https://www.twentynineandterrified.com/good-men-gone/

This woman suggests her dating struggles are due in part to a time aspect.

This brings me to problem number one of dating in your late twenties.

You are no longer 24. Being 24 and being 29 are vastly different. At 24 I was young, naive, full of hope and open to all possibilities. Cute and funny guy with no real job, ehh he’ll get one! At 29 I am cynical, low on patience and know exactly what I want.

Problem number two…

You are over meeting men at bars. Remember when you wore tight skirts and four inch heels every night to impress a bunch of men at a bar that were really only trying to sleep with you? Long gone are those days. It’s a win if you fix your hair at 29. Meeting the same intoxicated, over confident bachelors has lost its appeal. Not to mention there is still a crowd of 22 year old girls with tight skirts and perfect contouring at these bars. Who has time to compete with that? You work FULL time at a job you probably hate no less.

Problem number three…

You don’t have the energy you did when you were younger. It used to be easy to hit four social events in one weekend. But between work, the gym, sleeping and running errands you are struggling to make it to one now. Being a grown up is no joke! There is so much to get done all the time. You don’t want to spend valuable hours sitting at a restaurant, hoping an attractive man will walk through those doors and sweep you off your feet. You want to know where these men are going to be dang it!

The last sentence stood out in particular. If a woman spends hour sitting at a bar hoping an attractive man approaches her, while her male counterpart is approaching the women he finds attractive, then the woman is playing a losing game. Only younger women would have such leisure time to make the strategy even somewhat statistically successful.

How much do non-physical aspects contribute to the dating struggles of older women?