially young women DO want men to notice that they are pretty and nice. They don't necessarily want you to leer and lust after them (although let's face it, they might if and when you're attractive enough), but I think even when you're not, they will like you more if you actually do see them as women.

This meme of standing in the corner brooding and looking disinterested and waiting for women to chase you being a good idea has gotten out of control. Women don't like you more because you didn't use full stops question marks or exclamation marks, texted later, never use emojis, or didn't smile. They like all of these things when Chad does them, and likely even like you a little bit better when you do them. Being passive and disinterested in things is not attractive.