Nearly every divorced person I know has one statement in common: they knew, well before the divorce, that they should have broken up the first time their psyche told them so.

It's really tempting to talk yourself into a dynamic that you know, deep down, in your heart of hearts, isn't right for you.

Perhaps there's promise of change or you think that "all relationships take work" or you feel like an asshole for wanting to end it when there's nothing wrong like cheating or abuse. But. Do yourself a favor and don't be a bystander in your own life. LISTEN to those doubts.

A woman's path from "casually seeing a stoner gamer dude that is fun for now" and "tied down and has no time for friends or hobbies because she's the one doing it all" is really, really, really slow and creeps in.