“Hey. ____if it isn’t obvious I do like you. But me having to always question if you are interested in me is a problem. I shouldn’t have to ask you to show affection or even talk to me. When you are truly interested in a person you do that willingly and without question. You give affection and attention freely. And you don’t. I’m sorry but the way you are acting isn’t right and isn’t how you start a relationship. You have to be open with one another from the beginning and you aren’t. So I need sometime to think about us and if I’m even willing to try to make us work. So I’m sorry but I’m not coming tonight and I’m going to need sometime to think about pursuing this anymore. I hope you can understand.”
How do I proceed? I’ve been maintaining TRP mindset throughout.... have I been a little too douchey sticking to TRP mentality? I definitely have put myself before her.
I haven’t known how to transition from treating her like a plate to a potential LTR but I have genuine interest in dating her some day. Have not shown it because I’ve been so set on sticking to TRP mentality regardless of emotions.
She has been raised that a guy should be a gentleman etc and I feel her parents may have pressured her to make that decision.
Any pointers welcome... keep in mind that I do have interest in her but lmk thoughts.
Update 1:
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Update 2
I spoke to her on the phone. I feel as though I wouldn’t come off as beta by telling her I do have genuine interest but I have high standards and don’t just give my attention to anyone... and if she earns my interest she should be glad because it won’t be easy for any other girl to earn it. (Light beta) She went on to say that she has no interest in talking to any other guys and she has dropped them all since she starting hanging with me. (Beta orbiters that Snapchat her..nothing more) Told her I’d take her out on a date Friday and she agreed to come as well as stay the night. Keep in mind I’m only her 2nd N count and first was an LTR so I feel as though she is automatically going to be attached by default, so this tactic may be too beta in some scenarios...might be better to let her “boomerang” to you
**Lesson learned here**
TRP is generally anti LTR... for those that are into LTRs:
Read the TRP guidelines and understand it to where you can mold it to your situation but do NOT be 100% alpha all the time. This works great when spinning plates or gaming chicks and setting yourself apart from the average joe. But when it comes to girls you see as potential LTRs...too much alpha leaves no comfort and that causes them to be unsure if you are talking to them only. I say come in 100% alpha when meeting a chick and as she “separates” her from other you gradually give interest but keep it 2:3. Just enough beta leaves them with comfort knowing you are interested/monogamous to them. For some cases this is different, but to any “quality” chick you want to date I say they will want to be monogamous and have comfort knowing you are as well. You want just enough alpha for her to know you have other options but lightly beta enough to know you are picking her over them...
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