Quick back story.
28, married for almost 1 year, together for almost 11. Made a victim puke on askMRP about 2 months ago about my wife having an emotional affair with a co-worker. Was in a really bad mind frame, and was acting pathetic.
I've been lifting 4-5 times a week, eating considerably better (starting Slow Carb Diet), and from my lifting addressing my style by throwing out all the clothes that don't fit me anymore and buying new items. I'm holding at Dread Level 4 until i reach my first lifting/body goal to move on. By no means RP yet.
Since then my wife realized she wanted to give our relationship a try for 2-3 months and see where we ended up. She has totally cut the co-worker out of her life and stopped partying so much to spend time at home and with me. She has defiantly noticed the results so far from me being in the gym and eating better. Also just having an overall better mindset and not being so whipped.
Recently it was my b-day and we had some dinner and drinks. I thought it went well, seemed natural between us and i was flirting a lot. Was feeling really confident with new, better fitting clothes and she made mention a few times. Got some good feedback from her as well from the flirting with comments and smiles. Even said she wanted to take a trip soon just the two of us. I said lets just pick a place in 2 days and go.
So i come home the night after that to find her crying and she wants to talk. She gives me the "its not you, its me" story and says I'm everything she wants but she just isn't attracted to me anymore. I said the only thing to do from here would be to separate for a while. I get the feeling i have been "Mr. Nice Guy" for too long.
I know this is going to be very oneitis-y but i really like this girl and would like to make it work. But on the other hand I'm not going to be in a relationship without true attraction.
Just wanting some advice on where to go from here. Going to add NMMNG to my reading list and continue my lifting and journey down the sidebar.