Ladies, it is so important to vet, vet, vet. We need to normalize leaving at the sign of the first red flag and STOP making excuses. “Oh, he’s just having a bad day. Maybe he’ll be nice and respond tomorrow. It’s because he had a horrible childhood. He really loves me.” NO! No more ladies! We are not doing it anymore.

I heard a psychologist say in an a podcast one time that “women do not leave relationships early enough”. It hit me so in the gut - I’ve always stayed too damn long!

If I had never left my ex, he would have destroyed my career, my savings, and I may or may not have ended up in a ward due to all the emotional abuse he put me through I literally thought I was going insane. My life would have been absolutely different to now because I chose the wrong person to let in! I’m also still reeling and recovering from my college relationship almost 10 years ago because I was so emotionally abused and didn’t leave early enough! I constantly think about the type of person-who I would have become if I would if I hadn’t met them. For the ladies who are thinking - oh but I really love him - well I loved all of my previous boyfriends but they are now complete strangers to me, so.

Let’s normalize leaving early!