Good morning ladies (and depending on where around the world y’all are, good afternoon or good evening), I was hoping to pick your brains a little about a hypothetical situation and see what you have to say. I was thinking we could form a nice discussion about it, share ideas, thoughts, maybe even experience if any of you wishes.

Let’s imagine you’re living your best life. You’re exactly where you want mentally, physically, etc. You have a boyfriend who, so far, has proven himself HV (goes without saying, it has been a relatively long relationship because you can’t deem him HV after a few months AND you keep vetting of course, I myself refer to mine as “so far HV”). He is responsible about contraception, condoms are always used. However, somehow you get pregnant. Not sure how to word it, but let’s say it’s not his fault, otherwise you’d dump him immediately. What would a HVM do in such situation? What would you expect him to do?

I’ll start: right now neither me, nor him are finished studying or financially able to support a child. I’d expect him to be devastated over this obstacle that’s happening inside of me and be 1000% by my side as I go through the abortion process (where I live it’s covered by insurance and it’s a pill abortion in the early stages, happens relatively easy and quick) and the aftermath. I’d expect him to look into reversible vasectomy in order to spare me from future situations like that.

However, say we were already educated and financially stable, I’d expect a proposal. We both want children after we are done studying, financially stable and married. I am completely against having children out of wedlock and he knows and supports it. He also knows I wouldn’t want to marry fat so it would need to happen before I start showing. He’s an excellent planner, I have to say, so with him everything happens the way I want it.