A theory: ostensibly straight men that don’t eat pussy are possibly homosexuals

4herlight · 2020-01-08T07:04:19+00:00

Not sure if a man who doesn't eat out is necessarily gay (or asexual???), but he's certainly an automatic NEXT from me...

I can't date a man who feels like he needs to put on a fucking hazmat suit to go down on me. I know I'm clean and good, so that "ew" attitude is so offensive to me, I won't accept it.

blackopium777 · 2020-01-08T02:38:47+00:00

I dont think its a rule. We have to acknowledge that oral is and always will be not for everyone. I absolutely hate to have genitals near my mouth and I can understand anyone feeling the same. BUT not even wanting to touch or finger a woman does seem pretty weird! Also its important to not let any man dictate your sexual life. If you like oral and your partner doesnt, just leave. Sexual compatibility is important and you shouldnt compromise, since we women have to compromise on everything else it seems.

s_slayer · 2020-01-08T08:37:34+00:00

I don’t know if they’re gay but I do know they are selfish as fuck. I dated a guy for awhile then things surrounding his ex and child were just too complicated so we broke up, but I still hook up with him once in awhile. He gained quite a bit of weight since our breakup, but after a few drinks I can get into it because I just like his style. He LOVES going down there, it turns him on and he will do it happily for as long as it takes. He is probably 4” too but I’m ok with that b/c of his devotion to getting me off orally. He’s also passionate and will kiss my neck and face which so few guys ever do. Men are so porn sick they don’t even want to kiss. They would prefer to jump right into to getting their dicks wet. This guy puts my pleasure way before his, and he always takes care of me first. It’s just so sad how many women are not getting to experience this, and no we don’t want it if you do it begrudgingly. Something is so wrong with the state of men these days! All I know is, I am not interested in at all in men who won’t do that. It says a lot about them. I’m not sure they like women all that much. Maybe not gay, but they have issues with women for sure imo.

Itchy-Transportation · 2020-01-08T06:53:38+00:00

did yall see the linked post on here recently about the married woman whose partner hadn't gone down on her once in their 13 year relationship? it's such a red flag for me. why would i want a man who is icked out by being up close and personal in a part of my body that gives him such pleasure, and could give him a child? why would i choose that when i could choose a man who lives to pleasure me?

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-08T02:46:20+00:00

Just about every man I dated wanted to have his face in my cat all the time. They'd salivate at the thought and beg me to sit on their face. I wouldn't even be comfortable dating a man who wouldn't because it's so wildly bizarre to me.

And I do think you hit something there. That's the only thing stopping me from dating women. I'm not interested in other women's vaginas at all.

HesterLePrynne · 2020-01-08T02:24:12+00:00

Eats all the dick in town 🤣😂🤣😂

s_slayer · 2020-01-08T08:51:54+00:00

I just wanted to add, when I was about 25, I stupidly started hooking up with a 40 yr old narcissist from my work. One of the other ladies who worked there who was very nice and about 50 and came up to me one day to ask if he and I were dating. I said yes. Her eyes started watering and she looked sad and told me that she had hooked up with him a few times and it was a humiliating thing for her because he wiped her vagina down with a washrag before they had sex. He hadn’t done that to me, I think b/c he felt so lucky to be with someone my age that he didn’t want to fuck things up. I was really turned off by him after hearing how he treated this poor woman. Anyway, he turned out to be a real jerk and I broke things off. I just think some guys view vagina as dirty. Not my problem, they can move right along, or accept that they aren’t getting any head from me that’s for damn sure.

fdsthrowaway · 2020-01-08T10:23:02+00:00

A heterosexual man who isn’t all about my pussy is bizarre. Period. I’ve never dated a guy who wasn’t really, really into pussy - like looking, touching, tasting. I feel the same way about dick so...

perhapsbutnottoday · 2020-01-08T15:08:25+00:00

I learned very early in the game that if a man doesn’t initiate the oral game by going down on me, I will never put pressure on myself to suck him off. No exceptions. Not afraid to lose a guy over that. I also had a 8 year marriage to a man who was a champion cunninguser so I would rather not be savaged or half 6 tentative licks then he goes for penetration. If a guy can’t or won’t do it, ok,GREAT even. But it means I’m not choking on stinking precum and having his hands on my head “ guiding me” either . Win for me.

BUT...

I better climax from PIV and I’m not gonna help him with fake moans either. I ain’t your coach, dude.

Guys fail woefully when they don’t realize cunnilingus is a cheat sheet. A woman will orgasm from it and their goals of being seen as some sex god are attainable. Funny thing is the A1 players know this and keep their status, long lines of women who want to sleep with them by keeping a good tongue game-and they don’t tell other guys this. They actually join them in trolling to describe vagina as tuna, dirty pennies etc so they have less competition. They ain’t loyal. They’re out there eating boxes fresh out of gym clothes, a night of dancing or a long day at work too not the “ only if she’s freshly showered I’ll lick it” these other dudes say like it’s a birthday present or something.

I work with a lot of young guys , 20s, who are sometimes baffled when they see an average or 5/10 guy with a gorgeous woman who seems crazy about him. “ he eats her out” I’ll say and they’ll rush to myopic PUA and red pill explanations like he has 12 inches ( as if that’s of any value to a woman) or he’s rich when the guy is clearly a Joe Schmo. But I’m done stating the obvious to them. They will die out. I just enforce it in my life.

If a guy won’t lick me to satisfaction and can’t make me climax with piv clearly he’s not getting a blow job and he’s on his way out. Men don’t know how disposable they are when they don’t worship the box like they know they should. Couple that with one who demands a blow job and I’m ready to just shoot him!

ThinkTofu · 2020-01-08T18:12:49+00:00

My first boyfriend was exactly like this.

He wanted blowjobs only. He would eventually have sex with me if I complained a lot, and hated going down on me. He'd tell me that it was "boring" and that my kitty cat was "gross".

Dumped him after 1.5 years, he kept trying to get back together by saying he'd actually do that stuff with me. No thanks.

8 years later he has a boyfriend.

Surprise? NOPE.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-01-08T03:44:07+00:00

If he acts grossed out about going down on women, or thinks vaginas are ugly, that is a big GIANT red flag for homosexuality IMO.

aclumsygirl · 2020-01-08T04:17:11+00:00

Makes sense to me. I have never EVER been involved with a man who wasn't wildly enthusiastic about going down on me. A guy who won't give head has some serious sexual hangups. Denial of homosexuality could easily be one of them.

penelopekitty · 2020-01-08T13:05:42+00:00

I agree with you. Ex-husband would do it, but he was only going through the motions. I often thought he was suppressed gay for this and other reasons. Now, I had never had this situation before him or since. Almost every other man I've been with was all about it. Men who don't totally love pussy, taste, look and smell definitely have sexual hang-ups or are likely gay.

TragicxPeach · 2020-01-08T16:59:58+00:00

Well shit maybe I'm a lesbian.

thewetdog_ · 2020-01-08T02:17:35+00:00

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TBearRyder · 2020-01-08T02:48:35+00:00

I do think they are gay and honestly Idl men who date women for years knowing they are gay. I guess it’s a chance they don’t know at 26 (your friend) but I find that hard to believe. And for your ex.... I’d say gay personally.

mrCNeverSleeping · 2020-01-08T02:29:32+00:00

Enjoyed reading this, you wrote well... the way you phrased it to recent ex makes sense.... interesting thoughts... watching :) .

TokiMarvel · 2020-01-08T16:42:36+00:00

Possibly. Do they also dislike sex in general with women? This has me thinking about mine who whined that I wasn’t into it and stopped altogether. Well, I’m never putting your member anywhere near my face. That was a given before, now I’m not even trying. Maybe one day I’ll learn for a deserving HVM who becomes my husband. But not these scamps.

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Lurkinglarkspur · 2020-01-08T05:46:13+00:00

I've gotta come down on the other side of this. As much as our brains like putting things in neat organized boxes, sexuality is a spectrum. I'm happy to give kitty a tongue bath, I'm also happy to give head, but hell no I absolutely do not want anyone's mouth near my genitals at any time for any purpose absolute iron wall with machine gun turrets not gonna fucking happen. I have actually balked and walked out of a dude's house not wearing pants when he pushed that boundary. The human mouth is bloody fucking disgusting and I have to deal with enough damn utis and ph imbalances from one pair of hands and one dick that there is zero chance of me opening the door to what the hell ever horrors having a tongue there would invite. It's an instant turn off that sends my ovaries running. And it has zero bearing on my actual sexual orientation. This whole thing sounds like you're reaching to provide some content and receive validation. If you have feels about this dude, feel free to vent. But please do not undermine the innumerable potential sexual identities of the people around you. That's not classy.

Title	A theory: ostensibly straight men that don’t eat pussy are possibly homosexuals
Author	thewetdog_
Upvotes	61
Comments	31
Date	January 8, 2020 2:07 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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