Girlfriend wants to go clubbing wearing suggestive clothes

HaroldTFinch · 2019-07-04T05:00:02+00:00

Answer her saying I liked having a girlfriend, but some things don't work for me. It's not something I envision. Thanks for telling me. It was nice.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-07-04T06:25:24+00:00

Girls worthy of LTR don't do that.

You don't try and change peoples behavior. You shouldn't have to "set boundaries" for obviously poor behavior.

As always, observe and act accordingly.

MasterShake777 · 2019-07-04T05:11:14+00:00

If you don't tolerate it then tell her. If she does it anyway then walk away. You could possibly plate her down the line but really be ready to leave her

PolesWithGoals · 2019-07-04T06:40:28+00:00

Break it off if she goes forward with it. Not cool

CaptainKidd96 · 2019-07-04T05:41:57+00:00

Dude, if she's going to the club without you while wearing that, it's pretty much over. Sure you can still continue the relationship but it's pretty clear that she's looking for something better.

Judging by the tone of this post, you aren't really red pill aware, otherwise I don't understand why you would even be asking this question.

Your gf is basically looking to get fucked by another, more attractive guy.

aqua_puss · 2019-07-04T11:21:13+00:00

there's a post on the main TRP sub about letting your woman misbehave . i can't seem to put the link here .

you can search : Letting women misbehave .

If a woman wants a relationship with you, she’ll act like it. Women know how to be good girlfriends. Women know that good girlfriends don’t get dinner with their ex-boyfriends, stay late after work drinking one-on-one with a male coworker, or entertain probes for availability from a dozen different guys in their phone while they sit on your couch. If a woman is doing this, this isn’t due to your failure to set ground rules and enforce boundaries. This isn’t due to her “disrespecting” you. This is happening simply because she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend, so she’s not acting in a way to try to win you over. She’s content with where things are now, whether that’s casual sex, friendship, or something else. If she wanted more, she’d act differently.

It’s okay if a woman doesn’t want to be your girlfriend. And it’s okay if she’s not girlfriend material. A man doesn’t have to judge her for that or get angry about it. He can just enjoy the sex. Enjoy the companionship. Even enjoy the friendship if he wants.

Cazken · 2019-07-04T04:58:26+00:00

Have u fucked your girlfriend yet?

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T09:18:42+00:00

almost half a year

Dude you're 6 4 months in, just hard next her. This isn't a serious relationship. You might think it is, but it's just not.

If she doesn't like this, just respond with something like what /u/HaroldTFinch said.

Then to clarify the reasoning, /u/aldomendez was spot on also.

UrShadowsReflection · 2019-07-04T09:44:46+00:00

Lol, a bra?

Alright, two things.

-For one, she's already outing herself as being undeserving of a relationship by even considering wearing something like that out. As your woman, she reps you whenever she steps into the public eye, and with that outfit she's advertising herself as "Single, and desperate for attention" She CLEARLY still hungers for the attention of other men, she's not trying to "impress" anyone.. but she damn sure is craving that Male attention.

-And for future reference.. this is a form of a shit test. Women always pay attention to how you react to them wearing suggestive clothing. You dont want her walking outside in booty shorts? She's going to assume you're insecure. If you try to hide her in any way from other men, she's going to chalk that up as you being insecure.

That's just how women operate. They want a man that feels superior to other men, not the other way around.

When your next girlfriend pulls something like this (hopefully not as severe) do your best to not give a fuck.

The golden mindset to have is to believe no man has what it takes to take your girl away from you. NEVER bring it to a women's attention that you are worried about other men.

BUT if you just cant trust your woman to behave around other men, you should probably get a new one.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-07-04T08:48:34+00:00

All women are the type to cheat, never actually believe anything else or you are cheating yourself.

ogkushinjapan · 2019-07-04T06:44:22+00:00

This is either a shit test, or she’s a whore, or both. If she does this, she will cheat or might as well have. If you let your girlfriend go to a club at all without you, it’s not a good idea to take her seriously.

What is her body count?

Emerald__Faith · 2019-07-04T09:14:03+00:00

Look OP, This community teaches some principles such as

Let her actions speak, not her words
Never take what a woman says as valid logic

We teach this because, well she already showed you

I'm not trying to impress anyone

Then goes out wearing sexual clothing to a sex based business location ( club )

You've dated 6 months which means nothing to women, you basically dont even matter based on her actions

She already broke up with you

chazthundergut · 2019-07-04T09:27:09+00:00

Why do they do this? They live for this shit. And you just keep fucking up and giving her more and more attention.

Either set a boundary and enforce it or dont. Stop feeding into her drama

TheNotoriousKing · 2019-07-04T07:37:52+00:00

She’s clearly trying to signal her SMV in an effort to get a better male to satisfy her hypergamy, I would just tell her “no girlfriend of mine does something like that” and if she still does it then leave her.

Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee · 2019-07-04T09:08:32+00:00

Letting your girl friend at age 19 go clubbing without you. Bad move.

Letting her wear that. Bad move.

Not being completely direct with her about it. Bad move

You should have said. "You are not going out dressed like that if you wan't to be in a relationship with me".

if she does not take you seriously. She never will.

What you do then is up to you. But the answer is simple.

If you want this relationship to last lay down the foundations.

I don't know how many men have to make the mistake of being too lenient with their partners before everyone will catch on.

mrp_awakening · 2019-07-04T10:57:47+00:00

I read it as a shit test. You failed because you gave a shit. If it wasn't a test and she were just a hoe, she wouldnt have bothered telling you. She'd go and cheat. She told you because she wanted to see if you'd rush in all "no no no" and you did. Good job, you mate guarded and failed.

You should have AA'd. Told her to wear a skimpier bra, shorter shorts, etc. I'd also mention casually a bit later (so it doesnt appear retaliatory or reactive) that you and (single friends name) are going to either a strip club or a bar/club known for its reputation as a pickup scene. The idea is to get her hamster spinning about you and she won't be looking for cock where shes at.

All_fixed_again · 2019-07-04T08:19:59+00:00

Ask yourself this...if she is not selling anythibg then why is she advertising?

Dont listen to her words, watch her actions. Dressed like that, she is looking to attract a certain type of attention. If that attention arrives with a much higher SMV than yours...you are out the picture.

If that's what she wants then good for her, let her, you dont own her, but its probably not LTR material.

Downgrade to plate, ensure you do not invest in her emotionally

HaroldTFinch · 2019-07-04T05:06:24+00:00

I don't understand why you just don't do your thing. If she's doing her thing, it's her choice. You make your choice based on what your given. Because she's likely shopping herself around anyway. It's over. Understand that. Not today but soon as your alternate is established.

Scott555 · 2019-07-04T10:49:12+00:00

I don't have any advice, just coming here to note she's not wearing that to attract other men, _directly_. She's doing it to establish her status among the friends she's going to the club with, and the other females at the club.

The argument can be made that the entire clubwear hierarchy is ultimately to attract mates to begin with, but that's a secondary downstream effect. Every stitch of clothing has been selected because it accentuates (or downplays) something relative to the other girls she's planning on being seen with.

nicyhasreddit · 2019-07-04T09:31:23+00:00

I know the answer already. I've seen this too many times here, Relayshensheeps and university confession pages. even if you go to bluepilled R Reelayshensheeps you will hear the same thing.

teveza11 · 2019-07-04T12:51:05+00:00

I had a girl who did the same thing.

I thought I was a modern, non-jealous kind of a guy and that it was just a girl's night out.

To make a long story short, I caught her cheating on me.

The same night, I ended up talking to her friend about it and asked her to tell me the truth, whether or not this girl would cheat on me when they went clubbing, her friend told me she did. I did end up going to a party with her friend that night, but that is a little off topic.

Back to your question, she likes the attention the guys are giving her. It doesn't matter what clothes she is wearing, guys are going to give her attention when she goes clubbing. Guys are going to buy her drinks, give her flowers, tell her how hot she is, her and her friends are going to be basking in male attention while you sit at home.

My current girlfriend only goes clubbing with me. If she went clubbing with her friends, to be honest, I would start calling side girls and start looking for someone else for an LTR.

You're a sucker if you have a girlfriend and she goes clubbing without you.

If you tell her not to go clubbing, if she's not worth an LTR, she'll accuse you of being jealous, not trusting her, and all kinds of other stuff. If she IS worthy of an LTR, she will listen to you.

If she DOES go clubbing, don't break up with her or get angry, just play it off like you don't care, but start looking for another girl to replace her on the side.

SolidLiquidGasPlasma · 2019-07-04T15:52:25+00:00

You actually took a pic of your girlfriends clothes to send to a bunch of guys asking if it was okay if she wears them. That’s some cuck shit. If she wants to be hot let her be hot

HurricaneHugues · 2019-07-04T08:23:43+00:00

You just failed a shit test. Did it feel good? Next time she says she wants to go to the club without you be blase and pretend your cool with it and start running dread. Prepare for a branch swing.... The club isnt a "hangout spot". If she liked booze and dancing with her girls a house party would be good or if they insisted club she would atleast take you to the club. Only reason to go to the club alone is too get hit on and scope out "drunken mistakes"...smh

HotHead121 · 2019-07-04T09:15:40+00:00

Come on man we all know thats your moms bra

moderateVegan_AMA · 2019-07-04T09:29:35+00:00

We've all been there and wasted time with these hoes - and I wish I had someone tell me not to waste my time but I didn't. Considering you have like 20 people here telling you to get rid of her, if you don't take that advice in 5 years time you'll be kicking yourself.

Naebany · 2019-07-04T10:26:56+00:00

Demote her to plate.

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T11:21:16+00:00

Plate wants to go clubbing wearing suggestive clothes

Sure! Why not?

If ur "girlfriend" doesn't respect u or herself and goes to clubs for male attention, she is nothing more than a plate.

razenha · 2019-07-04T12:26:31+00:00

How many times I've heard this "she is not the type that cheats"...

HurricaneHugues · 2019-07-04T13:43:42+00:00

Why does your gf want to go clubbing? Especially considering she already has a boyfriend? And she wants to go half naked?

Lol let her go. Just tell her okay she can go. You're not her dad, and it's not your job too instill good morals and values in grown women. Let her go. The relationship is over. Just delete her and her closest friends off your social media, delete her number and text thread and gjost her for life.

She very well knows that what she's doing isn't right. It's not a normal thing for a girl that's in a relationship to go to a night time environment that is fueled by alcohol and sex. What is she gonna do there aside from attract other dudes, grind on their dicks, and quite possible blow or fuck them? She knows what she's doing. She's just trying to convince you that it's normal. Remember that in a relationship your partner is not gonna be looking out for your interests. She existed before she met you, and she will exist after she leaves you. You're only occupying a small period in her life and she knows it. Her well being and her interests are the only things that matter to her.

"She’s not the type to cheat"

Shut the fuck up man. But she wants to go half naked to the club to go dance on other guy's dicks. You're so naive. What makes you think she hasn't cheated on you already.

sebastianconcept · 2019-07-04T16:02:03+00:00

When girls club their game is playing with each other to see who gets the most male attention of all. Is an attention-whore contest. Which can of course escalate if an alpha gets them aroused enough. If that happens the “they don’t know how that happened, was all so fast”

boy_named_su · 2019-07-04T17:04:59+00:00

Good girls with boyfriends don't go clubbing or even want to go clubbing. If they wanna dance they can have a dance party with their girlfriends in the living room. Clubbing only let's her show off her wares to men

"I don't date club girls"

If she goes, she's gone

daddydickie · 2019-07-04T23:28:11+00:00

Before you drop her, can you post a pic of her outfit with her in it?

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T11:31:02+00:00

Shes got years of cock ahead of her

You should break it off now

Shes going to want to experiment sexually, and seek male validation through clubbing

AngelusAeternam · 2019-07-04T10:18:25+00:00

Man, she does not see you as her alpha. There's nothing you can do about it. If a girl is into you, she will wear less suggestive clothing just to let other guys know not to approach.

You acting butthurt won't do shit. Live and learn. Improve yourself and find a girl that will respect you. You are worth more than that.

Stupyyy · 2019-07-04T10:56:55+00:00

Stop with this beta behavior.

furcryingoutloud · 2019-07-04T11:06:13+00:00

Why on earth are you even bothering? Why on earth are you "talking"? Basically, whatever words you are using, what she is hearing is that you are definitely feeling threatened by her choice of dress. You are acting like a pussy. And therefore, you will be treated like one.

First of all, the fact that she is even interested in going out with her friends is proof enough that you already failed. The second you have to prohibit anyone from doing anything, you failed.

iwillruletheworldkjh · 2019-07-04T12:08:45+00:00

For the next relationship put boundaries at the time of committing exclusivity. No clubbing without each other. If she isn't happy about that (she should be jealous of you too) good luck having an LTR with her, I would search another girl for a relationship. Your mental state of worriness pushes her away and makes you feel shit. In a LTR she should add value to your life, not suck energy away as a powerplay.

Irtotallynotrobot · 2019-07-04T12:09:51+00:00

I would talk about what "other people" are going to think of that. "Other people are going to think you're a slut". Yes you have to be a dick but shes acting like a unruly child.

Ghrev_233 · 2019-07-04T12:39:51+00:00

she's not the type to cheat yet she's wanting to go clubbing in a bra?

willso86 · 2019-07-04T13:12:16+00:00

If she wants to go out looking like a prostitute then just let her, then of course get rid of her

muddynips · 2019-07-04T13:56:25+00:00

Short version: her friends are whores and she doesn’t want to be the lame one of the group. At that age a pack of 19yo girls WILL have more say over her behavior than you. It’s your dick in a sea of dicks up against a group of women who are narrowly focused on fine-tuning their social manipulation skills. You can’t compete with that.

Don’t chase a blossoming whore. Accept it, watch it, and learn from it. As she inevitably begins detaching and rationalizing; don’t lament her change, internalize it. This is how trp is truly learned.

chaplin32 · 2019-07-04T14:02:21+00:00

Why are you seeking information from trp if your in a LTR? This Is certainly the wrong place.

brabg · 2019-07-04T14:36:38+00:00

She’s not the type to cheat

Women don't ask permission to go tot he bathroom, or to irrigate their garden pots.

They ask permission, when they know there is something bad they can do, and a real reason for the man to don't want it.

If there is a reason to say no, they should't even ask for permission.

SupremeBBC · 2019-07-04T14:39:28+00:00

Why do so many women preface statements with "literally" as though that isn't the default for statements. Usually it's white women that do this but it's quite the phenomenon.

pachmelstop · 2019-07-04T15:05:43+00:00

It's simple - she's going out there to confirm her SMV. Just to be sure she's still attracting the male attention. In other words, to calm down her hypergamous drive. Whilst she's out clubbing, you should go to the gym and lift bro, it will help you much more than getting upset about a disposable relationship.

SolidLiquidGasPlasma · 2019-07-04T15:50:03+00:00

Who gives a fuck

Oakester · 2019-07-04T16:55:49+00:00

Hard pass forget her and move on

Oakester · 2019-07-04T16:55:54+00:00

Hard pass forget her and move on

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T18:27:34+00:00

Look at what they do, not what they say. If she really respected and was into you would she even go clubbing in the first place let alone wearing scatty clothing, think about it bro.

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T19:49:22+00:00

good luck trying to wrangle a 19 year old thot when she's at her peak sexual market value. you know who else is a hot 19 year old thot? Belle Delphine. Look what that thot is doing.

Scriptopeia · 2019-07-04T22:46:55+00:00

Jesus, where can I find your GF? I wanna see that bra bro. That must be one of the sluttiest outfits to wear.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-07-04T22:50:45+00:00

"No girlfriend of mine goes clubbing. However, you're an adult and can do whatever you like."

She goes- you dump her. She stays- you can keep her if you like but remember just the desire of hers to go to a club is not good(you may want to dump her anyway).

Do NOT act insecure or mateguard but do set your boundaries and act on them if she crosses the line.

SpinPlates · 2019-07-05T00:11:49+00:00

She’s not the type to cheat

You have much to learn. She's wearing that for attention. She's testing the waters to replace you.

Do you HONESTLY think a 6 month fling with you would stop her from getting pulled into a VIP booth with bottle service and going home with a professional athlete? Wake up man.

__TheDon__ · 2019-07-05T00:31:30+00:00

Tell her not to wear it. If she does end up wearing it after you said no, break up with her

[deleted] · 2019-07-05T11:47:23+00:00

Lingerie as clothes is the new hit the wall attire

BluBlac59 · 2019-07-08T07:19:58+00:00

Let me see you wear it. Wow, you look great go ahead and have a good time. Don't ever call her again. If you have to argue with her to act like she has a boyfriend you've already lost. She is looking for a new boyfriend if she wants to go out dressed in that. While she's out get all of your stuff out of her apartment and leave her key in plain sight. If her stuff is in your apartment pack it and leave it in a storage unit give her the key. ALL women cheat it only requires three things. 1. The right guy 2. The right time 3. The right place.

addwater · 2019-07-30T15:56:00+00:00

Yeah not going to lie this isn't something I'd have any girl of mine wearing to a concert. Have fun though

ComplexProjection · 2019-07-04T06:22:31+00:00

Op, don’t listen to those guys. They are in anger phase and can only answer « bad ltr, breakup breakup ».

Your GF is dressing lîke that to get validation and feel desired by other males. She wants/needs it as much as you want to bang other chicks.

You are committed and exclusive to her (I guess), meaning you evaluate your relationship with her as worthing more than this need. It is time to see if she does the same.

You told her not to dress like that, you have set a boundary. If she listens to it, I would stay with her. If she does not, you will have to take action, like quitting this relationship.

Grapejuice6969 · 2019-07-04T05:04:20+00:00

i KNOWINGLY kissed two trannies years ago. I wouldnt feel confident telling my girl not to or being the man. But u do u bro u need to BECOME THE MAN. a masculine assertive man. I cant cuz i kissed two mentaily ill men. But u can

lululenox · 2019-07-04T11:03:54+00:00

I don't understand why you guys get so insecure when your girls be acting like this. Insecurity and neediness is a huge turnoff and girls can smell insecurities like shark smelling blood in the water. Just stop being a little bitch and let your girl do what she wants. You locked her down cause she's a hoe in the first place right? Now that you locked her down don't be stopping her from being a hoe, that's the whole reason you like her in the first place.

As the great Patrice O'Neal once said "when you met your girl she was a hoe right? Big bootie and this and that. You gotta let her do that, don't start tryna fat her up and make her foul. Cause that's why you like her. I don't want no woman that no other guy's tryna fuck. I don't want a woman that I can send to the store at 2 in the morning cause nobody tryna rape her. Like I go 'cut thru the alleyway bitch, cause I talked to those guys they don't want nothing to do with you'"

Be proud that your girl is fuckable. And the best thing you can do is to just ignore the fuck outta her when she pulls shit like this to try and make you jealous. Cause that'll get her hamster going when you just say "ok have fun" and not text or call her the whole night. You know she'll be checking her phone the whole time wondering why you haven't checked in, better yet, don't stay at home like a bum, go out and have a guys night out and get shitfaced. You know there'll be a shit ton of beta's buying your girl drinks and she'll be getting drunk but when they ask her she'll say she has a boyfriend and run away, bitches love doing that shit and you know it. They get the validation and drinks and fucking leave the betas behind. Now you'll both get home drunk, you'll have had a great time, and your girl would be drunk and horny off some other guys' bar tab (and this is why you don't buy girls drinks, most of the time you're just being a cuck, getting a girl horny and drunk for another man she has at home) and you two would have great drunk sex. It's a win win for everyone. So stop being an insecure bitch, ignore her and have your own fun, she'll come crawling back for your attention and if she doesn't, worst thing happens you know she ain't loyal and you leave her ass and find a better girl.

crudecunt · 2019-07-04T08:07:00+00:00

they’re bralettes or some shit. tell her to wear a jacket so she doesn’t get cold.

it’s her body, don’t forget that you don’t own her

theboldmind · 2019-07-04T13:45:35+00:00

Okay guys I’m kinda confused. Isn’t OP being insecure? Doesn’t trp suggest we should not care about all these things? Look we all know women love seeking attention. If soy boys can validate them when we are busy, what’s the big deal?

Isn’t it only a red flag 🚩 if she DOES something outside the boundaries of the relationship.

SICFJC · 2019-07-04T06:59:27+00:00

Isn’t telling her no being beta and mateguarding?

Title	Girlfriend wants to go clubbing wearing suggestive clothes
Author	anndawaywethrow
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Date	July 4, 2019 4:46 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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"She’s not the type to cheat"