The notion that attractive women only go for 'chads' in their 20's and settle for ambitious 'beta's' when they hit the wall is a lie. It puts the blame of bad male behavior on women and also doubles as a narrative where single women are punished for not choosing LVM (the narrators) in the 1st place.

It also implies that all N/LVM are 'chads' and all HVM are 'beta's', which is most definitely not true.

When I was 18 - 23, I had a relationship with a very HVM. He showed me how an equal, save and awesome relationship looked like. I have always been someone who doesn't really care about looks. He was not very handsome at all (understatement), but it didn't matter to me, because he gave me everything I needed in a relationship. He was 100% the 'ambitious beta'. He was the kind of guy RP guys think we only 'settle for' in our 30s. We broke up amicably because we had very different life goals (such as children), but he set the standard for me regarding what a HV relationship should look like for me.

Because of my positive experience with my boyfriend, I never took looks into consideration when I was dating afterwards. I just wanted an ambitious, marriage minded, respectful partner. This led me to various long term relationships with LVM in HVM packages. When I called my little brother that I was leaving my cheating fiance he literally told me: 'Thank heavens, about time. Me and my friends could never phantom what a girl like you would even do with that uggo. Have you seen his face?'.

I was raised with traditional gender roles and was a huge people pleaser. On top of that I am often described as a very beautiful woman. Practically a Red Pillers wet dream. Never did any of this save me from being treated badly, cheated on or having my heart broken. I've done - everything - by their playbook and it still didn't do me any good.

I believe a lot of women on this forum are successful, kind and generous who dated down when it came to looks, careers, emotional maturity and morals. We're just fed up with this and decided we should actually enforce the standards that we want. There's nothing wrong with that.

I was already changing my life around and changing my ways when I found FDS, but it's save to say FDS is a necessary daily reminder for women who are leveling up. We are the only internet forum where the advice we give each other aims to benefit and protect our sisters.

Even if we do everything 'by their book', it won't do us any good. Might as well do good by ourselves!