Over at TRP I read some guys claiming that you need to be a jerk, get called an asshole, and be a huge dick to women if you want them to like you. And that women just hate nice guys. I believe that they are confusing looking out for yourself and taking care of your own life with being an "asshole" for the same reason that they confuse supplication and doing a girls homework with kindness and magnanimity. I believe this stems directly from self loathing and they could start correcting these mistaken red pill assumptions by building up a core of self love.

A guy who puts himself first in his own life, loves himself, who is honest with himself and doesn't lie, will be in a place where other people can't take advantage of him. Because he loves himself, is honest himself, and he looks out for himself. Terps see other guys who love and look out for themselves and this causes them to recognize in a deep way that they do not love themselves like that, but the pain to their ego is too great to accept this, so they label those confident guys as "assholes" and "jerks" instead.

Next up is the supplication a Nice Guy ^tm will engage in somehow believing that supplication and magnanimity are the same thing. They see other guys who have a core of self love being kind and generous to women, and those women respond very favorably. Because women actually do like nice men. But from their inner core of self loathing when they attempt to be magnanimous what they really want is for an other, the woman who is the target of their affections, to provide the self love that they lack for them in return for their niceness. Hence why you see terps discussing how they don't so much as want sex as they want validation. They want a woman to be the source of their inner core, because their true inner core is one of loathing. And they cannot accept this as their toxic masculinity, their ego, cannot accept the pain of the truth. They think to themselves, "oh once she likes me everything will be alright" while they bring her more flowers and listen to her talk about her boyfriend.

If you love yourself then you value yourself. When you are nice others know that you are giving them something of value, because you value it. When you loathe yourself and secretly believe you have no value (until a woman gives it to you) then when you are nice others will sense that you are giving them no value, because you don't value it. You don't want to get into a relationship in a self loathing state anyway as the only woman who will is a codependent one and you'll both have a hell of a bad time.

So here's some blue pill advice for you guys. Teach yourself to love and cherish yourself and find true value in your own life and existence. Therapy can help with this, work on self validation, create a daily affirmation for yourself and practice it, and listen to your inner voice, identify your self loathing thoughts, and fight against them. No woman can change your inner core to one built on self love. No amount of sexual partners, sexual experiences, misogynistic put downs, lying to women, lying in general, or Internet rage can do this inner work for you.

Once you love yourself you'll see that women actually really like nice guys. They just don't like guys who pretend to be nice so that a woman will validate them and provide the self love that they lack. Nobody likes those guys.