Female intuition

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-06-14T19:55:31+00:00

You might be interested in reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. Intuition is a survival mechanism.

2020-06-14T19:54:14+00:00

I trust my gut all the time now. And I don’t feel bad about it and don’t try to explain myself. Unfortunately I trust myself because I learned some hard lessons first.

sofiacarolina · 2020-06-14T22:15:04+00:00

We've been gaslit and dismissed by society to give guys a chance no matter how we may feel or we're bitches. We need to relearn how to trust our bodies and our feelings, which includes our intuition. It's a vital part of the healing/leveling up process. It'll save us from time wasted and it'll save us from life-threatening situations.

delishtis · 2020-06-14T20:41:11+00:00

Def had this multiple times but once that stuck out to me was going on a first date with a guy. Nothing bad happened. He didn't give off creeper vibes or anything. But after the first date, we parted ways and afterwards, I burst out into tears. Though he never said or did anything wrong/mean the whole experience felt like I was a cat being pet from tail to head.

Wasn't right. Turns out, I'd waste 8 months of my life on that guy. Never again.

harrohamtaro · 2020-06-14T22:48:10+00:00

It’s self-preservation. I have been on dates with a guy who did everything right, but there was something that just felt very off and iffy about him. Your gut instinct perceives the situation more clearly than your brain, which could be in denial.

CeriseNoire · 2020-06-14T21:30:12+00:00

My friend's ex. Hated him on sight. I thought he was disgusting just from him opening his lazy mouth to squeeze out a hi. Looking at him, knowing about his existence, depressed me. I begged her to leave him, she wouldn't even though the relationship was horrifying. He fucked her whole life up and left lasting scars. If you feel it don't bother telling yourself that it's nothing.

veruscka · 2020-06-14T21:26:03+00:00

If someone makes you feel ill at ease, there’s always a reason why.

aquasanguine · 2020-06-14T21:23:43+00:00

I’ve always been right.

kwallio · 2020-06-14T23:16:27+00:00

Every time I've attempted to gaslight myself and force myself into a situation that feels off or weird I regret it. I have never regretted noping out of a situation. Trust your instincts!

naamshiko · 2020-06-15T00:21:29+00:00

Not in the 'creepy' way but I've always had a gut feeling that the man I was seeing was cheating and it would awaken exactly at the moment he was doing it. It's never done me wrong and I've busted them every. single. time 🤣

4E4ME · 2020-06-15T01:08:03+00:00

The thing about trusting your intuition is, if you do, 99% of the time you will never know if you made the "right" decision. Because you will not have stuck around long enough to figure out exactly what had your hackles up, exactly what the red flag was. So, since we are conditioned to be "nice" we second guess our own intuition.

ALWAYS trust your intuition, even if you have zero idea of what exactly is the thing that is bothering you. And just tell yourself that you definitely made the right decision.

fiercefinance · 2020-06-15T04:45:28+00:00

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willowwynn · 2020-06-15T05:33:21+00:00

A couple years ago I met this man on Bumble, we went out for a couple of dates. He was successful and charming, called me on the phone to chat, had his own house, etc. but something seemed just off about him. I wrote it off as him being a little awkward because he was a nerdy type of guy but something just didn’t sit right. Well eventually I googled him and it turns out he had stabbed and killed his own brother to death 👀

NEVER doubt your intuition ever!

CedarBrush01 · 2020-06-14T23:30:39+00:00

One time, I had been asked on a date with a guy I met on OLD. In the hours leading up to the date, I felt like I was going to violently puke and my fight or flight response was off the charts, despite having walked alone for two hours before the set meetup time? I finally cancelled the date 15 minutes before the date was meant to happen. As soon as I blocked him, I felt good again, as if nothing had happened. I am almost 100% certain he would've raped me had we met.

I also have this talent for looking at pics and figuring out their intentions. I don't even have to meet them, but it works because they all eventually get outed as narcs/abusers/etc. There is something about the eyes that gives them away.

Edited: spelling

nymphaetamine · 2020-06-15T12:21:46+00:00

My gut has never once been wrong and I’ve regretted it every time I didn’t trust the bad feeling I had about a person or situation. Even if you have anxiety, depression, ptsd, whatever, your gut still works and you should always trust it.

gottalovesunrise · 2020-06-15T13:21:46+00:00

Had it a bunch of times, always listened to it. Sometimes, I was being the "bitchy" one, but I still prefer that than having to deal with a bunch of red flags and their trauma.

honeybeeroll · 2020-07-15T05:50:15+00:00

There's definitely a reason. Listen to it and don't worry if you were wrong - the whole point is you don't want to stick around to prove or disprove it. This is your safwtu, not a science experiment.

I've learned myself I need to trust it. Few times my gut has said "this is wrong" I said I'm being unreasonable, bc I know I'm sensitive and not very good at seeing things outside my own perspective. But at those times, in hindsight my gut was right. Even as a kid - there was this teacher in my middle school all the girls knew was a creep. Like we were 11 and 12 and could tell. He never did anything that would've gotten him arrested, but he just gave off this vibe. For ex he did stuff like once he told a girl she had a hole in her stockings, and the hole was really high up on her thigh. Like why did he notice. Once my pc froze during class, I had to call him over, and instead of standing to my right to handle the mouse/keyboard like a normal person, he stood behind my chair and put both arms on the desk on either side of me.

Well lo and behold, he got caught by police through one of those pedo catfishing programs and was then a proven pedophile 🙃. Wasn't the last creepy teacher I had either, although the one from hs was way more subtle, most girls thought he was cool, and he never got caught (his creepiness was confirmed when my friend told me he either gave his # to or asked her older sister for her # when she graduated).

When I think back on it, it's sad how none of us shared our gut feelings with our parents, we honestly just accepted that his being creepy was something we had to deal with. So yeah...trust your gut! When it comes to men I think our gut feelings haven't been messed up by social conditioning the way our minds have, and are a better source

Lenaisstillcool · 2020-06-15T14:00:25+00:00

It is ALWAYS right.

Anytime I've doubted it I've regretted it. I trust myself now.

bt21shooky · 2020-06-14T23:24:27+00:00

When my sister and I were teenagers living at home, a friend of hers came to stay with us for a few weeks. Something about him felt "off" to me and I was wary, but not sure why. To cut a long story short, I found out from Facebook that he'd been following one of my sister's classmates around (this girl and my sister were both 15-16, the guy was 18-19) and "joked" to his mates about raping said classmate. At the time, I didn't want to say anything because I didn't want to admit I had snooped through my sister's Facebook messages - our family had only one laptop and she had forgotten to log out. He left a couple of weeks later but I would never keep quiet about something like that now

SlimThicModel · 2020-06-15T00:25:48+00:00

Not really with people, but definitely with places. Every time I get a bad feeling about a certain area, something bad happens in it weeks or months later. One time I got a bad feeling about this area, nothing bad happened, but a few weeks later I went there again and a guy started stalking me. I was terrified. Luckily I outran and lost him.

With people, I’ve definitely had bad feelings about other girls, and I’m always wrong because it always turns out that they’re nice and we end up being friends lol. And other girls that I had a “good feeling” about end up turning on me and causing me the most drama. It’s never the ones my gut initially expects, so can’t say I can trust my intuition in regards to women.

the_loudest_argh · 2020-06-15T06:32:44+00:00

In my early teen years, I had a friend. We were close and were chatting for a year or two. Maybe even for a longer period of time, I don't remember clearly. I started liking him and I was thinking that if he confesses I will be happy and so on. However, when he confessed I didn't feel happy or good. For some reason, I felt really uncomfortable and strange. It was similar to the way you feel when you read a horror story, Idk. Anyway, I politely rejected him. And then the shit started.

He was asking me to give him a chance, he was whining, he was saying that nobody else will love me that much, he was saying that others will just manipulate me, he was writing our mutual friends, he was writing my friends, he was saying that I'm abusing him, he was saying that he wants me to beat him, he was saying that I cheated on him that way, he was saying that he's gonna cut himself, he was saying that he wants me to cut him, he was threatening a guy who literally just commented on my photo and added me on social media, he was saying that he wants to come to my city to talk to me irl.

I honestly think that I'm lucky that we were living in different parts of the country. This shit lasted for 4 months. I don't remember when and why he stopped. Maybe it got too boring because I started ignoring him. We were in the same chat room and this chatroom was important for us. This is the only reason why this shit was happening for such a long time period. However, now I see that the chatroom was kind of toxic since some people wouldn't see that his behavior is hella scary and would think that it's just "our" problem. Now, thankfully, I choose my surroundings wisely. Though the thought of meeting someone like that in real life makes me feel very uncomfortable.

penelopekitty · 2020-06-15T11:23:09+00:00

My intuition is right 100% of the time.

Title	Female intuition
Author	Pure-Platform
Upvotes	90
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Date	June 14, 2020 7:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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