I’m 51M and my wife is 50F, we have been married for 20 years. For a decade I was in a dead bedroom situation and turned that around via TRP. To keep track of how my wife sees me consciously and subconsciously, there are a number of things that I track in a spreadsheet.
- When we have sex, what time and who initiated
- What point in her menstruation cycle she is in.
- If I initiated did I need much game/for play, or was is “get your ass over here and service me”
- Did I have any behavioral abnormalities? Was I a little bitch, did I fail a shit test/comfort test, was I on my mark? Was I getting shit done?
- Techniques and language used while fucking.. what worked at what stage in her cycle.
I map this out with her cycle using the premise outlined in TRM: Preventative Maintenance. Menstruation through ovulation being the “bad boy” phase, post ovulation to just prior to menstruation being the comfort/sensitivity phase. So far that really seems to work for me.
I use the above to see if I have my shit together, in her eyes. I was wondering what data do other people track?