Men: do you prefer women to be inexperienced in bed or to know exactly what she’s doing?

2020-01-26T20:05:49+00:00

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Workaholiconew · 2020-01-26T20:03:44+00:00

Men have a instinctual distaste for high n count women. It is not the same for "men prefer virgins". The correct assertion is that men prefer "virgins", "low n count", and "mid n count" women. I have no idea how I am able to guess it, I just began to perceive it after a bit of experience. I could just not get hard or attracted to women of beauty but also high n count.

Most men which had experience with virgin women actually think of the experience as a headache. As their lack of knowledge is a problem to our own sexual satisfaction, almost just as much as the high n count of a woman.

All in all we prefer skilled sex with a woman of not absurd high n count.

WGttDS · 2020-01-26T20:41:10+00:00

I've never had sex with a virgin, don't have any particular desire to, and have likely aged past it being a realistic probability unless I decide to be a predator. I disagree that there is an instinctive preference for virgins, or that it makes biological or social sense.

I have no problem with "practiced" women. I am not at all worried that I won't stack up to the men she's been with in the past, which I think is what drives a lot of male insecurity on this front. That said, I would be a bit disappointed if she knew "exactly what she was doing" to the point where there was nothing new left to explore together.

M4sterDis4ster · 2020-01-26T21:13:44+00:00

I dont prefer virgins. I prefer women who had LTR relationships.

Reason why I prefer women who had LTR relationships is both their mental state ( proven maturity at young age, shows what she wants in her life early on, non-impulsive ) and that she has sexual experience.

MarTweFah · 2020-01-26T20:14:48+00:00

The only guy who wants to fuck a virgin is one that is a virgin himself.

Who the fuck could actually enjoy awkward sex?

Here4thebeer3232 · 2020-01-26T23:31:46+00:00

If a woman said she is a virgin, I would absolutely not bring her home. Virgin women appeal to men who crave easy validation and ego boost. Mainly cause virgin women have nothing to compare to, so you will always be best.

How utterly boring

Give me a slut who knows what she wants and what she is doing. Give me someone who is actually good in bed and isn't limited to advice from Cosmo and badly written erotica. Give me a girl who has kinks and interests and isn't a blank slate. And if you want ego validation, getting a complement from a slut is far more impressive than from a virgin. Virgins have no one to compare to, a slut has much more. If you get compliments from a slut, its cause you beat lots of men in practice, not just beat them to be the first one.

Additionally. I'm 27. If I meet a girl my age that's a virgin, that is absolutely a red flag at this point. Something is up that she has not had sex and all the reasons indicate that she is not compatible with me

felis_magnetus · 2020-01-26T20:20:15+00:00

Madonna and whore complex. It's immature, regardless of which side somebody finds themselves on. Real life happens in the margins and that's fine. If you see somebody obsessing about either end of the spectrum, they're simply not done growing up.

jax006 · 2020-01-26T20:43:07+00:00

Dont really care. IME some enthusiasm and openness is all a girl needs to be great in bed.

I dont rly need pornstar-tier anal fisting and deep throat face fucking.

blackedoutfast · 2020-01-27T00:48:45+00:00

inexperienced of course. i'm gonna be doing most of the work anyway.

and having lots of experience is absolutely no guarantee that a girl will be good. there are plenty of sluts who are terrible at sex and just dead fish it

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reluctantly_red · 2020-01-26T20:43:43+00:00

What's up with this virgin fetishism? If a guy is over 18 years old the women he's dating aren't going to be virgins -- get over it!.

Also, the sex act is pretty damn simple. Its an incredibly steep learning curve. If a woman hasn't figured most of it out by her third or fourth go round she's never going to (this assertion applies to guys too).

goneaway2thewind · 2020-01-26T21:30:32+00:00

Enthusiasm is all men truly need

Ordinary-West · 2020-01-26T23:10:59+00:00

I prefer women who like to learn and try out new stuff. Experienced women for pnd and inexperienced women for teaching them how so that the other guy could enjoy it too. Yes, I am an altruist like that.

webernicke · 2020-01-26T23:52:30+00:00

Obviously men instinctively prefer virgin women; it makes sense biologically and socially.

Instinctually? No.

Personally I prefer a woman that knows how to fuck.

TheCheapDetective · 2020-01-26T19:47:46+00:00

Husband: Baby, lets make love...

Wife: You don't know anything. First, we have to do things like [explains everything]

Husband: How do you know these things?

Wife: I have been with 150+ men, fucked 500+ times each one and every night one taught me so well, Actually I was teaching the last 20+ guys every-night, they took notes from me.

Husband: Oh, this turns me off, see I lost my erection

Wife: I know exactly how to get it up in no time. Believe me. Where do you have the KY jelly?

Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-01-26T20:28:27+00:00

Depends on the type of guy. "We're not all some sort of homogeneous blob," as the girls here say about them. Personally I would and have turned down a virgin, and want her to learn herself like u/ButtTouchPrincess says. Learn to maybe be more comfortable with her sexuality, and be ok with the fact she gets horny, and not feel dirty about it.

Adam95x · 2020-01-26T19:43:45+00:00

I mean wouldn't a prostitute or a porn star also hold a special place in a men's memory if he slept with her?

hammerhaunts · 2020-01-26T19:47:47+00:00

former

cherryapp · 2020-01-26T19:48:56+00:00

Depends. A 10/10 supermodel can get away with not being amazing in bed. Just being able to touch her genitals would be enough for most men. A 5/10 Becky probably can't get away with not knowing what to do in bed.

acron5n5 · 2020-01-26T19:56:05+00:00

The latter but who cares

ohheyhi99 · 2020-01-26T20:25:24+00:00

The latter. Not all men need to believe that you haven’t fucked other guys to enjoy sex with you.

Whether the woman is experienced or not, I think making the guy feel validated and wanted by showing interest in making sex with him an enjoyable experience goes a long way.

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2020-01-26T20:35:01+00:00

Prefer a woman who knows what she’s doing. The virgin thing is weird to me.

wtknight · 2020-01-26T20:45:57+00:00

It depends upon whether the guy is looking for no strings attached sex or a relationship, I’m guessing. Even then, a lot of guys who want relationships would probably prefer a low N woman who is sexually experienced, but from being in only a low number of long-term relationships.

The type of guy who doesn’t mind an inexperienced woman tends to be a niche category and is either inexperienced himself, or who gets off on the idea of being a “sexual teacher” to a younger woman.

akihonj · 2020-01-26T20:56:04+00:00

Ok so I'll try to explain this in a logical simple way

The idea that all men prefer virgins is actually a feminist statement that actually isn't true. Some men prefer virgins but then so do some women, search reddit there are plenty of subs to prove my point.

It simply isn't true that all men prefer virgins, Most men prefer a reasonable number, that will vary between men the same is true of women. I personally know at least two who have a count that is over 50 but will only date or sleep with men with a count less than 10. I also know men who have a high count and don't care about the number of the woman they are with.

In general though, which cannot apply to all but is a general statement, most men prefer a count around the same as theirs.

Now again do they prefer her to know whats shes doing or not is again a value statement that applies to some but not all, some men prefer to be with somebody who doesn't really know much about sex so that they can be dominant, or so that they can learn together.

Some men prefer to be with a woman who knows exactly what shes doing and just how to touch etc. This I think is tricky though because again like women men aren't a monolith and again what works for one woman won't work for another, this is the same for men, some don't like a blowjob and some love it more than sex, some women are like that too.

jmdenn3000 · 2020-01-26T21:08:01+00:00

I would prefer her to know what she wants. How else do i give it to her

[deleted] · 2020-01-26T23:06:40+00:00

The more experienced the better. I want her to be able to show me a thing or two.

For example, it's good teaching a girl to deepthroat but it's also good if she can already do it.

Sparkey69 · 2020-01-27T03:20:40+00:00

You can teach a virgin new tricks. As for preference in no strings attached sex? Anything is good. Experienced women arent any better at fucking than less experienced women.

MikepGrey · 2020-01-27T03:30:47+00:00

WOW.....

Ok, if shes inexperienced you have to spend about 2 or 3 months programing her to be your little sex toy, in short direct and show her how to do everything, and will take what she gets cuz... well at least I am hung as shit so for them its like a fetish to vanish and over sized dick.

If she knows how to fuck she already know how to get freaky, takes less to teach and tends to tell me more of what gets her off....

Both options are fun, so.... hmmm hard to say. (granted high n count fems tend to have herpes and shit so... thats a no go from the word go, my dicks to big for a condom as such pelvic/paps are must do for me and any chick before we bump uglies.

Riat567 · 2020-01-27T03:46:38+00:00

has long has she isnt a prude and can learn what makes me tick in bed im good

EsauTheRed · 2020-01-27T03:48:42+00:00

I'd prefer less experience but open to having sex with me

I've been with virgins and it was a nightmare tbh, and I've been with girls who claimed to be inexperienced and did some weird stuff in bed but put in a lot of effort and ended up being really sexually attentive and satisfying

MuleFool42 · 2020-01-27T23:13:48+00:00

Don't care. Learning together with someone new is fun in and of itself.

GreenSatyr · 2020-01-28T00:08:33+00:00

Level of experience wouldn't matter either way to me.

SDW137 · 2020-01-28T04:54:32+00:00

I'd prefer that she knows what she's doing.

jayval90 · 2020-01-31T20:57:11+00:00

I want to work hard together and learn all of those great fantasy things together. Yes, I like hot and crazy sex. However, I also want it to feel meaningful and not cheap. Those are two different desires that happen at two different times.

I want hot and crazy sex because it feels good in the moment. I want a virgin because that makes it feel special, even just thinking about it. And if I combine those two things, it's like they multiply together.

The_Gifted_Arsonist · 2020-02-04T20:53:39+00:00

Inexperienced, because then she can't exactly be disappointed with my inexperience.

Zippo-Cat · 2020-01-26T19:56:34+00:00

One: no, women don't really have anything to learn when it comes to sex. This was always a pathetic attempt at rationalizing high n-counts, nothing more.

Two: even if balancing on all fours while some dude rails you from behind really did require "skill", said "skill" could be gained over time with a single partner. You're presenting this as either-or choice(either you fuck a virgin OR a woman who is "good at sex") when it just isn't.

AlienGiblet · 2020-01-26T23:07:41+00:00

I have seen both sides of this. Although I was not quite my wife's first she says that I was the first good sex she ever had. Over the next 20 or so years I became expert at making love to one woman. She new me inside out. I thought it couldn't be better.

Then she became I'll and our sex lives dwindled to next to nothing. She would always push herself to make love to me even though it was often painful. My enthusiasm for this died.

I started to see escorts. All really well reviewed (prostitution is legal here). The first 2 I saw were nice girls but not a patch on how it was with my wife when she was well.

The third blew me away. I don't have words to describe the pure sexual energy of this girl. It's not just that her skill set was extrordinary. She could read me perfectly. It seemed that every touch, every movement was perfectly calibrated to turn me on. Non of this seemed contrived and just flowed from her naturally. You could tell that she loved being able to do this to men.

Now I know her well. Due to a series of unfortunate events that happened when we were together we found ourselves working together to get us both out of a string of bad situations.

After that we became friends and still continued seeing eachother professionally. Sometimes we meet for a coffee and a chat. We sort off have our friendship and professional relationship separate and parallel. I know I could sometimes have a freebie but I am affaid that she might feel obligated due our history and friendship so I would never ask.

My wife is the love of my life. Being with my little escort is the thing in my life I love the most. I am very fond of her but don't love her.

Who do I prefer? My wife will always come first. She was inexperienced and we grew together but the best memory of my life was being blown away by my first time with my little escort.

On a lighter note one of the youngest members of our friendship group, we are friends because of shared interests and have a big age range, introduced us to his new girlfriend. She made quite an impression.

When they left us one of my mates said "what do you think of her?" Another replied "slut" to which the first said "yep every boy should have one".

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Title	Men: do you prefer women to be inexperienced in bed or to know exactly what she’s doing?
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Date	January 26, 2020 7:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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