My wife and I met three and a half years ago, when I was 19 and she was 18. We got married 7 months later after a long distance relationship for 4 months, and then living together for 3 months. I honestly thought it was too quick, but the pressure from her traditional and religious parents was too great. I now see this as a mistake because we were both very immature and didn’t know what we want.

We were really happy for like a year and a half and things were going well until I caught her emotionally cheating on me (she was texting another guy saying how she wants to leave everything behind and be with him). This guy didn’t even know I exist. After I confronted her about it, she said how she didn’t feel wanted by me since I was no longer giving her the same attention that I once did.

When we met we were both finishing high school and had plenty of free time because of COVID and the lockdown so we spent all the time talking to each other. I forgave her but our marriage wasn’t the same after that. I simply couldn’t trust her anymore so I was looking at everything and analyzing things and occasionally would accuse her of doing things behind my back.

For the last 5 months we were living like roommates (dead bedroom/lack of communication). She would come back from work, ask me how my day was and immediately jump on CS GO and play for 5-6 hours and then go to sleep at like 3AM, sleep until 7AM and then back to work. I tried talking to her several times but she would just tell me to leave her alone to play and that there is nothing wrong.

3 weeks ago she started a fight with me out of nowhere and said how she doesn’t want this anymore, how she is tired of being with me etc. I knew we weren’t doing great but I haven’t done anything specific at that pointt to cause that fight. She packed her stuff and left to the hotel where she works. In the next few days we had brief communication as she would come to the apartment for more of her stuff.

Eventually she mentioned how she randomly met a guy on the street a few days before she left. She showed him the ring after he told her she was pretty, but ended up telling him how’s she’s thinking of ending it and gave him her number.

In the beginning I didn’t want to believe in this, I saw it as a way of her pushing me away so I give up. Last week, I decided to go to her hotel and I came at the perfect moment. I saw her basically saying goodbye to this new guy. I waited for him to leave and then went to the entrance and told her how she no longer needs to explain anything and that I saw everything.

After this she confessed that she was texting him for a few days before the fight and that fight was just used as an excuse for her to finally leave me. She also told me that she already went to a vacation with him, met his family and that he proposed to her, but she declined as she still needs time but that she is really happy with him. She will file for divorce in the next couple of weeks and it will be finalized by the end of November. The reason for this was that I simply wasn’t giving her enough attention and she admitted that she is an attention seeker and that’s why she was playing CS GO all the time. The lobbies would be full of horny teens talking to her.

I don’t recognize this person anymore and can’t believe she replaced me so quickly. Basically the first guy who said something nice to her on the street was enough for her to quit.

I know I should now focus only on myself, but how likely is it that this relationship will fail for her since she jumped into it so quickly? I’m not asking this because I would take her back, I wouldn’t do that to myself.

Thanks to anyone who reads this.