This guy has convinced himself that his girlfriend is the problem, despite his explosive anger toward her...

yoursultana · 2021-07-18T18:34:59+00:00

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luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-07-18T17:06:13+00:00

I don’t understand why he keeps saying “clumsy”. Is there a new meaning to this word?

Also, having to put “technically” means you did something and are trying to get yourself out of it. “I’m not technically a pedophile, I only like 16 year olds”. “I didn’t technically yell, I raised my voice and called her a bitch”

christmasforoutlaws · 2021-07-18T17:06:39+00:00

Another man being abusive because it gives him what he wants with minimal effort.

sleepysiri · 2021-07-18T17:19:15+00:00

What a whiny whinger. All the focus is on him. Me, me, me. And using his anxious attachment style as an excuse to be an asshole? If you’re aware of your character flaws, step two is working on them. Not using them as a justification. What an asshole.

And if he was aggressive enough to the point of making her cry, her, someone who is supposedly all secure and independent and self-assured, then I don’t believe him when he said he didn’t yell. I’m sure he crossed the line more than he let on.

I can’t stand how he’s making it all about him and his needs and how she isn’t doing enough. There’s not one mention of her, even when she tells him she has her own issues. He somehow brings it back to himself.

He sounds like an emotionally stunted child looking for a mother to baby him and sacrifice all their needs for his.

ComprehensiveAmoeba9 · 2021-07-18T17:42:25+00:00

Of course they’re not a good match, it’s barely been two months and he’s already this controlling and abusive! He needs to go to therapy and work on himself before he starts dating, he’s using an anxious attachment style as an excuse for his shitty behavior. This girl owes him nothing and I hope she leaves him

KateJ1982 · 2021-07-18T17:42:45+00:00

Tell me you’re an abusive, controlling freak without telling me you’re an abusive, controlling freak.

Betty_Bottle · 2021-07-18T18:02:46+00:00

That poor woman seems terrified of him and is walking on eggshells wondering what she is doing wrong. And they've only been together 2 months.

Just throw the whole man away.

sozwrongrobi · 2021-07-18T16:59:54+00:00

All that attachment theory is bs if you ask me… this is why

LadylikeElectricland · 2021-07-18T17:32:04+00:00

I can't even finish reading that. What's wrong with people?

ceramicunicorn · 2021-07-18T17:23:29+00:00

Just a heads up OP, somehow you got this posted in duplicate on the sub.

undertheunderbelly · 2021-07-18T17:36:00+00:00

What a load of horse shit. I hope she grabs her stuff and dumps his ass.

saint-jezebel · 2021-07-18T18:15:21+00:00

Wow. Abusive. She probably too scared to leave. He also whines about his problem while acknowledging she has problems but needs to care about him. That’s too much for two months. He’s exhausting and justifies his poor behavior too much that he’s justified being the victim. I’ve blocked men for much less.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-07-18T18:21:07+00:00

OP don’t forget to blackout the posters name and sub name.

arnezuara · 2021-07-18T18:34:58+00:00

It will only get worse from there, he is already verbally abusing her. This man is clearly possessive and expects her to only tend to his needs.

I was just reading Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do That” and this guy sounds like he checks some of those boxes.

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Title	This guy has convinced himself that his girlfriend is the problem, despite his explosive anger toward her...
Author	smittydoodle
Upvotes	94
Comments	26
Date	July 18, 2021 4:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/omuajx/this_guy_has_convinced_himself_that_his/
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