Q4M: Are any of the users here 8/10 or higher (very attractive) ? If so, what is your sex life like?

Whisper · 2019-04-05T23:31:52+00:00

If you are a physically attractive woman, men want to give you things and do stuff for you.

If you are a physically attractive man, women want you to do things for them, and give them stuff.

Being good-looking got me a lot of attention, and a lot of temper tantrums out of the blue, but didn't help the conversion rate all that much until I learned game.

beachredwhine · 2019-04-05T23:51:58+00:00

Average girls try to buy you things. All the time. Especially energy drinks or sometimes lunch. You get asked out often, sometimes girls get obsessed about you. Sometimes they stalk you. Sometimes they beg you to go out with them. Or they ask over and over why won't you go out with me? What's wrong with me?

Sometimes they get bizarrely obsessed and start to obsess about plastic surgery and they even tell you about it. Like they decide some weird thing is what's wrong with them and start saving money to get plastic surgery for their nose or their rosatia. Bizarre. You just let them do it.

Sometimes ugly fat girls who are pretending to be your friend will buy you even more expensive things but they'll word it differently. Like "hey friend I have an extra ticket to comic con would you like to go?" well yeah that sounds sweet. Then you'll go with her and hit on the hot girls, and she'll freak out and cry and tell all your other friends to tell you what a piece of shit you are for "leading her on".

Sometimes a fat girl you've turned down ten times will realize it's because she's fat and get an eating disorder. At which point all your friends again blame you and tell you "you need to do something about this". So then you start going out with her cause now she's skinny and they all tell you that you're a piece of shit. Apparently you are supposed to be magic man.

Everyone likes to chat with you. People respect you for no reason. Yet no one gives the slightest fuck about you or who you really are. No one, no girl, actually wants to get to know you. They just want to be seen in public with you.

In high school rando girls you barely know ask if you want to see the new thong their mom let them get and show you their ass. They touch you and invade your space like your boundaries don't even matter. You realize pretty quick that no one actually even knows who you are, much less cares.

When you're older the girls you've known forever who lied to you and pretended to be your friend will, at a time of your own weakness and pain, try to get in your pants. Even if they are married. And in ridiculous ways such at literally offering to come over and blow you after work every day to "help" you.

Life is pretty much the same. You got to work. Shit sucks a lot. Sometimes it's pretty great. Got bills to pay. Kids are awesome though I recommend them.

Oh yeah when you first have kids girls will say retard shit when you show them a picture. "oh you're such a good father" when you are a terrible father. Lots of lies people lie straight to your face rather than tell you what a piece of shit you are.

Oh girls on ppd will hit on you, send you pics, chat you up, but I mean sorry girls I date hot girls.

One day if you're lucky you'll meet a girl online who isn't obsessed with how you look. Who actually cares to hear about your life. So you go bang her for awhile and a week later she'll just show up at your house with one small bag and say please don't leave me homeless. So you can marry that girl. But you know if she starts acting like a bitch then cheat.

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-04-05T23:06:22+00:00

Once when I broke up with my ex she screamed "Youre only an 8 anyway!" I always considered myself a 7 but on my scale 10 doesnt exist so in a way that is an 8🤔

I have a girlfriend, sometimes I get hit on I dont pay attention to IOIs because I have a girlfriend. Sex is great, when I was single I was sleeping with about 3 different chicks on and off here or there. I have never gone more than a few months without sex since I started having sex regularly.

I was a bit of a late bloomer though didnt even actually fuck until I was 18. I was doing other sexy stuff younger.

Why am I even telling yall this much... GIDDY UP.

The looks of girls I have been with like 50% 6s 30% 7s 15% 8s and the rare 9 on the incredible 1-9 scale.

WhiteningMcClean · 2019-04-05T23:07:04+00:00

Probably an 8 currently assuming I'm in proper shape, tan etc. I've talked about it before.

I don't have much of a social life because my personality is problematic . Most of the sex I have is through dating apps, but I hate using them because I still have to compete with 9's and 10's and know I can meet better women IRL. When I do go out I get a range of reactions. I'm pretty and muscular but not horribly tall, which is a big thing where I live, so I see everything from googoo eyes to complete indifference.

Most of the hookups I've had that weren't from apps were initiated by the girl. Not that I don't ever pursue; I'm just not good at winning someone over if they aren't already into me.

So in short, the attention is nice, but I've left a lot of opportunities on the table.

ChadThundagaCock · 2019-04-06T02:59:55+00:00

Women open me at bars sometimes. Some of them are on the hook, some aren't.

I don't sleep with taken women because I'm not a homewrecker.

HossMcDank · 2019-04-06T06:01:39+00:00

I have a hard time believing any of them are here on an obscure gender war subreddit on a Friday night.

Redslif · 2019-04-06T10:35:14+00:00

I'm a 10. I'm extremely attractive and i can say for sure that i'm top 2% lookswise. I don''t take any pride in it or boast about it since i just inherited my looks from my Dad who's extremely handsome. Since most posters will think that i'm lying, i'd like to share a few things in my past.

The female gaze - Right from my highschool to my university days to my workplace, i've always had girls staring at me. Getting teased by my guy friends about that girl who was staring at me like she wanted to devour me was an extremely common occurrence. I was voted the hottest guy in an informal vote in my freshman year in college. I got all but two of the votes from 20+ girls. 2 voted for the guys they were seeing.
My guy friends compliment me a lot indirectly. I would be looking at a cute girl and the guy behind me would ask me to please stop looking at her. When asked why, he'd say something like, "She's a 7 at best, if she notices you looking at her, she'll think she's a 10 and it'll make life difficult for guys like us". Incidents like these are very common.
At my cousin's wedding, my aunt's friends who were in their late 40's mostly, were openly flirting with me. The flirting was loaded with sexual hints. I wasn't reciprocating obviously since i was more interested in women my age and these women were older than my mother. My aunt informed me after the wedding that her friends thought that i looked like a male model. My aunt to this day keeps telling me that some of her friends were asking about me.
This is a bit weird i guess. My grandmother told me a couple of years ago that my aunt told her that if i wasn't blood related, she would have told her daughter i.e my cousin to ask me out on a date because i was way too good-looking.
My Dad's friends keep hinting at me to ask their daughters out on a date. "My daughter's an angel. She's smart, blah blah blah and the guy who ends up with her would be very lucky". Statements like these without saying it to my face that he'd want me to date his daughter are becoming more common.

Having said all that, it's extremely rare for a woman to directly come up to me and express interest. It has probably happened a few dozen times with rebellious chicks. Usually, women just make it so obvious right infront of my face with IOI's that they want me to approach them. And once i approach them, it's usually extremely easy to close the deal.

Anyone who says "Looks don't matter" is lying or doesn't want to accept reality. I myself used to believe that but it's absolutely false. The number of hoops my friends have to jump through to get laid and the minimal effort i have to put in has taught me the reality about that statement.

There are numerous drawbacks of being extremely good-looking though. That's a whole different subject.

Ercole_ · 2019-04-05T22:51:11+00:00

Have you ever seen a guy get hit on/flirted with/checked out by the majority of women? I've seen a guy get approached by a girl trying to give him her phone number, literally every day, but a girl, not every girl. And it was at a restaurant he was waiting tables at all day so it was probably like 1 in 500 girls. That's 0.2%.

decoy88 · 2019-04-05T23:04:19+00:00

When I’m in my best shape I can reach that point. It’s great. Tinder was fairly decent at getting matches (Mostly average women).

It also helped having my own place on top of it. Which is really hard to do in London.

I rarely noticed but have been told I got looks. A drunk fat girl might grab me in clubs.

I was never approached but that could be me being black.

I didn’t waste much time with women I wasn’t sure about being DTF. I just moved on to warmer girls.

EDIT: Escalating to sex has always been simple even before I got in shape. I worked on the principle that I know there had to be a decent amount of attraction to get as far as a date, so felt okay about winging it. And if I was too forward, likely be forgiven for it because it still shows that you’re into them. (Whereas playing too safe is more likely to make women worry you’re not interested)

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-04-05T23:40:38+00:00

I mean, even if people consider me attractive (which anecdotally, I've heard a decent amount of people mention it over time), I am incredibly unapproachable and prefer being in my own bubble. I've also been in an LTR since my 2nd year of college though, and generally have no desire for casual sex. I also dislike clubs and crowded venues (except rap shows, of all things, but that's because I used to organize them during college), and if I go to a bar, it's because I want to be in my bubble, but drink something I do not have at home. Scottish pubs are beautiful places <3.

TL;DR: people suck, I like scotch and my cat.

I think I am less attractive than other people do, overall.

Basically, I like being invisible. It's super easy not to be noticed behind sunglasses and earbuds, and a dash of being completely oblivious to social cues. My indifference in general would shock and appall most people.

Myshkinia · 2019-04-06T00:11:37+00:00

I definitely was before baby, and am still pretty hot after baby, although I have like 5 extra lbs on me (I was like 100 give or take a lb and 5’4” before with very perky, natural, D cup breasts), tiny waist, long red hair, cute freckles (I’ve always been told, only on my face), symmetrical features, big blue eyes, extremely long eye lashes, delicate bone structure, high cheek bones, full lips, hourglass figure, dressed well. All of that is still more or less true and I only have a couple of fine lines, and my breasts are a bit saggy now. No stretch marks and my tummy looks normal now. Sex life has never been good outside of honeymoon periods. I’ve always been in really long relationships that quickly fizzled out, not on my part. I’m just shy and submissive sexually, so if he stops trying, I just don’t really say anything.

Mr_Smoogs · 2019-04-06T00:18:42+00:00

I’ve been rated 8/10 by women before. You can ask sublime or lively how attractive I am.

I get IOIs a lot. Used to cater weddings and have received numbers from some girls before. Sometimes receive “hello” messages from girls I’ve lost contact with. Definitely not a very regular thing though. Attractive enough to know I had a chance with whatever girl I was crushing on in school.

I wouldn’t say trivial. It was never routine to the point of mundane if that is what you are asking.

fuckdr11 · 2019-04-06T01:28:26+00:00

what is your sex life like?

Good, I can't really complain. Things tend to come and go in waves, but averaging over time, I get a steady stream.

When you go out on the weekends, do you get IOI's from the majority of women?

I don't know about the majority, but it's hard to go to a bar/club kind of scene without at least one person displaying interest. That may be a 5 smiling/staring at me, or it may be a 7 having a conversation with me.

Is it pretty trivial to meet a woman at a bar/club and escalate it to sex that same day/week?

It's something I can do, but it's not usually the approach I take. Cold approaches aren't my thing. I prefer to use dating apps, and meet up for one-on-one dates, then escalate from there.

rovad_ · 2019-04-06T01:30:37+00:00

Going out to a bar not only will I get IOIs but generally women coming up to me and introducing themselves, often several times in one night. Sometimes even comment on my appearance if they’ve had a few drinks “he’s so cute/hot/etc”. Physically touching etc. in my office I’ve had approaches from maybe 10 or so women. Despite what some say not all men are absolute horn dogs. I’ve turned down open offers for sex (ie want to go back to my place said by the girl) multiple times to go home and do shit like play video games or hang with friends if I’m not feeling it

I wouldn’t say I’m an 8 but maybe a hard 7/7.5. Work out religiously, dress well, eat clean, and am tall. Dating apps are great. Generally I match with every girl I swipe right on and I’m pretty damn picky. That said while I rotate women pretty regularly my relationship life is pretty dismal. Most women I lose interest with after a few months, not for lack of trying I just think as a result of things like apps I’ve become too picky to a fault. Maybe meet a girl I really like once or twice a year, oneitis is still a thing but increasingly rare.

alby333 · 2019-04-06T14:09:02+00:00

I guess I was an 8 as a young man I played guitar in a reasonably successful rock band and ran 400m on the track so pretty fit. I used to get approached a fair amount especially after gigs. I was never really a lookist so if I found someone overweight attractive for example they were cool and funny I'd find they would not date me. Women I'd sleep with would very quickly start buying toiletries for me to keep at their apartments and clear a drawer for me. I dealt with a lot of possessiveness and jealousy.

I'm 42 now and recently got fit still have hair. I get a lot of ioi's now from women of all ages I don't kid myself women in their 20s will date or sleep with me but they still check me out. I don't have women approach like when I was young but I get hit on every now and then.

I'm in a relationship sex life improved greatly when I lost weight

Thotasaurus_Rex · 2019-04-06T14:10:10+00:00

According to photofeeler my average attractiveness is 94%. I currently have 240 tinder matches with 99+ likes I haven't accessed yet. Free account, 40 likes from the last week.

I'm 6'4", have worked out for the last 4 years, dress very well and have a very good career.

This is my basis for stating that I can pass for an 8/10 on a good day.

I do get IOI's when going out especially if I'm already with a girl. I'm usually the tallest person. I've had girls just wave their finger to mention me over. Generally lots of eye contact.

How is my sex life? In terms of quantity, it's terrible. I can arrange about 5+ dates a week but I just don't have the desire to meet these women. I'm also a fairly shy and introverted person which means I don't really enjoy meeting new people. I wouldn't say I'm unconfident as I can make a move when I want to but I generally don't get to that stage. I am pretty addicted to self improvement and looking as good as possible, just not necessarily for the sex.

That being said I'm usually having regular sex with someone, and in that case it's very good. I am a monogamous type of guy even if it's not a relationship. In those cases the sex is very satisfying (maybe why I don't go elsewhere?) Blowjobs, rimjobs, cum on their face, in their mouth, anal etc. Plus they usually orgasm which makes it more enjoyable for me.

Yea usually I get very nervous the first time and don't enjoy the sex until I'm more comfortable which also drives me to go for monogamy. I would like to over come these fears however and have more NSA sex.

My facial aesthetics are a 6.5-7 which holds me back but through growing a beard, muscle growth, fashion, height, skin care as I said on a good day I can push an 8.

ifeelfuckingterrible · 2019-04-06T01:27:04+00:00

When you go out on the weekends, do you get IOI's from the majority of women?

I don't know, because the ones the get my attention are the ones that actually come up and talk to me or dance with me.

Is it pretty trivial to meet a woman at a bar/club and escalate it to sex that same day/week?

I've had girls come up and start to chat me up and buy me drinks to invite me back to their place with literally zero effort on my part.

But I still mostly stick to massage parlors with hookers. Because I value my free time and I've never met a woman that I've even considered making my girlfriend.

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TheBookOfSeil · 2019-04-06T15:58:49+00:00

I’ve been explicitly rated as an 8/10 before, but this isn’t relative to all women. I get looks and hear women talking about me sometimes, saying that I’m cute or handsome, but again, not every woman or not the majority of them.

I think attractiveness is something specific to everyone, so there isn’t really going to be anyone who is objectively a certain level of attractiveness by the entire population of the opposite sex.

Edit: Oh, and my sex life is non-existent because I don’t try, I don’t work out at the moment, and I’m pretty introverted so my motivation for talking to others isn’t very high.

eyewant · 2019-04-06T17:33:42+00:00

I am probably an 8. My stories aren't ridiculous, but my defining experience is that girls hit on me, and it's obvious when they like me.

squiddy_s550gt · 2019-04-06T19:25:57+00:00

I guess i was pretty cute when i was younger. Hell, might still be for all i know.

Honestly i never learned to develop game. My first couple gfs asked me out. Or sex just kinda "happened ". Could've been my personality tho.

Got called a pretty boy by a couple angry ex flings. Got called manwhore a bunch even tho i was pretty laid back and conservative. Also got called asshole allot, but i may have earned those.

I still usually get laid on first dates. Currently have about 3 fwbs that i meet up with when I feel like it. Thinking about adding more. OLD is kinda a mixed bag.

Honestly these days I'd rather go hiking or play xbox

[deleted] · 2019-04-07T19:53:21+00:00

When women behave this way around these guys what makes you think will not cheat on you if they meet one of these guys in real life?

DaNatural_1 · 2019-04-07T21:01:09+00:00

😂 there are no 8/10s on this sub, chads and stacy's don't sit around arguing about gender all day, they have a life to live lol

Lonny_zone · 2019-04-11T10:19:58+00:00

Mediocre looking guy here with some insight.

I’ve learned a lot from the past two years living with my very attractive roommate and seeing how he cashed in with the SMP.

To my horror I’ve learned that if a girl actually wants you then she pretty much throws herself at you and makes it totally obvious. I think of all the first dates I had that went nowhere and realized that I had boldly asked out some girl and she went out just cause she wanted something to do and for me to pay for it all, or I asked a girl out I wasn’t really interested in just to see if I could, and never called again cause I was grossed out. The only dates that went somewhere were ones where she had already tossed herself upon me. A genuinely attracted girl will make multiple attempts over months and only establishing that you have a SERIOUS GF will make them slow their roll. If starting from a friend’s first relationship then the girl puts out ambiguous signals. Friend’s First only happens to attractive people if one or both of them were in other relationships when they met.

Tinder is like some constant barrage of matches for an attractive guy, they get stared at just like women do, and women act befuddled and stupid around them just like nerdy schoolboys around the head cheerleader.

Attractive men can have sex on delivery like it’s Grub Hub but they also manage to develop high standards, literally not tolerating 6s some guys orbit endlessly, and having to avoid getting one of the 6-7s attached so they can land the 8 they want who has a boyfriend and is too good to cheat.

Attractive men don’t have to go “she’s nice, I wish she’d lose twenty pounds, but this is the best I can get.” That girl is never considered unless they were really horny and the Tinder pic was old, then they just pump and dump.

People say “women don’t care about looks as much as men” when really the truth is “women care about looks just as much BUT they also have dozens of other criteria that begin to come more important the older they get.”

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