It’s all about expectations

persephones_torch · 2020-02-23T19:41:20+00:00

Porn has ruined our perception of human bodies that's for sure

Lakersrock111 · 2020-02-24T00:28:02+00:00

Ya I love my triangle bush! It’s sexy and womanly!! And if a male can’t handle that, then he can go have sex with someone else!!

myousername · 2020-02-23T19:29:36+00:00

The notion that women's nether regions must be hairless, poreless, and smooth is borderline pedophilic. Literally only pre-pubescent girls have that.

ivy176 · 2020-02-24T02:06:33+00:00

I remember my ex used to say he'd be willing to scrub his dick a bit with a wet towel if I say I'll do something sexual. Like not even a shower, and he hadn't showered for days. Ughhh. So tempting, right? It was a dead bedroom situation in the end, obviously!

Now a man must have a shower directly before we have sex, that's a rule I have. I don't care if it's a bit inconvenient. If he won't shower then he's clearly not that into doing it with me, so I automatically will lose interest anyway. I even tell him what soap he can use and ban him from using cologne down there. You'd be surprised how many guys spray their groin with body sprays and things, and I don't want irritation or UTIs. It's my body you're going to be putting yourself in, so I say what goes.

VaporwaveVampire · 2020-02-24T01:27:13+00:00

I always told myself I shaved for myself and because it makes me feel clean and hygienic, but when I think about it on a deeper level, I do it because I’ve been told subconsciously it’s gross to have body hair.

M1nette · 2020-02-24T05:30:58+00:00

Frankly, if women stopped catering to those ideas, men would have no choice but to take what they get.

camillaroses · 2020-02-24T04:09:17+00:00

I was talking to a seemingly perfect checked-all-boxes man recently. Was so excited. Until we were FaceTiming and he said, and I quote “if you want me to spend any time down there I’ll need you to wax first”. Gross. Pass. Bye.

hikerkay · 2020-02-24T00:41:14+00:00

normalizethebush

WillowFreak · 2020-02-24T01:21:08+00:00

Mine isn't a landing strip as much as an abandoned air field that only experienced pilots can land in. Paraphrased from Kate McKinnon on Saturday Night Live

ivy176 · 2020-02-23T21:15:14+00:00

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2020-02-24T02:18:52+00:00

I’ve always found it interesting that women are supposed to be hairless EXCEPT on their scalps, where they are expected to have long shiny manes. If that ain’t indicative of patriarchal slow-down oppression I don’t know what is.

CloacaDiddler · 2020-02-24T00:55:49+00:00

And yet I still get in fights with guys about how swiping a tongue at a clean, well groomed pussy is SO much worse than ramming an entire smelly rod of weird tasting meat down your entire mouth and throat. Funny enough none of these men have experience sucking dick, just know that THEIRS is the rod of gods, and yknow, women seem so into the blowjobs in porn. Hookers even gave their buddy one for free once, I think, because it’s so fun or something...maybe...

To be fair, I prefer less hair in places where lots of sweat accumulates. Armpits and genitals should be shaved/trimmed for both genders, in my preference. I don’t like sucking a dick that has long hairs all the way up the shaft, but that’s my preference and I don’t make anyone feel bad about it. Still, the expectation that men will be scraggly monsters and women MUST look like fresh china dolls is so unbalanced that you can’t help but dissect the reasoning behind it. Surprise! It’s misogyny.

jesza09 · 2020-02-24T03:04:38+00:00

I don’t shave or do any sort of hair removal down there anymore, just a little trim when I have my period for my own comfort. I absolutely could not be with a man who preferred hairlessness

ny-lady · 2020-02-24T02:54:17+00:00

Hair is protection, its there for a reason like nose hairs and eyelashes. Sure do a nice trim but dont think you have to be bald!

Any man Ive been with has no issue with some hair.

Id rather a man not be bald, just trim it up a bit and look like a man not a bald 13 year old boy.

To add, frankly the 5 o' clock shadow down there is like sand paper on my lady part. I like it trimmed so its still soft but not a ' 70's bush'. haha.

JOEYMAMI2015 · 2020-02-24T16:48:09+00:00

Ugh what is up with that? You see way too many fishy, smelly vaginas memes and jokes but not one sweaty balls ones! If men really hated vaginas, the human population would have gone extinct eons ago lol

Saremis · 2020-02-24T13:11:07+00:00

Also I feel less when I am 100% shaved, idk if anyone experienced the same. And shaving that much is bad for your health as risk of infections increases.

rosa_sally · 2020-02-24T20:35:33+00:00

I very much enjoy being completely hairless. I’m hairless irrespective of partner status or time of year. The moment a man gives up grooming, I walk away. It’s completely symbolic of how they feel about you. If they can’t be bothered to trim their balls and have a shower, they won’t bother with any other partner duties.

Datonecatladyukno · 2020-02-23T22:42:43+00:00

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Ninauposkitzipxpe · 2020-02-24T16:36:34+00:00

I never really have shaved (I used to do the bikini line but kept getting infected ingrown hairs), but I've started getting waxes when I know I'll be in a swimsuit. About once a year I'll give 'er a buzzcut because it's just a forest. My bf keeps his pubes super trimmed though and it makes me feel like I should groom. But I don't want to lol.

Title	It’s all about expectations
Author	trula26
Upvotes	1046
Comments	53
Date	February 23, 2020 7:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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