Any positive LTR stories?

lietruth · 2018-11-26T01:01:11+00:00

An LTR is a constant balance between comfort & dread.

There needs to be adequate amounts of both for it to be successful. I'm in a 4.5 year relationship with an HB9, & I can confidently say that you need to have rock solid frame & be on your A game. Testing doesn't subside, it continues- just in different ways. Always.

A balance 80/20 alpha/beta works well.

You shouldn't LTR a woman unless you're sure she is feminine, submissive, & has a good relationship with her father. Not always predictive, but definitely a green flag.

TominatorXX · 2018-11-26T03:39:22+00:00

27 years married. We have sex all the time. She wants me to be more redpill and she's trying to convert her brother to it cuz he's getting walked all over by his wife.

eddielovett · 2018-11-26T03:31:20+00:00

I have a pretty good story. My wife was an 18 year old smoke show when I met her (Tall, skinny blonde, Eastern European decent but Americanized valley girl persona). I was the alpha bad boy thug and she fell hard for me and that same year convinced me I should marry her. I took her virginity, explained the world to her and she was like a submissive little puppy (that part changed over the years as she matured). I was 21 at the time but had a lot more experience in the world. I was deeply involved in partying and drugs and even though I got her involved in that too, when we got married I learned to grow up and become responsible. Together we built a successful online business and in recent years have been living the digital nomad lifestyle overseas. Our business revolves around amateur porn and I’ve been able to negotiate dozens of threesomes with other hot chicks while she has only been with me. She instinctively realizes my need for sexual novelty and respects that. She also knows that her continued monogamy is her greatest asset and bargaining tool plus without that I would leave.

Having spent virtually every waking hour together for 8 years straight we get along really well and know each other inside and out. To have a relationship like this requires sacrifices. I am naturally social and love to be crazy and have fun adventures. She is a home body who loves weed, wine and Netflix. And our three dogs which are like our kids. I basically traded a life of excitement and always meeting new people for a life of comfort, luxury and quality time with my small family. There are stretches of weeks at a time where all we do is wake up at 3pm, smoke weed, play video games, fuck, eat and take naps. Lazy life to the max.

I feel like if we had separate jobs or a social life things would be different. When we occasionally introduce clubbing, alcohol, certain social events etc. into the mix I feel like it wears down the marital bliss. I really believe those things are for single people and couples should avoid stuff like that most of the time. We do throw parties occasionally but I think it’s the best to just chill with my wife only or her and another girl and that’s it. That’s what feels the best to me.

A lot of the bad stuff I see surrounding LTRs is usually attributed to the girlfriend or wife being too involved with social media, alcohol and her single friends. Those are all influences that will bring about shit tests and hypergamy. Even on my side when I go out I feel compelled to pull the hot young sluts and it weakens our bond.

Also many women in the west are too dominant and have a “you can’t tell me shit I’m an independent woman” attitude. I would find it impossible to be in a relationship with a woman like that. (Actually my wife SAYS that kinda stuff all the time, which is fine if it’s not true.)

However, I think most guys would be surprised how many gorgeous but also nerdy and antisocial girls are out there. Those are the ones you want. They are 10s when they get dressed up but prefer to chill at home with their pets and wear sweatpants 99% of the time.

It seems to me that the perfect storm of circumstances occurred in my life for me to have a stable, happy LTR with my wife. And we barely made it through the 7 year itch. I can’t imagine trying to have a good relationship with kids involved and separate jobs and friends and hobbies. I realize it would be healthier for the individuals to do it that way but when you do everything together like we do it makes it much more stress free on the relationship and you don’t have to work as hard to get along. Also since she’s never had kids and takes care of herself I still feel lucky to fuck her all these years later.

[deleted] · 2018-11-26T12:52:42+00:00

I do think the TRP needs to chill out on the “LTR’s are impossible/worse decisions” vibe.

I have plenty of male friends who are in happy LTR’s, and they know nothing about red pill teachings. It is possible.

I think that a lot of the younger RP guys develop a real issue with showing vulnerability as you don’t have complete control, but the deepest relationships, be it friendship or more, require it

creating_my_life · 2018-11-26T01:33:14+00:00

I do think it’s possible to find a girl who appreciates you and is viable enough to possibly start a family with and remain monogamous.

Nope. It's possible to find a girl and for YOU to keep fit, attractive to other women, and understand DREAD enough that she will remain sexually attracted to you. And, in the even she doesn't, you're enough of a man to end the relationship and move on without getting all fucked up about it.

MRP is TRP on hardmode, because you voluntarily give up the most important negotiating power you have--the ability to remove attention due to bad behavior. And, well, she gets to take half your net worth if she gets bored.

Whisper · 2018-11-26T16:05:08+00:00

Ignore the sophomores and listen to what the professors are saying.

People who follow my writings know a detail here and there about FunSize, who has been with me quite a while now, and Kitten, who is working on her jealousy problems and might work out.

Brickles09 · 2018-11-26T02:04:25+00:00

Married for 13 years to a virgin, right-wing, christian girl. It can’t get any better than that, right? Wrong. Awalt.

stemdude · 2018-11-26T16:54:37+00:00

I'm currently in an eleven year LTR.

Same age, same neighbourhood, same socio economic status. I was her first.

Blue pill proposed on year 5 on a 5 star suite while on a vacation in another country. Got rejected. Went on a red pill rage.

caught her flirting with gym trainer on messaging app.

Forgave her. (in hindsight i shouldve never done this)

lost weight.

got a better job

moved countries

Told her i will never ever marry her. I told her i MAY give her a kid but i will never marry in this lifetime

Always having a plate.

Told her to fuck off and move out when she caught me with a plate(blond hair in our bed. hair pins in our bathroom)

she was raging and crying for over a month. Solipsism makes it easier for them forget your sins.

Always expect AWALT.

A quality plate cures oneitis.

Be Selfish. Don't stop working on yourself. Only your goals matter. Always have at least 1 quality plate. It only gets better as you get older

This is the best it will ever get.

cat_magnet · 2018-11-26T02:43:22+00:00

I think it's possible but the right girl is rare and I think dating a point or two down in SMV makes it easier. I am an 8 in looks and am financially successful so I believe my hb7 ltr thinks im the best she can get. She also has low n count, is young and has good relationship with her father etc. I have been living with her for over three years and never any drama or problems. Pretty happy existence.

RedSkeller · 2018-11-26T02:16:12+00:00

Personally I don’t order the same flavor of ice cream every time I hit up cold stone but some people do. The best it gets is having a young, submissive fuck toy who you can stand being around for more than a couple hours. Shit always gets routine and sours unless you put in effort and make it fresh, you, not her. It’s a part time job. Eventually that fuck toy gets older and will turn you into a purse or a nurse. Yes there are great couples out there but don’t think for one second they both didn’t have to sacrifice large parts of themselves to do so. Ltrs require work and no one wants to be hardworking when there’s a free escape one swipe or like away.

2comment · 2018-11-26T10:44:03+00:00

You want me to tell you about my grandparents?

icecruzader · 2018-11-26T01:48:49+00:00

I mean, a girl who let's you be in an open relationship while being exclusive with you is the goal in a way. I haven't gotten to the place in my life where I could maintain that relationship if I found the chick but if you follow the TRP core sexual strategy, ei. going for numbers over prioritising quality you'll meet her. I know of guys with girlfriends who are satisfied with just one guy and are even bi, so they help pick up chicks for threesomes. The sky is the limit and the positive LTR you are talking about is limited by your imagination and the size of your balls. If a chick who will help you fuck more chicks is not someone you think will Also be good for raising your kids then don't worry about it and go down a more 'normal' (more blue pill) route. If you are prioritising children the skill set if different to a chick that is good at giving head.

[deleted] · 2018-11-26T03:49:17+00:00

I am with a great woman. I could rant about it if you like, but I met her in highschool, we dated when I was a stoner, then she had to move away.

We got back together and things were a bit worse, I was very easy to push around, her as well, we were taken advantage of, had great sex and treated each other alright, but had a lot to learn.

Years later after we broke it off that time, we were still speaking, still dating other people, doing our best.

30 relationships for me, and about 20 for her, we both had kids and both lost our shitty partners.

We just happened to both be single about a year ago and got back together. I have a great job now, best of my life, I'm raising her two kids full time and fly mine in. We do all the family shit and we keep a good house and have an alright social life with some of my family.

Things are mostly parenting, but we make the time to love the shit out of each other, and go out together, alone or with the kids about 3 times a month.

We fuck nonstop like rabbits, we always have in the past.

We grew up a ton and tasted just about every variety of partner we could get our hands on, came out disease free and missing each other more than the rest.

To be 100% honest she's not going to age all that well in the face if she follows the rest of her family, but she's gotta be the most awesome person I've ever met and I can say with total honesty even more attractive women don't seem to have shit on her overall.

She's got a tight little body that drives me crazy and she fucks like a porn star. Her face is beautiful, unlike the rest of her family she takes very good care of herself and she's got the lions share of the looks, she always has.

I'll love her no matter how things go as long as her attitude continues on the way it is, she's totally capable of running anything herself, but she doesn't mind doing things my way, even when she's convinced her way is better.

She's incredibly sweet, and she's had some of the worst life events I've ever heard told from any woman, yet she's mentally doing better than people that have been through much less brutal shit.

There are tons of radical women out there just like her, because there are tons of women. The problem is she hasn't seen a party or a club in a decade. She's been grinding up to 50k annual while raising two kids on her own with shitty friends and family and boyfriends.

There's a serious disaster surrounding these women, they are givers and hard workers, so employers and everyone else just jumps on her back and rides her into the ground.

These women are perfect for a strong redpill man that loves to be spoiled, and loves to cut the shit out of the lives of others.

I have fucked my share of beautiful, insane women and my share of average and outright fucking nasty bitches.

I did it because I could, because they were there and because I didn't have anything else better to do at the time. Many of them showed me some great tricks I use on this current woman, and I don't look back with much regret, just a few socially autistic women I didn't get to bang, that if I would have banged, wouldn't hold a candle to my current partner.

I think at the end of the day, the lesson is you fuck them all, you date them all, and you throw them all the fuck out till you find a good one. Don't ever fear throwing away the right one that might get better with time in the future.

That chore is not yours, people don't change for other people they change for themselves, and nothing like absence of a real good thing reminds a person what quality really is. So fight about it, break up, and fuck other women.

In the future, when you are both older and wiser you might reconnect and give it another shot, after you've dealt with real terrible partners.

Live life and don't be afraid to trade a comfortable reality you aren't sure is right for something new, like being alone, or with a dude, or with a woman way out of your normal spectrum.

Variety is a key to higher perception. Know the world before you make good strong long term choices

AND DONT HAVE CHILDREN EARLY ITS A FUCKING FINANCIAL DISASTER.

magx01 · 2018-11-26T08:00:10+00:00

My last one was my last one. Ever. My mind is mine again.

Super stoked about that!

SteveStJohn · 2018-11-26T13:35:22+00:00

Do all the successful LTR stories start when she was a teenager/in college/inexperienced?

LoLDamo · 2018-11-26T03:52:31+00:00

I had successful LTR’s before TRP. But then I am in the monitory here I don’t see woman as the evil that half this sub make them out to be. But I couldn’t see me having a LTR now whenever I have a plate for too long I get bored of them, even the women who have other things going for them apart from their looks e.g run their own business or have highly regarded jobs just become boring. I suppose once you’ve tasted too many flavours the idea of sticking with one forever is daunting.

But my thoughts aside yes of course you can have a successful LTR if that’s what you want. Keep up your SMV don’t take any bullshit and respond to comfort tests more than you’d usually do and you should be fine.

821sleepingbag · 2018-11-26T06:00:10+00:00

The whole point is that LTR is red pill on hard mode. The positive stories are rare because LTR’s are fucking difficult.

BusterVadge · 2018-11-26T13:23:09+00:00

My last LTR was great. Great looking, took good care of her body. Did not seek attention from others on social media. She was smart and driven in her career.

Only problem was that her biological clock was ticking. She knew going into the LTR that I wouldn't want anymore kids and that I never will remarry. She changed her mind about those things and the relationship met its demise.

Would I do it again? Yes. She was a great woman who was loyal and faithful to me and held me in the highest respect.

I've had other LTRs that were not great and some that I lost interest in over time. By far, I would call that experience with her a positive one.

tchower · 2018-11-26T16:38:52+00:00

I think there is such a thing as a dream girl, just don’t get outcome dependent or believe it’s your only chance at ever meeting a girl again like some simp. An LTR is possible just always put yourself first as well as your life goals because of the potential for all the problems you already know and take charge.

Iwassleepingawake · 2018-11-26T17:06:14+00:00

I'm in an LTR for almost 2years, known her 2 years before that. She's a pretty awesome girl. Mind you, she does have moments of insecurity that get on my nerves. But, over all, she is pretty amazing. Cleans my house, cooks and meal preps for me, initiates sex almost majority of the time. Has thoughtful conversations, likes arts, loves my family and they love her (first one of my significant others that they love so much). Except for the occasional insecure outbursts, shes perfect for me.

Bruchibre · 2018-11-26T03:25:27+00:00

My LTR story is positive. She is cute, 7 years older than me, was virgin before we met, she is very dependent on me. We've been together for 5 years and she hasn't put on weight and still sleeps on my chest every night. Problem is she's a bag of bones (very skinny) and I get bored sexually. Also she is an artist so has little money and I don't know if she will ever do. So I'm in a situation of it's great for day to day relationship but if I project myself do I want to marry her and raise kids with her? I'm not so sure.

simonfuruncle · 2018-11-26T03:55:18+00:00

Plenty of positive stories out there. The reason we don't share them as much is because, again, everything we say in TRP is generalities. That means that maybe 2% or maybe even 20% of girls/people/situations aren't actually exactly as we describe. The problem is that if you tell people that "not all girls are like that," then every single guy thinks his girl must be the one that isn't like that. It's the same way with teenagers. Sure it's possible that this love will last, or that they're really having a more adult-like love than they think, but chances are they probably aren't.

I've been with my wife for awhile now. Submissive, very feminine, I flat out told her all about my TRP-related thoughts before we started dating just to vet her, and she was cool with it back then. I fucked around in college but honestly I really wasn't that into it, so LTRs fit me better. I personally don't think 8's and 9's are worth it for marriage, but maybe that's just me. She's a 7 and that's perfect because it makes her the reacher and keeps her a bit jealous. If I were married to an 8 or 9 I'd probably get jealous eventually, which makes it impossible to uphold the TRP adage of always being able to walk away.

But yeah, she's cool as hell. Willing to work on herself, wants to have sex with me all the time. The goal is to be a good mix of alpha and beta (I like the 80/20 suggested by another user here). Alpha keeps her interested and keeps the sex great ; beta keeps the relationship and longterm bonding work. We have a kid together (paternity tested and all) and she's been a great mom. You will always be "shit tested," but this comes in many different forms. Just like you want her to stay slim and sexy and keep up her physical appearance, she wants to ensure you stay masculine and keep a good frame. You can't really blame her for shit testing if you look at it that way.

Yes there are success stories. But again, you need to vet really, really well. And you always need to assume AWALT, because chances are you're right. Eventually, if you keep assuming AWALT and that this girl is a treacherous hoe, you may eventually find one that actually defies your generalizations, time and time again. If you're into LTRs, keep that one. If you're not into LTRs, make her a plate.

HumanSockPuppet · 2018-11-26T18:12:17+00:00

fucking hoes, having threesomes and all that is fun, but sometimes that gets old and you just want to settle down with one girl.

You don't get to decide when this happens. Only a girl does, once she has proved that she is worthy of being promoted to LTR status.

Refer to my guides for more information on how to properly identify and train bitches for LTR status.

trpppp123 · 2018-11-26T14:21:18+00:00

ITT: People trying to use TRP to fulfill their blue pill fantasies.

[deleted] · 2018-11-26T10:45:44+00:00

but I do think it’s possible to find a girl who appreciates you

yes, and this is the common delusion. The sooner you realize that what's possible is rarely probable the better you will be in the long run.

The only cure from this ONEITIS bullshit is to have options. Many options. And be self-sufficient, never married and no kids. That's how you attract those "would be" girlfriends, however, your power of committing to her and losing it instantly and taking a leap of faith (men are gatekeepers of relationships) is one of the worst things you can do to your life.

justicecantakeanap · 2018-11-26T05:17:40+00:00

There's no such thing as a LTR

Title	Any positive LTR stories?
Author	ThreeEyez
Upvotes	112
Comments	102
Date	26 November 2018 12:44 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/54415
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