Just recently I got access to my GF's phone

BlackMisc · 2018-03-12T13:42:01+00:00

Downplay the effect his has on you and demote. Make sure you let her hamster spin and dont explain why shes being demoted. The worst you can do is being buthurt over her getting sexual attention from other guys.

Metalageddon · 2018-03-12T15:26:14+00:00

You're only angry at yourself. You let yourself be duped. Pretty much every girl goes lusting especially when single.

There wasn't anyone who'd commit, so she cast lines and left bait, it didn't work.

Now there's you, by your own admission she cut that immediately, no more casting lines and dropping bait.

Just remember two things.

1) she did lie about her history. 2) she has acted respectfully since she got commitment.

This is part of a smart girls mating strategy. They need a support whose an alpha (ideally). They'll search and search and do all sorts of things, but if you're her alpha right now, the most she'll do is check the grass. If it's greener with you nothing to worry about, if it's not, then plate only.

It's a delicate balance, though it should be much easier if you maintain options and are willing to walk.

If she's sucking your dick at every opportunity and constantly trying to impress you, don't worry about it. Just do you.

If you notice things slipping, something in the equation is bad. Her, or you. You only know you the most, so do you. It'll either correct itself or you'll know she's not worth your commitment, maybe not even your time spent fucking.

yumyumgivemesome · 2018-03-12T15:15:09+00:00

So she was sending these messages before your relationship, but she's been a good girl since you started dating? All you have learned is that your little snowflake isn't actually a little snowflake. Maybe if you actually paid attention to TRP you would have known that. If you like LTRs, you can maintain an LTR with a non-snowflake. Just know what you're getting.

iskandph · 2018-03-12T13:19:34+00:00

And I even used some of my money to buy her a fucking necklace recently

Fuck me

iskandph · 2018-03-12T13:22:46+00:00

I'm reading this shit right now

FUck me

iskandph · 2018-03-12T16:00:37+00:00

I couldn't find evidence of attention-seeking behavior after she met me

If none of this happened after she got with you, and if she has been good for you since you got together, then there's nothing to do.

She was seeking out guys. That's what she's supposed to do. You need to accept this.

this_parrot · 2018-03-12T15:03:12+00:00

I recently went thru my girls phone and it was a real eye opener. AWALT. Can’t handle it? Next her. My “girl” was telling a instagram model how she wants to visit him, she’ll stay at his place, sleep separate beds. Some guy she met at work trying to take her out, sending heart shape emojis to her best male friend orbiter. It goes on and on. Best advice is to watch her actions. Words are just for comfort.

iskandph · 2018-03-12T13:36:09+00:00

It happens bro (AWALT). Downgrade to plate if you can handle that. Remember she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.

[deleted] · 2018-03-12T13:54:28+00:00

She’s externally validated, always needs attention, and has few boundaries. Go back and think about what red flags you ignored. Where there’s an iceberg, you saw ice and ignored it. We’ve all been there and had to learn the hard way.

What do you want to do?

If my feelings were really strong, I’d break up with her. If they aren’t, I’d continue hooking up with her and plan my exit strategy. Then start talking to other girls.

damaged_goods420 · 2018-03-12T17:10:09+00:00

fuck a wedding ring I bought a necklace

0x9A30D7C49714D98000 · 2018-03-12T15:19:13+00:00

Apparently she's the kind of girl who would actively message guys on IG seeking attention and maybe dick (ie. S L U T)

She's a wonderful person

yep sounds like it

SovereignSoul76 · 2018-03-12T15:42:44+00:00

You're all twisted up, mate. "She's a great person....no, she's a slut!...no she's lovely!..."

Here's the thing: what you found is fucking EXTREMELY MILD compared to what most guys find (including myself about 3.5 years ago)....yes, seriously. Understand a few things:

1) Do more reading. You'll find that what you're experiencing is not all that surprising nor unique. When you understand the current social environment, personal incentives, and evolutionary biology, you understand why these things happen. AWALT.

2) Don't take it personally. I know, I know, sounds dumb. But it's in their nature to want it all (BB provider, AF dick).

3) Even being an Alpha/Chad is not without risk and/or sucks sometimes. Try not to be too jealous of these guys.

This may hurt now....but not as much as losing $200K worth of savings, your house, $100K in lawyer fees, and rarely seeing your future kids.

Suck it up. Suffer silently. Become stronger. Learn how to play the game with the surgical precision and foresight that only a man can bring to the table.

Mister-guy · 2018-03-12T13:50:55+00:00

First off, how old are you? If you're under 30, fuck being in an LTR, regardless of what she did. You should be casually dating chicks and spinning plates, even if this chick is cool.

Secondly, if you feel the need to go though her phone, neither one of you are LTR material (at least, not yet).

My advice: demote her to plate, start talking to other chicks, and go lift (if you aren't already).

jb_trp · 2018-03-12T16:15:47+00:00

She's a wonderful person

she was saying "I miss you, I miss you in my bed, I miss your D" to guys who would never commit to her and actively hitting up some social media randos with "your handsome and I want to know you"

Does. Not. Compute.

cl3537 · 2018-03-12T16:55:37+00:00

If you are giving her great sex she has no need to stray. If you aren't read Sex God Method and learn.

You are jealous, insecure, and worried about her cheating. You betrayed her privacy to satisfy your low self esteem and insecurity.

You found nothing and still you are talking about it, if I were you I'd delete this thread and make sure you are giving her good D then work on those self esteem issues and in that order.

SpinPlates · 2018-03-12T17:36:06+00:00

was saying "I miss you, I miss you in my bed, I miss your D" to guys who would never commit to her

Sounds like it's your turn to never commit.

Tell her it's over. Tell her you don't have anything to say. No matter how much she begs don't give her the satisfaction why you're leaving.

I_STOMP_YOU · 2018-03-12T18:03:57+00:00

Pretty much the reality for any girl with a public profile on Instagram. Red flag city if their profile isn't private. Sorry you had to learn the hard way

Self-honest · 2018-03-12T15:53:41+00:00

Good job man. Proud of ya. Just tell her things aren't working out and go bang other girls.

Become one of these guys:

saying "I miss you, I miss you in my bed, I miss your D" to guys who would never commit to her

All you have to do is smoothly back away. Ghost. And a few months from now you've got yourself a nice slutty plate to allow back into your bedroom from time to time.

iskandph · 2018-03-12T22:13:46+00:00

Jesus, reading the anger mode spergs flip their shit when they clearly didnt bother to read the post is fucking painful.

As far as OP os concerned, buckle up if you're waiting for that chick who was totally honest about her past. At least she knew when to switch gears. You sound like a wounded child who discovered unicorns arent real. Unicorns are just horses with makeup and a press release.

mars-awake · 2018-03-12T18:01:50+00:00

women NEVER give full disclosure and they lie. Don't know you or fully understand your situation, but think about just moving on

iskandph · 2018-03-12T19:07:30+00:00

I understand how you feel but if all these messages were from before you were going out why are you mad?

Maybe because you thought she was “different” than everyone else you had dated in the past. Remember AWALT.

If her sending sexual messages to guys before you were even dating makes you so angry then demote or break up. I know this attention seeking behavior shatters your image of her but realistically almost every girl does this shit.

xrorox_rp · 2018-03-12T21:30:26+00:00

Her past is totally unimportant period.

You should not be concerned about her cheating on you in the first place. That don't matter. The only thing that matter is that she is on her best behavior for you. If she isn't, demote or next. If she is, reward intermittently.

It would have been easier for you to keep her as a plate or to make it an open LTR.

But that's not the problem. The problem is outcome independance, work on it.

The spirit of the Redpill is to see the world as it is, so you can be as happy as possible. Even marriage did not prevented some of our forefathers from being Redpilled. Keep working on the basics.

CommanderCumlord · 2018-03-12T22:49:50+00:00

Fuck OP I feel for you dawg. Just when everything seemed awesome there is a glaring dick of reality just fucking a gaping hole in your fantasy.

Like others said, tell her you think you guys should split up. Better to walk away now and hurt knowing this then sleep with one eye open until her lust takes full control and she’s got more cock in her mouth than yours.

This just frightens me with girls I’m dating. You think everything is great and meanwhile they’re living a double life of hypergamy on the fucking internet. It’s really sad.

I love how society has created the trope of the loner virgin guy online having virtual relationships and laughing at him, and here all these girls are veiling the same thing on Instagram. Not even, because they’re oftentimes in relationships! Totally sick

chasebandz01 · 2018-03-12T23:19:39+00:00

dude how can you possibly rationalize remaining in a relationship with her? dump her and only interact with her if she's trying to come over and get used. this is ridiculous. she's a garden variety whore.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2018-03-13T02:06:39+00:00

"I miss you, I miss you in my bed, I miss your D" to guys who would never commit to her

and actively hitting up some social media randos with "your handsome and I want to know you"

Damn...sorry to hear. AWALT reigns supreme. Do what you have to. EDIT: wait...all of her slutty crap was before she met you? Hmmmm.... You may want to ride this one out for awhile. None of that sounds out of the ordinary for a 20 yr old chick in the US these days, I'm sorry to say. Give her some slack and see how it goes. Make sure you can get back in her cell in a couple months and you'll know.

bickisnotmyname · 2018-03-13T07:31:03+00:00

You're over reacting. She's not done anything like that since you started, which means she's commited to you (for now, which is all u ever really get). Man up, get over it, and carry on. If you can't handle the fact that your girl likes sex just as much as you, then you have a lot of work to do pal.

Voshe · 2018-03-13T09:00:02+00:00

Don't date sluts, just don't. It's fun now and you're getting what you're after. But that will soon stop. I know it seems like everybody's repeating themselves when we say plate her, but we're viewing this critically while your judgement will be clouded.

Do yourself a favor and start looking for a low n count girl.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-03-13T09:03:25+00:00

This legitimately made me laugh out loud....

Apparently she's the kind of girl who would actively message guys on IG seeking attention and maybe dick (ie. S L U T)

and then

She's a wonderful person and I haven't had a single problem with her

You see it right? Who gives a fuck how she reacts, who cares about things becoming awkward. Be straight forward with her, or don't. Tell her you don't want to be with her anymore and that's that. You don't owe her anything else. Move on.

Ok wait... I just read your edits.

So She stopped doing everything you wrote about in your edit2 AFTER you guys got together right? Ok, cool, so she's a slut who knows how to behave. Realize that she may get bored with you or she may have just realized how to hide her shit better. Either way, you don't really have a reason to break up with her yet. Don't get too attached to this girl, get your life set up to bail/abort mission at the drop of a dime, and just keep doing what you're doing. As soon as you start to see red flags, jump ship.

ShotgunTRP · 2018-03-13T14:42:14+00:00

Wait.... she said this stuff BEFORE you started dating???

Dude you need to leave this ltr and date some girls

RichHomieJan · 2018-03-12T16:27:14+00:00

Bro look at how many threads you made about her, you’re the problem

_Ulan_ · 2018-03-12T13:28:57+00:00

What - sexting people is an issue to you ? She will get attention elsewhere if you haven't provided enough.

Sounds like a little onetis there. The best remedy would be to game other girls and fuck some if you wish to. Then you can enjoy the remaining time and fuck her hard til she either leave for a better caring betabux (and many necklaces), or think you suddenly became the man she needs.

When she does, get the necklace back : )

Trtntrenbrah · 2018-03-12T15:01:51+00:00

she’s a wonderful person

Quit hamstering her behavior.

She isn’t yours......just your turn. Plate or next.

throwitdownman · 2018-03-12T17:31:18+00:00

Holy shit, the content of those messages are scarring. For your own mental health, dump her. Or cheat on her while stringing her along.

RAiderNat88 · 2018-03-12T14:54:35+00:00

Apparently she's the kind of girl who would actively message guys on IG seeking attention and maybe dick

She's a wonderful person

You contradict yourself bro

iskandph · 2018-03-12T15:01:20+00:00

I don't know how new you are to TRP, but your story is a must-read for every noob here who read the sidebar diagonally once and are proclaiming that they "swallowed the red pill".

You just swallowed the red pill because it was forced down your throat by a woman you thought you could trust.

saladon · 2018-03-12T18:05:44+00:00

I feel you man. That's gotta feel like aboslute shit.

But you fucked up. Unless she's the greatest actress in the world, she had massive red flags that you didn't pick up. Why else do you think those other guys aren't committing to her? I can guarantee you that the top chads she's fucked have a main bitch who may be even uglier than her. The difference is, none of those chads are lining up to be her instant boyfriend.

Fess up. There's a reason you went through the trouble of secretly going through her phone. Did she offer it up saying, "Hey boyfriend come read the messages I have on insta"? I doubt it.

MattyAnon · 2018-03-12T17:16:44+00:00

How to next without making things awkward? She's a wonderful person and I haven't had a single problem with her since the beginning but I can't continue a LTR with such a person

She's not yours, it's just your turn.

Keep options open elsewhere. DO NOT BE BETA. The sluttier she is, the less she respects beta/provider behaviour.

iLLprincipLeS · 2018-03-12T19:46:50+00:00

Apparently she's the kind of girl who would actively message guys on IG seeking attention and maybe dick (ie. S L U T)

ie. AWALT

Lamond-Sciutto · 2018-03-12T19:48:55+00:00

AWALT, I think this says more about your own ego than anything else, I don't mean that in a negative way either.

You got to see behind the curtain and you didn't like it, it's a lesson my friend. You shouldn't be surprised by what you've learned in the RP so far.

She likes dick and you found out ha ha, you thought you'd played a solid game but in reality it was easy, and now you know why.

I think You're making it a bigger problem than it is.

nofilmynofucky · 2018-03-13T03:49:50+00:00

And here I was thinking my RP tactics were the main determinant of my success

It's a very taboo subject on here so I'm going to get downvoted but there is no amount of value uou can gain which will keep a woman loyal to you

If it can happen to Brad Fucking Pitt, it can happen to any of us

Zormutoid · 2018-03-18T13:30:42+00:00

She's not your GF, it's just your turn. - Tattoo it on your palm and look at it in a moment of doubt.

Lucas_Karmahitme · 2018-03-12T17:14:49+00:00

Please ghost her

Title	Just recently I got access to my GF's phone
Author	iskandph
Upvotes	64
Comments	199
Date	March 12, 2018 1:18 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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