Another Cringey Article Glamorizing Polygamy as Being More 'Secure' and 'Open-Minded': "My Husband's Girlfriend Is One Of My Best Friends. Here's How Our Family Works."

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-12-21T01:10:02+00:00

What bothers me even more besides the tone throughout the article (which seems very "OF COURSE I am OK with it and not jealous and I SO love his girlfriend" lady doth protest too much-ish) is that when it was shared on Facebook, someone commented that it reeks of self-esteem issues and a bunch of PickMes commented that "No, someone has to be very secure to not be jealous, this is high self-esteem" as if people have to be OK with sharing their partner to be seen as secure. I don't know the writer personally so I don't know whether she really feels the way she claims in the article or not (my sense is that she's trying to convince herself her situation is OK), but I just so dislike this insinuation from people reading the article that if you're not OK with it you're somehow insecure. It sends such a bad message to women.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-12-21T01:28:28+00:00

I wish women would get in the habit of asking themselves who benefits from these arrangements. It sure as fuck isn't them

whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-12-21T01:15:26+00:00

This is sad. It reads as passive and detached to the point of dissociation. Those jealousy pangs are her actual self coming through before she locks them down.

I just hope they're saving for therapy as well as college funds for those kids.

radical__daphne · 2021-12-21T04:56:02+00:00

If you told a man to prove he's really mature and secure he should let a hotter younger taller buffer man with a bigger penis fuck his wife/girlfriend he would laugh in your face.

Sage_Planter · 2021-12-21T05:21:59+00:00

It sounds like the author and her husband have found themselves a bangmaid. The girlfriend sleeps with the husband, cooks family dinner, and babysits the kids for extended periods of time...? What the hells is she getting out of this arrangement aside from dick and dishes to wash?

Edit: To add, I feel really sorry for the girlfriend. I hope she recognizes that her needs are important, too, and she's being taken advantage of. She deserves more.

Carneliancat · 2021-12-21T03:39:37+00:00

These mental gymnastics are Olympic-worthy.

vaguelinen · 2021-12-21T13:09:59+00:00

I’m secure and open-minded. I’m secure because my boyfriend is faithful and adores me and despite being an independent single mum, I’m increasingly open to the ideal of marrying him… because I’m secure due to him proving repeatedly how he respects and cares for me. What a crazy way to approach relationships 🙄

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-12-21T03:14:27+00:00

This is so sad. I've struggled with self esteem issues just like many other women but I can't for the life of me imagine agreeing to this kind of bullshit scenario.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-12-21T04:31:16+00:00

In case I miss one of these poly posts, would someone please post the Chris Fleming Polyamorous song in my stead? https://youtu.be/DTsdKycVZZ4

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-12-21T08:44:29+00:00

Huffington Post. Why am I not suprised.

TheHistoryMachine · 2021-12-21T14:32:23+00:00

The brainwashing, it is strong in her.

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-12-21T08:33:39+00:00

Every day I become convinced that evangelical Christian women are actually more feminist than sex positive lib fems… change my mind

Optical_Optimus · 2021-12-21T11:43:53+00:00

ok, wtf did i just read, i need a lot of bleach for my eyes☠️

Title	Another Cringey Article Glamorizing Polygamy as Being More 'Secure' and 'Open-Minded': "My Husband's Girlfriend Is One Of My Best Friends. Here's How Our Family Works."
Author	thepsychopathhunter
Upvotes	239
Comments	39
Date	December 21, 2021 1:04 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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