I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...

MsWriteNow07 · 2021-12-21T19:21:23+00:00

True story: And when I came home at Thanksgiving my mom was telling me that unfortunately the wife of neighboring couple has Alzheimer’s. My mom discovered this when she saw that their car door was open for hours, so she went over to see if everything was alright. The lady was in her kitchen, which faces onto the porch. They were looking at each other for the kitchen window. Although she has known my mother for 40 years, she didn’t recognize her, so she didn’t open the door when my mother called out and knocked. Eventually, the husband comes to the door, explains everything, locks the car, and thanks for my mom for her concern.

Anyway as my mother is telling me the story, I say what was Mrs. Neighbor doing in the kitchen. Washing the dishes, she tells me! “Washing the dishes,” I exclaimed. That’s extremely dangerous on so many levels. She could scald herself in the hot water, cut herself with knives, etc. I don’t even think this woman should be in the kitchen unsupervised. And when I mentioned this, my mom said “well,” someone has to do it.” I pointed out that her husband is able bodied and apparently in his right mind. And my mom responded he probably didn’t know how to wash the dishes because he’s almost 90. Bruh, does he know how to bathe? Same concept, it’s water and soap! But every day I’m reminded that this is the world that we live in. No matter how much women may go through, we are expected to be competent and take care of everything. In this case a woman with advancing Alzheimer’s, who cannot even recognize people she has known for decades, is considered more competent to do the household work than her husband. I CANNOT

Kylie_Fan · 2021-12-21T17:13:51+00:00

Reminds me of that abhorrent interview with SIR David Attenbourough who is in the same situation after his wife died.

misandryismadeup · 2021-12-21T17:55:27+00:00

This is why women should get full custody.

I feel sorry for any girl who’s mother dies as she won’t have a fully functioning parent & most likely has to become one herself as men are useless creatures.

kettleodumplins · 2021-12-21T17:38:15+00:00

I'm not saying this to be cruel, but if he cannot perform the simple task a picking up a cookbook or watching a YouTube video with explicit instructions on assembling a simple meal, then he needs an occupational therapist more than a meal service.

This is the sad effect of placing mental and physical labor and accountability for everyday tasks on women. Women die earlier than they should, and their (mostly female) children have to look after the men that ~~can't~~ won't take care of themselves.

I've worked in kitchens and I can say that anyone at any level of ineptitude or inebriation can learn to cook something simple. I can almost guarantee that this man has, at some point in his life, made a comment about people that choose to "flip burgers" rather than building the skills to advance in their career. The irony.

Sage_Planter · 2021-12-21T17:35:51+00:00

This is why men rush to remarry after a divorce or death. They can't take care of themselves, and they have zero interest in learning.

Don't marry a man like this unless you want to be a caretaker for the rest of your life. We can retire from our careers and enjoy our old age, but if you're the one who's been managing the household either as a SAHM or on top of a career, you will never get a break. The man gets to do whatever he wants and "enjoy his old age" while the woman has to keep up with the chores, errands, appointments...

Golden_Lavender · 2021-12-21T17:21:42+00:00

Malnutrition in the older population (specifically men) is a real problem because they come from a generation of no life skills related to domestic work.

NemesisNoire · 2021-12-21T18:41:35+00:00

I mean there is an obvious market for meals on wheels for men of all ages...maybe ill run a kickstarter for a new business lol

millennialpink2000 · 2021-12-21T17:16:25+00:00

Can't wait for men who refuse to use their own arms to feed themselves starve

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-12-21T19:30:25+00:00

And this is the same species that used to hunt mammoths to feed themselves 🤦‍♀️

ItsFreezen · 2021-12-21T21:25:09+00:00

Scrotes will mansplain your life to you, but won't learn how to cook. This is weaponized incompetence.

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-21T17:45:15+00:00

Ladies if any of you have sons, please make sure they learn to make some food as kids and can feed themselves by the time they are teenagers. Omelettes, salads, pasta, grilled stuff. It is not hard.

MsWriteNow07 · 2021-12-21T19:10:54+00:00

If you are an adult, if you can read, you can cook. I was making eggs and pancakes as a fun weekend activity by eight. Moved on to roasting chickens and putting together meals by 12. When an adult human being tells me they can’t cook, I judge them because it is not hard. When an adult man who has/had a responsible job says it, I know he’s just a lazy, entitled prick. Watch Food Network for a week and read a cookbook and you’ll be able to cook.

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Title	I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...
Author	sherrybby
Upvotes	269
Comments	43
Date	December 21, 2021 3:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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