Negging?

Pengtingcalledme · 2020-08-21T15:00:25+00:00

If you didnt feel like it was a compliment then it probably wasn't...

royaldetour · 2020-08-21T17:16:54+00:00

Its 100% a neg. Slicker than amateurish usual, with the plausible deniability but absolutely designed to put you in a position to seek his approval. The 'you pull it off though' is a qualifier. If it's not an outright lovely compliment, it's not a compliment ladies. I bet this chode is deep in the pua bullshit.

ldnsurvival · 2020-08-21T15:51:25+00:00

Definite neg. Implying you would need to be confident (read crazy) to wear that dress and bag because who the fuck would. Dont let him off the hook.

Leavix · 2020-08-21T17:51:55+00:00

He's criticizing you yet still trying to get in your pants as the same time. It's almost impressive if it wasn't so transparent and nauseating

paperbagskirt · 2020-08-21T15:08:07+00:00

Is a bum bag a thing? Or is he just saying your bag looks like something a bum would carry? lol

Mountain_Nectarine_6 · 2020-08-21T16:11:23+00:00

it’s a neg. he’s criticizing your fashion choices. it’s like when people say “wow ashley graham is SO confident for walking the runway in lingerie” (because ashley graham is obese). get my drift? block and delete. he knows what he’s doing.

Incredible_Alligator · 2020-08-21T19:02:06+00:00

It's a neg. A compliment would be that dress and bag look great on you! You have great style! But here he's not actually saying that, just questioning your choices and "confidence".

daisy_0720 · 2020-08-21T19:21:46+00:00

Total neg. "You must be pretty confident" implies that a woman having high confidence is somehow a problem for him. He's also sneakily implying that your outfit is somehow 'crazy' or 'out there', so you'd need delusional levels of confidence to wear it. The "you certainly pull it off though" smacks of 'you're not like other girls.' He's essentially 'approving' of you, like you need his permission to wear whatever the fuck you want.

Translation: Your outfit is awful but I deem you 'attractive' enough to get away with wearing it, unlike most other women.

Notice how he hastily backtracks and quickly changes the subject. He also seems to be very familiar with what a neg is. Most of the decent guys I know wouldn't have a clue, because a) it's not something they'd ever do, and b) they're not lurking around PUA forums to pick up the lingo.

NurseBubbleGum · 2020-08-21T16:12:41+00:00

Its a crappy compliment, a crapliment if you will.

enchantedglow · 2020-08-22T10:40:59+00:00

Neg. He could have just said you look great and leave it at that. As someone else said, if you have to ask, it’s probably not a compliment. Compliments are straight-forward and leave no room for doubt.

nowheyrose · 2020-08-21T16:42:22+00:00

Regardless, if you have to ask, it suggests he has low self-awareness and is sloppy. He should try to make a good first impression with his first message. And anyone who knows any woman at all knows about negging and other shitty OLD tactics lvm use, so they should know better than to cross into potential negging territory.

But for what it's worth this is a neg for sure.

kalrhista · 2020-08-22T07:27:03+00:00

At the least, the fact that he didn’t ask what a neg is would be a red flag that he’s into PUA

Summerisle7 · 2020-08-21T17:12:37+00:00

He's implying that you're too fat to wear the yellow dress. (doesn't even matter whether you're actually overweight or anything, he'd say it to any woman). Or otherwise trying to make you lose confidence. Total neg.

marsupialface · 2020-08-21T14:51:06+00:00

Such a neg, eww

eucalyptusiscool · 2020-08-22T14:49:11+00:00

Please don’t give men the upper hand by allowing them to decide is it’s a compliment or a neg. don’t undermine your opinion, if you feel negged than it was a neg. that’s a textbook neg. if he wanted to compliment you , he would have said the dress and bag are lovely. And if you ask a man if it’s a neg, of course he won’t tell you it’s a neg, that blows up their game .

posprov · 2020-08-21T15:03:51+00:00

A poorly-worded compliment

gracefullrose · 2020-08-21T14:53:37+00:00

I read it as a compliment about your confidence and he made a nice comment about the location which also is a good sign that he is paying attention to your environment not just your body.

2020-09-07T04:15:17+00:00

Lol totally a neg he tried to cover up

throwaway23004345 · 2020-08-21T15:27:29+00:00

I don’t see how it’s a neg? A bum bag is a fanny pack

windowseat4life · 2020-08-21T17:29:09+00:00

I see it as a compliment on your confidence. Bum bags aren't super popular (although they're getting more popular) & you're rocking it. A yellow dress would be a bold color to wear & not many people would have the confidence to wear something that's so bold & makes them stand out like that. And with his follow up response, it definitely seems like more of a compliment.

Title	Negging?
Author	yellowFlowwer
Upvotes	65
Comments	29
Date	August 21, 2020 2:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/idy4iz/negging/
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