This is more of a vent than a question. I posted this in the marriage subreddit but got downvoted to oblivion, called a controlling husband and told it’s none of my business if my wife sleeps with other men. Felt like I’d entered some kind of weird alternative universe. Hopefully I’ll have better luck here.

For context, we have recently separated. We own a home together and I’ve been living at a parent’s house to give us both some space while we figure out how to move forward. We mutually agreed on remaining loyal to one and other throughout this process.

I came home today due to my stepson skipping school and going AWOL. My wife was at work and I popped round to check on him. When I arrived my stepson was fast asleep. He’d also left the living room door open so the dog had managed to get ahold of our post and ripped up a letter, I could see a medical testing kit and a letter headed “sexual clinic” in pieces on the floor. The marriage subreddit clearly didn’t believe this and concluded I must be an abusive and controlling husband opening her post.

Anyway, moving on - We’ve had a dead bedroom for years and my wife has been doing the classic thing of hanging around with new friends, taking more care of her appearance and going to bars occasionally etc.

Naturally, I didn’t think the STD kit was a great sign. In my other post I asked if there could be any innocent explanation for this before I jump to conclusions. My wife has since returned home and explained that shes had an abnormal smear and requested the test in a state of panic incase something has laid dormant and contributed to it. She categorically denies having any sexual contact with anyone.

I guess that adds up. I’m just not sure, I have that horrible gut feeling. Regardless, I’m tired of supporting her while she is clearly beginning to start a new life without me. I just want this to be over now.