What are the men that you know who are highly sexually successful like, personality wise?

I am in an adult sport rec league with lots of athletic, handsome guys, but I’ve noticed that some are slaying far more than others, and it isn’t all down to looks. Here are a few of the archetypes I’ve noticed:

1: Assholes - Some of the guys who are over performing their looks are legitimately dark triad and somewhat unlikable. They get in drunk fist fights, they are aggressive and competitive, they get testy with other men and get in chest thumping battles, they were probably bullies when they were younger. Narcissistic, greedy, low inhibition, low empathy, etc. Being a bully gives you a certain type of social status, but it also runs the risk of the other men in your social circle catching on and outcasting you or turning against you. The hunter becomes the hunted. Especially in mature men past high school. These assholes start to realize this and try to downplay this side of them around the other guys. However, in relationships with girls, this side of themselves comes out more and they don’t try to conceal it much because there is not much consequence, and perhaps lots of benefit. They take what they want, can be somewhat emotionally abusive, cheat, etc. The girl gets btfo whenever she tries to shit test him. They aren’t literal evil psychopaths, but some of the things they’ve done are borderline sexual assault. There are many low self esteem women who are submissive deep within that bend to his powerful will, and unlock the BDSM side of their sexuality.

2: Extremely extroverted charismatic guy - He often organizes parties, he is liked and respected by the other men, possesses a charming pearly white smile, he has high status and is looked at as a leader. He would be known as the “popular guy” in high school. He is good at social media and carefully crafts his online image. However, when I talked to one when he was drunk, he revealed some darker aspects of himself. He has a cynical view on women and interhuman relations. He wields immense soft power, but he puts so much effort into it because he understands the careful balance and need for it. He is insecure and knows that he must play up and exaggerate his extroversion and comedian status or people won’t like him anymore, and he will be superseded by envious competitors. He feels that he has to put on an act as a jester + wise intelligent guy 24/7 to keep the attention and interest of women. He is likely naturally extroverted and funny, but to get to this level of being socially likable takes a lot of effort. I get the feeling he is naturally a nice guy, but grew subtly embittered over time and is in an anger phase of some sort that the bluepilled idealism of “just be yourself” doesn’t work unless you are inherently like that or possess intrinsic value, whether that be wealth or killer looks.

3: Hip-hop pilled - Most of the black guys (and Latinos who run in the same circles) are unlikely to be bluepilled. A worldview similar to the Redpill has developed concurrently in the black community, displayed in rap and on black Twitter. Patrice O’Neal or Iceberg Slim is the perfect representative of this way of thinking. A lot of redpill ideas developed within that school of thought independently under different terminology. They are woke on whores, goldiggers, bitches, AB/BB, hypergamy, etc. Talked to one of the sexually successful ones on my team, and was shocked by how profound some of the insights he gave was. There isn’t the same level of deep theorizing and debate as the Redpill, but there is a certain level of fluid nuance to it that is hard to describe. What first appears to be a natural brash alpha thug is actually an expert hunter who has slowly refined his skillset and appearance to succeed. A smooth talker who has read the 48 laws of power and realizes that extreme displays of arrogance works on the type of women they are targeting. The most interesting thing about this is that many of the black women are aware of this way of thinking, but instead of trying to refute it, they accept it and use it to explain their own feelings. Whereas a white women might see a hot guy she likes and try to rationalize and hamster her reasoning, black women tend to be more honest and give more realistic and accurate reasons, even if they are more shallow or cynical. They are more likely to admit why they like the tatted up dudes with gold chains, or just straight up say that they like him due to his big forearms or strong jawline. They seem one step ahead of general western societal change when it comes to the sexual market place. Their culture has had more time to acclimate and think about things like the prevalence of single mothers, drugs, the welfare state, legal injustice (including alimony and brutal divorces), sidechicks and prostitutes, violence and what is true power or strength, etc. What is a redpill awakening for some of us is something that they’ve already gone through decades ago.

4: Artificial Chad - People who actually read the Redpill. They may like anime and video games, but were lured into the manosphere with the likes of gamergate and being on the internet often and visiting 4chan and such. Interestingly, the ones with things like aspergers are especially good at putting the theory into motion, because they are used to running complex algorithms that feel unnatural and don’t make intuitive sense to navigate social situations. At first their pickup artistry appears clunky and somewhat robotic, but with months of practice and watching how some of the other guys approach and respond to women, they get extremely good at it. They have something to prove and make a point of increasing their n count for validation, not just because they enjoy sex. Some of the Redpill terminology has actually become popular among members on the team as these guys would use it as a framework when talking to confused members who were having trouble with a girl for reasons they didn’t fully understand. Redpill specific ideas and terms also started to spread and be integrated into the local young black community, along with some of the black terms being spread to the white guys on the team. “Simp” is the most familiar one to people here, but they also have lots of local dialectic terms, as their school of thought is more decentralized. The ones who go all in on the Redpill seem to do quite well, whereas others just keep the concepts in the back of their minds, as they don’t want to have to radically alter their behavior and personality in ways they don’t feel fit who they are, or some just feel morally wrong doing so.

Now, some of the guys are just really good looking and kill it on Tinder due to this, but I’m focusing on guys who seem to overperform those who are better looking than them explicitly due to their personalities. Noticeably absent is dumb, blue pilled extremely handsome Chad who says “Just be yourself bro, it works for me!” To be that good looking usually requires a lot of effort, skincare, and other upkeep, and they are going through that extreme effort to enhance their looks for a reason. While they lift to be a strong member of the team, they also motivate themselves to lift because they know muscles are attractive to big tiddy bitches. While there are guys who were just genetically born with handsome faces and being 6’6”, they aren’t so dumb as to not realize that the other men around them don’t have it so easy, as they hear their teammate talk about their love life and explain to him that his advice doesn’t work because he wins automatically on looks.

Thoughts, and your personal experiences?