"My bf doesn't do foreplay so I cOmmUnicated, countless times, but he won't change... why?!"

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-02T14:34:30+00:00

Studies show that women typically need at least 20 minutes of foreplay to become adequately aroused for sex.

This is just sexual abuse.

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2020-12-02T14:41:58+00:00

Notice how he compared her to a car: an inanimate object. Gross. He literally just views her body as something to masturbate with.

MerleErEnPerle · 2020-12-02T14:44:18+00:00

It's so annoying when they do this when women express what they need verbally. If he had just been honest with her, she would actually have something to work with and probably figured it was best to dump him since he doesn't care about her.

He could have said: No, I'm not going to do it/No, I don't think I should need to do foreplay/No, I don't understand what you mean I just say random stuff to make you happy. But instead he keeps wasting her time and holds her as his emotional hostage. I'm so tired of this. If you really want to be a shitty person, then be honest about it.

chasingastarl1ght · 2020-12-02T15:21:52+00:00

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coolerthanyouravgmom · 2020-12-02T14:40:35+00:00

I am so glad I have managed to find one that puts my gratification so high on his list. There's no way I would deal with bullshit ike this again.

Thestral-glow6 · 2020-12-02T14:43:52+00:00

Please tell me there was an update to this post,. And she left him.

tallwomenneedlovetoo · 2020-12-02T15:13:19+00:00

How much more clearly does he need to tell her that he doesn’t give a shit about her feelings or pleasure for her to receive the message? Like, he likened you to an object. He understands. He. Just. DGAF.

Either you bounce or you get the joy of dry penetration for the rest of your life. You pick.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-12-02T16:50:11+00:00

Why do women think we all have some magical trick to make men give a shit that we’re just keeping secret? If anyone could get a man to care with some magical action or words, WED BE SHOUTING IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS. Every freakin post is some repeat of “he’s not listening or doesn’t care, how do I make a grown human listen or care?”

BashRunes · 2020-12-02T15:39:03+00:00

You keep letting him get away with the bare minimum, girl. He'll feel no incentive to change if you continue having sex with him even though he isn't trying.

romantickitty · 2020-12-02T16:03:00+00:00

He. Does. Not. Care.

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-12-02T22:43:32+00:00

I cOmMuNiCaTeD with my ex about the same thing, his answer was: "Nah, I'm not a foreplay type of a person".

yesmme · 2020-12-02T16:01:57+00:00

At this point, she may as well ask him if touch is his love language seeing that all of this and talking to him is futile.

(Translation: dump him. He’s bad in bed)

whatiidwbwy · 2020-12-02T23:49:57+00:00

No foreplay, no sex. No debate. If he tries to pressure you, gaslight you, "just this one time", "I need this", etc., run don't walk away from that relationship.

Misswinter69 · 2020-12-02T19:32:37+00:00

I mean that tells you all you need about how little he thinks about her and how little he values her feelings..... She should dump his butt but we all know she won't so hopefully she will stop having sex until he warms her up first.

daisy_0720 · 2020-12-03T19:09:16+00:00

If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted to, he would -

Oh, fuck it. Doesn't matter how many times I repeat it, she won't leave the selfish scrote.

Title	"My bf doesn't do foreplay so I cOmmUnicated, countless times, but he won't change... why?!"
Author	eat_me_off_your_ear
Upvotes	115
Comments	26
Date	December 1, 2020 11:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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