Q4Men: Would you LTR a "reformed" high count woman?

NOTSM · 2018-11-01T21:56:33+00:00

Assuming she's reasonably attractive, pleasant, and otherwise a good relationship prospect, would you consider her for a committed relationship?

I’d be down for that as would most men.

But I do want to clarify something.

RP men love to talk about CC riders that "age out" and decide they're ready for commitment

A lot of the animosity is because some of these women suddenly become prudes. I have no problem dating a former slut but she better be my slut when we’re in bed

jax006 · 2018-11-01T21:39:59+00:00

The woman you're describing is like 75% of all attractive women (7.5 and up) IME

lucky_beast · 2018-11-01T23:54:09+00:00

Sure, but only if she still wants to do all the same old hoe shit and more but only for me now. Those types of sluts deserve a national holiday, what a treasure they truly are.

A former slut who now wants to fuck like a prude for the guy she "really loves" is the lowest form of life on earth. The first time she ever hits you with the "I don't do that any more," it's over.

FairlyNaive · 2018-11-01T21:45:18+00:00

Doing it now. It's not really an issue if you dont marry or combine finances

passepar2t · 2018-11-02T00:26:26+00:00

Will she want to have frequent hot sex with me?

CainPrice · 2018-11-01T21:44:43+00:00

Sure. I did, actually.

My girlfriend is a slut-and-a-half. Classic basic girl. Spent her college years and her 20s having hook-ups and short-term relationships that never panned out. Hit her early 30s and cut back on the hooking up. It still happened, but she'd at least meet guys for actual dates and sometimes there wasn't much emotional connection but the guy was okay and it had been awhile so sex happened anyway and things went the casual route, but at least she was trying!

But she never hid her past from me or pretended to be a good girl. She dragged my ass home on the first date. And every date thereafter. Even though we weren't exclusive at the time and I was going out with other girls. And the sex was amazing. And she was super-good to me outside of the bedroom, too.

I'm closer to 40 than 30, and I have a busy as hell job and a lot of other things to keep me busy. The way I saw things, here I was getting pretty much all the sex I could handle from one woman who was really good to me. What did I need to keep having a revolving door of women from the internet for? Sex? I was getting that. Good treatment? I was getting that. The only reason I'd want other women would be the power, and frankly, I have that power whether I'm rubbing a woman's face in it or not, so why be an asshole to someone that's being really good to me?

wtknight · 2018-11-01T22:21:24+00:00

If I were single, no, probably not. Just the fact that she once had a "hoe phase" means that we likely have different personalities and attitudes when it comes to sex. I'm quite low N myself.

SerpentCypher · 2018-11-01T22:03:51+00:00

What do you mean by reformed? As in she no longer partakes in promiscuous behavior? Or reformed in the sense that she's a "former slut" like some women like to refer to themselves as? As the latter isn't possible, your N-count doesn't magically disappear now that you're commitment minded.

Either way the answer is no IF she has slept with more men than I am comfortable with. Every guy has a limit.

mwait · 2018-11-01T22:10:49+00:00

Did it once. Would not do again.

2018-11-01T22:44:19+00:00

Depends how much money she makes

throwinout · 2018-11-01T23:16:16+00:00

No, I would not.

The risk with a "reformed" slut is that I think they are actually more likely to lie and be deceitful than sluts who own up to it.

2018-11-01T23:47:30+00:00

Nah. She's just in her "monogamous phase" like she was in her "slut phase" during college and then she'll be in her "open relatinship phase" next or some flakey shit.

idklol222 · 2018-11-01T21:34:53+00:00

Can you please make a small edit to the body of your post to summon the automod?

whitetrashcarl · 2018-11-01T21:49:12+00:00

Yeah I don’t care unless she presents as whorey. Hey I’m no saint either. I want someone fun, and what do you think fun girls are even like?

Whodunnit88 · 2018-11-02T00:36:00+00:00

No because she's not giving the best of herself.

cxj · 2018-11-02T01:59:52+00:00

The problem would be her being “reformed” not her being a slut lol. I demand she still have a drive to fuck hard on demand not suddenly act like a prude.

Yeah she could cheat but so could any other bish

Here4thebeer3232 · 2018-11-01T21:38:59+00:00

Not sure what you mean by "reform" but I dont mind women with a high count. Virgins are boring. I want someone who actually knows how to fuck, not someone who I have to spend time teaching.

adool444 · 2018-11-01T23:21:02+00:00

blackedoutfast · 2018-11-02T00:50:22+00:00

no. once a hoe, always a hoe.

Assuming she's reasonably attractive, pleasant, and otherwise a good relationship prospect

that's great, but there are plenty of girls like that who aren't high n-count

2018-11-02T01:56:10+00:00

I don't care how many guys she's slept with so long as I get at least as much enthusiasm as the best of them.

YetAnotherCommenter · 2018-11-02T14:21:29+00:00

I can only speak for myself, as a gender-nontraditional bisexual dude who's somewhat polyamorous. So I'm weird.

But basically, I don't care if she slept around previously. What I want to know is the following.

Does she actually sexually desire me?
Will she attempt to make me support children that are not biologically mine?

In my situation this is primarily an hypothetical question as I have no desire to breed or date. But from my own perspective, as long as she won't try to paternity-fraud me and she actually desires me (proper "romantic love" should we define "romantic love" as "affection + lust"), I don't care if she was a 'slut' when younger.

That said, this is exclusively my answer, and it doesn't say anything about other men. In addition, I also would be very suspicious of any woman who wanted a traditional situation where I'd be a sole breadwinner and she'd be a sole homemaker. Again, my own preferences.

2018-11-03T15:21:26+00:00

Nope. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour.

anuser999 · 2018-11-01T21:53:08+00:00

What do we mean by "LTR" here? So long as she kept putting out I'd stick around to some base level, but anything more serious would be a "no". I got my own life to live - so long as she splits checks and puts out she's welcome to come along for the ride.

-radical-dreamer · 2018-11-01T21:51:50+00:00

So... slut for others but not for me? Next.

2018-11-01T21:50:29+00:00

Probably not

Gravel_Roads · 2018-11-01T22:46:46+00:00

This question again?

Yup. Sure thing. My n-count is pretty high as well. Sounds like we’d have a fun time comparing stories.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2018-11-01T23:17:15+00:00

Can't believe there's not a debate about how many high N is... but yes I would, according to what I think would be called a, "high N" here. I'm confident I can get her off, (unless it's medically impossible or something) and that's all that she's going to care about in that dept.

2018-11-01T22:15:29+00:00

I personally would not.

abaxeron · 2018-11-01T23:17:55+00:00

Consider? - Yes. Everything else depends on environment and circumstances.

TriadFamilyTimes · 2018-11-01T23:37:59+00:00

I tend to prefer dating women with high counts. Much more likely to be kinky, much more likely to be open to stuff. Most submissives aren't inexperienced past their very early 20s. I've only actually had sex with two virgins and one was a dude lol

SkookumTree · 2018-11-02T04:02:07+00:00

Well yeah. Slight reservations but if she was an ethical slut, okay. If she cheated a bunch? More reservations.

WhiteningMcClean · 2018-11-02T11:54:11+00:00

No, but what I consider a high count is probably higher than most guys.

2018-11-02T12:10:09+00:00

CC riders that "age out" and decide they're ready for commitment

girl who had a hoe phase in high school/college, then stayed abstinent and/or monogamous by her early 20s

How does one tell the difference?

2018-11-02T13:52:19+00:00

if she is " reasonably attractive, pleasant, and otherwise a good relationship prospect " and single I would LTR her, but lets face it, those women are rare. <1% rare.

And there is a lot of promiscuous women who say/looklike they are reformed, but in actuality they only learned to hide it better. And if you invest in them you are sure to have a lot of headache and less money. Those women are the great majority of what people say is "reformed women".

So my answer is, I would have a relationship with such a woman if I was sure to find such perfect woman.

But in reality, I would not, as I would me almost sure she is a liar (for good reasons) and I would not spend my limited resources into discovering if she is the real deal when I can way easier find a woman who was never high count in the first place.

ZodiacBrave98 · 2018-11-02T17:35:55+00:00

I'm not really concerned with a woman's past.

I really just want to know if her affection is genuine. And I'm not part of some devious plan where she 'had her fun, now it is time to be serious/respectable'.

DriedUpPlum · 2018-11-02T18:05:17+00:00

I’m a high N poly dude. I need a high N poly girl just to keep up with me :P. Fucking wear “slut” as a badge of honor and like my women to share the same attitude. As long as everyone is practicing safe sex or being honest about a fuckup nobody is going “spoiled” and I’m not going to curl up into my fragile ego worrying about if she is going to leave me for another gu. And I wouldn’t want her to constantly be jelous when I’m having a date night with another girl. 🧐

darksoldierk · 2018-11-03T15:54:22+00:00

No, I wouldn't.

2018-11-04T07:01:47+00:00

2018-11-04T18:36:49+00:00

Nope

SirNemesis · 2018-11-04T21:31:07+00:00

If she is down for a semi-open relationship where she helps me find other girls, yes. Gotta even out the sexual experience.

HostileErectile · 2018-11-05T13:07:06+00:00

Nope... Well, fuck her sure. Serious relationship? Noooope

Title	Q4Men: Would you LTR a "reformed" high count woman?
Author	idklol222
Upvotes	8
Comments	102
Date	November 1, 2018 9:30 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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