I just need some support - can’t keep doing this

UrAristotle · 2026-07-29T00:59:50+00:00

How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time

Just start with one task you can complete. Complete it. Then take on the next task. You’ll start stacking wins.

warwww · 2026-07-28T16:33:57+00:00

How is it possible that she has managed to obtain 95% of all assets? Does this not contravene any statute or law surrounding equitable distribution?

Whats the point of having the law if a divorce can leave one person destitute and the other flush with cash? How is that equitable at all?

Even a toddler knows it's wrong to give one person 10 eggs and the other 2 from a carton when they both worked to buy said carton of eggs.

gangbangglenn · 2026-07-28T02:55:55+00:00

I know a guy who knocked up and married an older woman in northern California around 2000. She's been filing contempts against him for 20 years. He can't pay it, so bang, another contempt, and they all carry attorneys fees. Luckily he's good with the ladies and found one that's cool and rich and everything is in her name.

At some point tou have to just give up and acknowledge there's not much you can do. If you don't have the money you don't have the money.

Skanky_the_Samurai · 2026-07-28T01:46:08+00:00

My STBXW has accumulated $600,000 in debt. I make $92,000 a year. The nights I’m able to sleep, I have a recurring nightmare that I’m in the middle of the ocean and there’s nothing in sight. Eventually I get so exhausted that I can’t tread water anymore and I sink to the bottom of the ocean. I wake up in terror and I can’t go back to sleep. So I go to work on a couple hours of broken sleep.

I know how you feel brother. I don’t know how I’m gonna get out from under this.

EvalCrux · 2026-07-28T01:44:43+00:00

Stop following the fake family court orders. Unload your cash. Go. At least sit under a tree a bit.

Also - peace is priceless.

familymanlikesfamily · 2026-07-27T23:29:52+00:00

These rights make no sense. For sure a system designed to break families.

But be kind to yourself. Whenever im down I pray and know things can change very easily. Just show up, it will be okay

Losing money for peace is worth it. And who knows how bad it could have been if you stayed with her. Dont dwell.

throwaway_coy4wttf79 · 2026-07-27T22:47:52+00:00

I lost $800k in my divorce, on a net worth of $1M.

Ah well. I was happier when I was poorer, anyway. Less decisions. Can I afford it --> Nope! And I didn't realize how nice it was to not have someone bitching and leeching off me everyday.

At least I learned my lesson -- never getting married again.

painfulletdown · 2026-07-27T21:48:23+00:00

Dude, one of my best friends has been divorced twice, is in debt, and hardly has any money. He could be depressed every day, but he keeps a good attitude, laughs alot, and has fun as much as he can while being a responsible dad. My buddy has a ton of friends and really great family. The happiest times of my life were when I was poor and unmarried so maybe it'll be that way for you also. Basically the only direction you can go is up now. Have your fun and if you are interested in money, then make some bank.

ProofConnect6521 · 2026-07-27T20:16:39+00:00

There are two parts to judgements. The judgement and enforcing the judgement. They have to enforce those judgements if you are as broke as you say then look at bankruptcy or just don’t pay until it builds and then bankrupt. They can’t force you to pay what you don’t have. Bankruptcy is a tool that if you go too far negative you reset to zero

FUMoney · 2026-07-27T20:12:43+00:00

Flee the country.

Title	I just need some support - can’t keep doing this
Author	Least_Attorney9006
Upvotes	20
Comments	27
Date	July 27, 2026 7:22 PM UTC (4 days ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1v8ad46/i_just_need_some_support_cant_keep_doing_this/
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