Q4all: What are some things that indicate to you that a man is sexually inexperienced?

Ascimator · 2017-02-17T15:57:37+00:00

bragging about the sex they had, especially how many times a girl supposedly came or how much she enjoyed it. I've found that people tend to act like this the first few times they have sex (their way of saying "look at me, world, anyone who thought I was a virgin loser judged me wrong!") and then realize it's tacky and weird and that they should maybe keep that info to themselves. bonus points for wildly inaccurate descriptions of female anatomy ("I hit her cervix and made her come, I guess she's never been with someone my size before.")

bottles_n_models · 2017-02-17T17:37:32+00:00

Men that are incapable of escalating. I know guys that will just talk and talk and hang out but have no clue how to get past that point. Then they'll complain about her attitude or something and eventually move on.

HitchensTwoPointOh · 2017-02-17T16:20:38+00:00

Is simultaneously thirsty as hell but entirely void of confidence with actually placed in a situation with women available in that context.

[deleted] · 2017-02-17T18:07:35+00:00

As an inexperienced guy, as soon as the topic comes up, I try to avoid saying anything.

Knowing body mechanics or technique or how things work isn't difficult in the age of the internet, but it's difficult to fake stories when you only know mechanics because weird things happen in real life and you're missing a certain sweaty, sloppy squishiness that you can't make up for.

--Bob__ · 2017-02-17T16:50:38+00:00

https://i.imgur.com/nNp8NMH.jpg

figthief · 2017-02-17T15:52:45+00:00

Bragging or simply talking about sex in a way that generally on exists in pornography. Locker room talk among guys I know tends to consist of:

"I'd hit it, I like her body part(s)"

Guys IRL and especially the internet who say shit about how they cum in girls eye balls or get ATM come across as overreaching and inexperienced to me, provided they aren't 15 or something.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-02-17T17:33:13+00:00

how would anyone know unless they were in bed with them?

[deleted] · 2017-02-17T18:08:33+00:00

Literally bringing it up. Bringing up how insecure they are about it. There are a lot of guys who are terrible at sex that have had quite a few ONS or relationships. I wouldn't assume a guy who is bad at sex is a virgin.

[deleted] · 2017-02-17T15:54:22+00:00

Over excitement at the chance of meeting women/getting sex. This also could just mean a very long dry spell.

SetConsumes · 2017-02-17T17:50:55+00:00

The way he talks about women, looks at women, how sexually charged his energy is, how desperate his energy is.

hakosua · 2017-02-17T22:09:25+00:00

The only strong indicator I have is that the guy says, "hey, I'm sexually inexperienced," or something along those lines. Being young is also an indicator; however, I don't tend to talk sex with young guys.

If we're alowed to count bedroom behavior: trying to tongue-fuck my mouth or palpating my pubic bone are both easily remedied soft indicators. I say "soft" because sometimes experienced people also need pointers on what their partners like.

InformalCriticism · 2017-02-17T18:23:15+00:00

Discomfort/awkwardness discussing the topic that is clearly not of moral conviction or principled etiquette.

Alth12 · 2017-02-17T17:11:50+00:00

Bragging as pointed out. Then there's how all their stories are of them being a PUA master then when you're out with them theyve always got some flaky excuse for not approaching, "nah man she's not my type.." "nah dude I'm just not feeling it..." "I just need a couple drinks to get in flow brah then I'll be off."

Anytime I hear the above 100% he's an incel with crippling aa.

[deleted] · 2017-02-17T17:25:07+00:00

Anything on r/badwomensanatomy.

[deleted] · 2017-02-17T20:28:26+00:00

When they lack all confidence and avoid ever making a move, post on r/incels or r/foreveralone, don't take any pride in their appearance and always avoid the topic of sex.

Speaking from (in)experience

bigredchewinggum · 2017-02-17T23:55:47+00:00

When guys are uncomfortable in a platonic social interaction with a woman.. Like a waitress at dinner with friends, or a female cashier at the grocery store. Like have their head down and can't make eye contact.

If he "falls for" a girl who simply just socially interacted with him. And maybe has common interests that are usually more dude-focused.. Like heavy metal music and comic books.

If he has BO, gross teeth, dresses like a scrub.. Poor posture, quiet/timid and low self esteem.

Source: This was me all my teenage years until about 22.

Soylent_X · 2017-02-18T04:44:58+00:00

This is a randomly organized list, as in no order of importance.

He has strong opinions about porn. This stems from never actually having any experience with a woman, but still believeing himself to be well studied on the subject of women.
Having very strong opinions on how a woman's body should be. Here, he again has little to no variety of experience. He doesn't yet know that there's value in a variety of people.
Really, very stiff, stodgy, rather strong, one sided opinions on anything. Like this guy.

IIHotelYorba · 2017-02-18T07:38:09+00:00

Lack of confidence, decisiveness.

IamTheWalkingMenu · 2017-02-17T20:13:28+00:00

When they really think women "squirt" anything other than pee.

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Purple_myriad · 2017-02-17T20:25:46+00:00

It's sometimes visual, honestly. Like if you look like Rick Morannis in Ghostbusters then we're more likely to assume the guy is a virgin.

TedBaendy · 2017-02-17T23:20:18+00:00

Nerves. But then they can't help it.

[deleted] · 2017-02-19T00:23:31+00:00

A slouchy beanie hat

ScarletNumbers · 2017-02-20T00:51:54+00:00

They describe tits as feeling like bags of sand

[deleted] · 2017-02-21T08:41:11+00:00

True not just for virgins, but guys with little experience too: acting awkward, having no confidence or faking confidence. Trying too hard, apologizing for everything. When you tease them playfully, they get all puzzled or even scared.

Title	Q4all: What are some things that indicate to you that a man is sexually inexperienced?
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Upvotes	19
Comments	251
Date	February 17, 2017 3:47 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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