do non red pill men exist?

xvszero · 2026-05-03T19:50:53+00:00

He's just gaslighting you because that's what red pill men do.

Ayo-01 · 2026-05-03T19:50:54+00:00

Red-Pill men are a small minority of men that mostly exist on the internet. There are lots and lots of men who don’t even know what a “red-pill” even is.

VisceralSardonic · 2026-05-03T19:48:05+00:00

Yes, and they’re the vast, vast majority of men.

A redpill man saying “I’m the best you’re ever going to get and there are no options but me and worse versions of me” is like one of those lotion kiosk salesmen chasing you in the mall telling you that their lotion is the best in the world and nothing else will keep your skin from literally flaking off. He’s just desperately hoping that you’re not part of the 98% of people smart enough to walk away from what he’s selling.

The real world has absolutely nothing to do with the red pill, I promise.

Ok-Abbreviations999 · 2026-05-03T20:30:58+00:00

There are a lot of healthy minded men who don't believe in the redpill nonsense and find it pathetic.

Trepptopus · 2026-05-03T20:49:49+00:00

Yes. Most openly left wing men find the manosphere stupid and repulsive. Such men can still be misogynistic or abusive so you still gotta do your due diligence. The trick is finding men who genuinely like women as people not just sex objects. Lots of straight men hate women and that's why the redpill appeals to men because it offers community with other men and an easy "enemy" for men who already don't see women as true equals or sometimes even as fully human

Er3016 · 2026-05-03T19:47:02+00:00

samanthasamuels22 · 2026-05-03T20:05:28+00:00

I’m going to be very honest, most males don’t say they support red pill, but the patriarchy and misogyny is very ingrained in global culture. There is a reason the birth rates are low and most women don’t even want to date or get married anymore.

The real stress test is how do males react when you are financially successful, even if you make less money than them, but just enough to independently support yourself, how do they react when you don’t sympathize with their grievances simply because you don’t want to emotionally support them, how do they react to you saying no, setting boundaries, expecting consent and not giving consent.

I find a lot of males have not deconstructed the patriarchy and misogyny even if they say are not red pill.

Fine-Equivalent-6398 · 2026-05-04T02:50:17+00:00

Oh, dear, the world is so much bigger than his cute little friend group

Odimorsus · 2026-05-04T02:29:56+00:00

EASILY. He’s trying to use the oldest trick in the book.

XhaLaLa · 2026-05-04T17:01:50+00:00

They do exist. In some pockets they are the norm. Unfortunately they aren’t evenly distributed throughout the population. People exist where they are tolerated, so there are pockets where red pill and other more overt and/or extreme forms of misogyny are tolerated and may be the norm and pockets where they generally are not, and the misogyny has to stay further under the radar.

In my experience, while that doesn’t mean the misogyny/sexism goes away, it looks and feels very different when it stems from ordinary defensiveness over their own past actions possibly being implied to be morally incorrect (something people do get quite defensive about, I don’t mean to imply otherwise) versus when it stems from the very moral foundation of all your actions being called morally incorrect.

At the same time, that kind of unjust/inequitable/cruel social dynamic isn’t especially tolerable to people who genuinely view women as full human beings, so they don’t tend to last in circles where that is the baseline culture either. If you’re in a social pocket with a lot of red pill or otherwise overtly misogynist men, while the kind of men you would actually like to interact with do exist broadly, you probably need to step outside of your current social circle to find them.

Different geographical areas often have different baseline norms (because people aren’t just waking up and deciding to be bigots), but also those different pockets can coexist within the same geographical area. Like most people, I exist in a few different social circles (different branches of my family, different friend groups, current and past jobs, etc.), and there are considerable differences in the social norms between all of them, despite largely all being in the same general area. Even if you do have better pockets available, you may have to seek them out and you definitely have to make sure that you yourself continue to unpack the misogyny (and other bigotry) we all absorb so that those people are whom you gravitate toward and so you’re the same for them (I don’t have a great way of explaining this one succinctly just now, and this comment is already so long and rambling, but let me know if you want me to expand on that).

sunny_side_egg · 2026-05-05T21:58:43+00:00

Well this sub is mostly full of non red pill men. Most are ex red pill, some never have been but are lurking out of curiosity or wanting to help.

Even if that stat about gen z is correct, that's still 2/3 guys who aren't total chuds right now, and some will improve in time.

Rad1Red · 2026-05-03T20:49:09+00:00

Yes, my friend, take heart. I've surrounded myself with them, even in a place where misogyny and redpill thinking are prevalent.

Assholes sure like you to think there aren't any normal men out there, who aren't misogynistic, pornbrained etc, because that may give women confidence and spoil their market.

Find your tribe. They exist.

EdgewaterEnchantress · 2026-05-04T03:52:40+00:00

You absolutely can find guys who are not red-pill! You simply have to stop hanging out with guys like your BF because they hang out with each other since nobody reasonable wants to hang out with them.

Purplelady88 · 2026-05-04T05:14:21+00:00

Don't use dating apps, that's where you'll find the most red pills. Try to meet a man in real life who is engaged in his own interests, not some frustrated guy glued to a screen consuming misogynistic content.

Desperate_Key6142 · 2026-05-05T13:14:21+00:00

I think its nuanced. A lot of men in the RP space will grow up and leave it as they get older. RP often exists as a temporary stop gap for young men who dont have much going for them either romantically or otherwise.

I say this because ive seen it happen a lot. A lot of formerly rp men change their tune in their mid 20s to 30s.

terribletheodore3 · 2026-05-05T23:16:35+00:00

Non-red pill man (taken) but I am pretty sure I exist.

imhereforthemeta · 2026-05-03T21:38:16+00:00

How old are you? I have a number of friends who are a bit younger who say that they tend to date millennial aged guys because they can find more feminists. Can confirm that my husband is definitely one of them.

MaverisStranger · 2026-05-03T21:28:23+00:00

Yes, there are non redpill guys out there, you best believe that.

ReynartTheFox · 2026-05-03T21:55:33+00:00

Yes, there are still a lot of good men out there. Took me a while to find mine, but I wouldn't give him up for anything.

Don't worry, you will find your person 🩷 🫂

Silver_Archer96 · 2026-05-07T13:27:11+00:00

Yes. I am a masculine man, and I am obedient to my partner. I am 30s, masculine, and I wouldn’t dare tell her what to do.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2026-05-03T21:52:38+00:00

A weird part of life is discovering that there are just some social circles that are very cursed. his friend group is one of them.

EquivalentSnap · 2026-05-03T21:45:40+00:00

Yeah of course they exist

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2026-05-03T21:49:27+00:00

Many of them are this way but not all of them and frankly I don't know a single man without some amount of misogyny towards women. So anyway, I stopped dating 5 years ago

Apart-Cookie-8984 · 2026-05-03T22:52:19+00:00

Yes, and he's full of shit. He's saying that to you as a gaslight attempt.

I'm glad you dropped that fucking loser. Please take time for yourself that you need. 🫶🏼

PickledRoofTop · 2026-05-27T01:13:50+00:00

Real! I'm a genz woman and I just don't date right now. When I come across a guy who isn't racist, sexist, etc., then maybe I'll get into dating.

Fit-Divide3222 · 2026-06-01T02:30:54+00:00

You could probably find one if you searched hard enough but it would be difficult.

Ppyplant · 2026-05-03T22:24:41+00:00

Yes very much so

CognitiveDissident79 · 2026-05-09T13:15:25+00:00

You have to be really careful out there and vet thoroughly any man you give a second of your precious time to. Men will lie about their politics, ideology, religion and anything else if they think it increases their chances of getting in your pants. Even the “good”ones.

lawrencep93 · 2026-05-03T21:56:10+00:00

I went down the red pill path but would call myself non red pill now I realised most of the red pill is just low testosterone sooky men who think they are better than other low testosterone sooky men

Upper_Advantage5091 · 2026-05-07T21:45:02+00:00

Yes but they're all cucks

Title	do non red pill men exist?
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Date	May 3, 2026 7:40 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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