Should I Take Her back?

sexchairmillionaire · 2025-07-13T21:31:52+00:00

If you happen upon the same tree in the woods twice - it isn’t because that tree is any more or less special than any other tree in the forest. It’s because you’re lost.

KDsGotSpark · 2025-07-13T10:33:18+00:00

Never.

Zealousideal_Try_864 · 2025-07-13T10:26:17+00:00

You being “emotionally unavailable” means that she wanted out (for whatever reason) and it had to be your fault.

The answer to your question would be a no.

And if you are willing to get rid of the current girlfriend ONLY because she supported her friend’s deceased sibling, then you probably aren’t ready to date yet.

redditrock56 · 2025-07-13T05:22:31+00:00

"She didn’t show up for me when my family was in town. She was at a friend party for deceased sibling."

I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want a woman I was seeing to meet most of my family.

She probably did you a favor.

SteveSan82 · 2025-07-13T04:03:09+00:00

Don’t take your ex back and dump the new girl.

Women never leave a relationship due to emotion unavailability. Thru leave because they found a new guy. She cheated on you.

The new girl doesn’t respect you.

deep66it2 · 2025-07-12T23:11:55+00:00

Skip the X. She left b4, justified or not, it's over. Stay away. The gf? Someone died. Geez, it's understandable. Calling it a party is to limit the underlying grief. Buckle up bucko. Be a man & do some man shit.(As Bill Burr would say).

Ok-Cause1108 · 2025-07-12T22:47:50+00:00

Your life is a dumpster fire mate. Get rid of the girlfriend, complete your divorce, and go work on yourself without the distraction of women for a few years.

In your current state there is no way a healthy and loyal woman would touch you with a 10 foot pole.

Reddit_P2E_Seeker · 2025-07-12T21:59:10+00:00

Or just be single? Don't drop the gf for a chance at an ex. Either drop both or persevere with the gf.

Icy_Treacle_4677 · 2025-07-12T21:58:38+00:00

You know what I don't know who needs to hear this. But when you're married, there's no such thing as a separation. When you're married, you're married. That's it. There's no ands if's or buts about it.

Signal-Dot2326 · 2025-07-12T21:53:10+00:00

No and didn't even read your post just the title

nonotmeporfavor · 2025-07-12T21:34:03+00:00

Give yourself a try again. Not someone else.

tyyyy110 · 2025-07-12T17:38:19+00:00

I could be wrong here, but dude c'mon...you sound like a hopeless romantic.

You don't go backwards. If the weather x is giving you clues...you ignore them until she blatantly does something. If at anything you could just have a casual thing with her.

As far as your girlfriend of 2 years, is this her only infraction? If so, let it go. Stop being sensitive, nobody's perfect . life's too short my guy.

di3FuzzyBunnyDi3 · 2025-07-12T16:47:56+00:00

Move forward, not backwards.

malsell · 2025-07-12T16:13:30+00:00

Dude, no. No to both of these women. If your ex wanted to separate because you were "emotionally unavailable", that tells me she was already shopping around and found someone else. That didn't work out as she planned and you're her "fallback" until she finds something better again.

If you're girlfriend of 2 years couldn't be there with your family and instead decided to go party, that's where her priorities are and you should just move on.

Reddit_censorship_2 · 2025-07-12T15:47:07+00:00

Well I stopped reading after the title, but I'm gonna have to stop you right there chief.

No

Many_Ad4131 · 2025-07-12T15:39:45+00:00

She’ll always come back as the girl you dropped She’ll never come back as the girl you loved

— No No No by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, gender reversed

No_Pace2396 · 2025-07-12T14:59:18+00:00

No. Why would you even think this?

miami2881 · 2025-07-12T14:12:24+00:00

Option C- Neither. If you take back a girl that dumped you, she will never respect you. And the girlfriend doesn’t respect you enough either to show up for an important event. Respect yourself and be single.

ImpermanentSelf · 2025-07-12T11:16:16+00:00

No, be single, learn to enjoy solitude, only date if they add something to your life. And absolutely do not go from one relationship to another like a monkey.

Also why the fuck haven’t you divorced yet?

narkj · 2025-07-12T11:12:15+00:00

Spared-No-Expense · 2025-07-12T10:57:26+00:00

ummm she was being there for someone who's sibling past? and you want to break up with her for not seeing your family in town? priorities man...

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-07-12T10:26:14+00:00

She wants back because you have a gf, when she ruins that relationship, she'll leave again.

Pullout66 · 2025-07-12T08:41:16+00:00

maturin_nj · 2025-07-13T05:11:16+00:00

Grow some and dump them both. Or are you a registered dumped. The guy below is right, your wife found a better option and your the fallback plan. Nice guys get crushed.

Title	Should I Take Her back?
Author	Vegetable_Building_2
Upvotes	3
Comments	31
Date	July 11, 2025 11:44 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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