Want your friend to finally figure out that her guy is an lvm? Send her a beautiful bouquet for Valentine's Day.

enemy0freality · 2021-02-13T09:01:30+00:00

I'm having a surprise bouquet delivered to my bestie's house on V-Day and am already really giddy when I imagine her joy. She often says to me that I've set the bar very high for any guy she might be dating in the future, because she wants him to treat her at least as I treat her. If that's not a huge compliment, I don't know what is. We also joke about how any guy who wants to win her heart must go through a bootcamp designed by me, to learn how to treat her right. Love the idea!

souredskittles · 2021-02-13T08:52:11+00:00

Oh my god yes! When my friend graduated with her computer engineering degree my friend and I showed up with a bouquet of roses on her grad day. Did her nvm show up? Nah. That’s how you set standards.

RavenAva · 2021-02-13T08:41:26+00:00

Love this idea!

Downside is not everyone might be ready to hear that message. When I was in college my best friend fell head over heels all the damn time, and naturally had her heart broken each time. Finally fed up with seeing her go through this, I put together a thoughtful and heartfelt care package (since she was on exchange in another state) with a letter explaining how wonderful she was and what kind of relationship she truly deserved and encouraging her to not settle or be heart-broken over these LVM. Not only did she not heed the message but she thought I was coming out as a lesbian by hitting on her. 🤦‍♀️

She continued to get into bad relationships and I eventually ended our friendship because she was so toxic to be around.

(In case that’s not clear, I’m not a lesbian but I am an lgbt+ ally. It was just a frustrating situation to have my intentions so misunderstood.)

monaaloha · 2021-02-13T12:02:00+00:00

Hah, a friend of mine did this(unintentionally) and it really showed me that the guy I thought of as a “good” guy was shitty too.

I had just submitted a masters application I had been working on for over a month and I was finally free. My girlfriend would only be free in the evening so I had all afternoon to chill. I called up a guy I liked and who acted like he was into me too and I went over to a mall near his apartment so that we could watch a movie. This guy made me wait for half hour(no apologies, he was laughing) and I was really angry. Even pre-fds me wanted to slap the shit out of him. I went all the way over to his side of the city and that dipshit could not even be on time.

I watched the movie and was very curt and left at the end, swearing to never put myself in such a situation again.

That evening, my girlfriend travelled all the way from her house(more than an hour away) to my side of the city and dragged all our mutual friends(these people are way more friendlier with her than with me). She was on time and these friends were too. Then she came home with me because I felt bad about how that POS had treated me, we had some pizza and she slept over at my place, left early morning at 6AM to her workplace. Now THAT is a good human for me. Not that POS. This event broke the illusion of his niceness. Soon after I found FDS and the rest is history 😄

snootdidanoot · 2021-02-13T10:39:19+00:00

Partly why I put so much thought into my sisters valentines gift, I'm sure her partner will only get her a rose or something clichè rather than something she would actually want. They've been together for 8 ish years, have a baby and have built a house but he has 0 plans to marry her.

PeachPitiless · 2021-02-13T13:44:40+00:00

Omg I did this once for a girl friend on her birthday. Her boyfriend got PISSED. He accused her of cheating, said a woman would never send another woman flowers. I was so embarrassed that I'd caused a problem. I called him and explained that I actually did send the flowers and he acted like he didn't know what I was talking about, that he wasn't mad at her at all. She told me that was all bullshit, that he was livid. Only when they were alone of course. It eventually turned out that he was cheating on her. Of course.

sahu_ · 2021-02-13T09:42:25+00:00

Yes this is a great idea! I want to send this to my girlfriends who've been having boy troubles.. Basically LVM stringing them along and using them for emotional labour .. but they're being too nice to dump these men. Flowers might cheer them up and remind them they shouldn't settle for scraps.

omfgreuben · 2021-02-13T14:16:50+00:00

Hot tubbing and a prime rib dinner with my bff when she gets off work tomorrow. I also made some shortbread thumbprint cookies with a homeade strawberry lemonade jam.

Her crummy boyfriend hasn't planned anything (just like Xmas) so I figured I'd swoop in.

FabledAngryVillager · 2021-02-13T08:42:23+00:00

My bff is with a HVM, but she always gets me Valentine's Day presents because she knows guys won't lol and I gift her in return just because

I got her this for this year, it looked unique, better than the stuff in the grocery store

https://www.normanloveconfections.com/?gclid=CjwKCAiAjp6BBhAIEiwAkO9WuufpY0OjH21_xjXN94_Qz2Q5Tf6e_zc6zAxeeQObyDLE8rxD-VEtJBoCvaEQAvD_BwE

Edit: just noticed I'm an apprentice, but I think I'm a LVW if anything 😂 appreciate the flair upgrade tho

abby_ch238 · 2021-02-13T15:37:36+00:00

I just realized I did this about four years ago! For my friend’s grad I showed up with flowers, her bf didn’t even show up. She did say that she didn’t want her grad to be a big deal and that she’s only going so she doesn’t have to wait for her degree in the mail, but it turns out her bf didn’t do anything special that day at all. But she continued to date him for the next couple of years while always contemplating break up. We’re not in touch anymore but my god I really hope she realizes and leaves him. My biggest fear was always that he was going to leave her after getting his phd but that he dragged her along in the promise of marriage, and even though she wanted to break up she would always think but I’m too old now to be finding someone new, and at the time I really didn’t have anything to say since I had never been in a relationship that long

tinykittenteeths · 2021-02-13T13:14:36+00:00

This is a fucking great idea. I almost feel bad for the dude if she assumes it’s from him first. 😂

flowers4u · 2021-02-13T16:02:49+00:00

Sign it with just your first initial so he can’t claim they are from him, but doesn’t know exactly who they are from

Secret_Cupcake4425 · 2021-02-13T18:03:51+00:00

Yup, I was the girl who received flowers from her best friend because my friend "knew [my ex] wasn't gonna get me any" on my birthday. This would be even more telling on Valentine's Day. Friendship with a HVW once again trumping relationships with the majority of lazy men.

It's such a simple and easy gesture. There is literally no reason NOT to do it besides laziness or the guy thinking the effort is stupid. "It's a Hallmark holiday" okay well even if you believe that, can you not do the bare minimum? Why not take an EXTRA excuse to do something nice for a girl if you care about her and want her to know it?

Villanelloh · 2021-02-13T17:11:40+00:00

Make sure you tell her you sent the flowers in case he removes the card lol

hellokaye · 2021-02-13T14:40:16+00:00

I've been thinking about doing this. I've been single for 1.5 years now and my friends treat me better than any man ever has. I regularly receive flowers, chocs and the odd bottle of wine dropped off when I'm having a rough time (single mum of two kids 😅). I've stopped dating as never even got closing to finding a man who treats me as well as my friends do! 🤦🏼‍♀️

annainnit · 2021-02-13T11:11:40+00:00

That, and also watch the LVM freak out because you embarrassed him

crisscrossed · 2021-02-13T14:16:36+00:00

Did this last year (not to prove a point, but just because i love her and her man was putting her through shit)! She ended up breaking up with him soon after.

wetwhyofcourse · 2021-02-13T07:54:30+00:00

Great idea!! I wish someone would’ve done this for me when I was dealing with a super LVM.

deadinsidelol69 · 2021-02-13T15:05:23+00:00

I'm doing this for my sister who is dating a NVM!

curlybeatbox · 2021-02-13T07:54:58+00:00

I love this

light_workerx3 · 2021-02-13T19:21:36+00:00

Love this !!! 💖🌹💜

Aggressive_Birthday4 · 2021-02-14T13:02:06+00:00

Yup! I always compared how much friends treated me and talked to me, with my partners and it always keeps me grounded. I wake up to cute good morning texts from my friends with well wishes for my studies and exams all the time, they’re truly the best.

Title	Want your friend to finally figure out that her guy is an lvm? Send her a beautiful bouquet for Valentine's Day.
Author	4E4ME
Upvotes	588
Comments	33
Date	February 13, 2021 7:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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