No more ride or die

jojosbabymoms · 2020-01-26T08:30:20+00:00

And no being anyone’s therapist; so sick of women expensing their mental health for a man who don’t give two fucks about them

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-01-26T14:16:47+00:00

Many women are unknowingly in “place holder” relationships.

One is greater than zero. Having you is better than nothing, but if by chance he can get the girl of his dreams you will get dumped with the swiftness.

Not only is the placeholder used for her body, she is also used for her mind and love; helping to improve him for the next chick.

The whole dynamic is very toxic for women. That’s why it’s best to WITHDRAW completely if he’s not giving you his all... he’s not your guy.

finalbosskitten · 2020-01-26T08:05:45+00:00

Yes!! This is just so insidious in nature because the outstanding pressure is to lower your standards (even past "being treated well"); it is NOT a virtue to give anyone a chance. Love isn't some charity drive or gas station rest stop until you finally your human Sangri-La to monkey branch ingloriously and drunkenly off to.

Not sure if it's something like political correctness or Disney-washing or what...it's just so common to justify this. To encourage people coming apart on the seams, full of vulnerabilities or toxicity that only could corrupt others...that they should find love, even when they can't even see the world with clarity, nor truly choose with all their minds and hearts. I see nothing beautiful in subjecting others to misery and weakness without a happy foundation...or putting yourself in that situation when you're so vulnerable...it's merely cruelty.

AnniaT · 2020-01-26T13:56:27+00:00

Please girls, put this on your fridge or find a way of reading it over and over again until you get it!

When I was a pickmeisha years ago, I'd do everything for men and even did stupid stuff like borrowing money, offering to pay stuff, help them with work, etc. Some of these guys were love bombing me/interested in the beginning, others weren't. But the main point is:

it never developed to a relationship and not much time later they met the woman of their dreams with whom they finally committed and some of them even ended up marrying her.
I heard countless times the: you're an amazing girl and any man would be lucky to have you, I'm just not in love with you. Or the classical: it's not you it's me. Or: I don't know, I think I'm not there yet.

No, they don't owe you loving you or an actual relationship just because you were ride or die or were always there for them and you made that choice BUT if you're doing all this stuff waiting for love and happy ever after by doing this, STOP. It's not gonna happen.

If you're not married to them you have no business bending yourself backwards for them and even if you're married don't over do it.

SarcasmSlide · 2020-01-26T15:24:03+00:00

I was a placeholder and financial supporter for 8 years in my last relationship. He left me and got married a year later to someone almost 10 years younger.

I certainly dodged a bullet because he was a little bitch, but boy oh boy did that one wake me up.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-01-26T09:51:55+00:00

Yeah, the love of his life for 6 months until he gets bored and moves on, or she stops putting up with his shit.

Parking-Act · 2020-01-26T06:22:22+00:00

There is no girl of his dreams though. Porn stars and instagram models don't want you! And every other lady don't either! POS!!

FodderFigureIllushun · 2020-01-26T17:02:20+00:00

The moment I changed my mentality about being "ride or die"--with friends and the people I'm dating--was the moment I started attracting people who truly loved me and were willing to go above and beyond for me.

Only love those who love you. You can't make someone loyal to you.

vee711 · 2020-01-26T14:24:08+00:00

Standards High...expectations low

ivy176 · 2020-01-26T13:25:33+00:00

Umm nah. That's called leading people on and lying. No way would a guy say that to the girl that's providing everything at that time. What's more likely is that he'll be acting like she's the love of his life and give her no reason to believe that he's a fraud, then if he ever sets sone side chick up, he'll leave when he thinks she'll let him move in or take over roles that his gf was filling, because he's too much of a little child to stand on his own 2 feet and live his own life.

Ladyofblades · 2020-01-26T16:14:10+00:00

Build yourself, don't waste your energy on someone else.

Bovvsette · 2020-01-26T11:39:38+00:00

Exactly, you are not a bus stop for him to replenish his energy by vampirizing yours on his way to greener pastures, YOU ARE the final destination. If he doesn't see you as endgame, there is literally no point for you to be playing along. You are the queen, not a pawn!

kikii07 · 2020-01-26T16:58:28+00:00

Once again a tell on themselves featuring Low value men.

quasarbar · 2020-01-27T09:59:03+00:00

Never have sexual relations of any kind with a man who hasn't proven (not merely stated, but proven) his devotion to you (unless all you want with him is sex). Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I still think it's a good idea.

even_thriller · 2020-01-26T17:01:34+00:00

This exactly. Saved it on my phone. Its a great reminder.

siberiansummer · 2020-01-26T16:29:36+00:00

At least he is being honest

AntiCircles · 2020-01-26T16:33:08+00:00

If we shouldn’t build a man then what do we do? Get a man who’s already done being built?

2020-01-27T10:23:04+00:00

Do we need any more evidence ladies!

JasmineDragon110 · 2020-03-20T19:23:58+00:00

I feel sorry for the love of his life. Who the fuck wants a male that treated all his past women like trash?

Title	No more ride or die
Author	AntiCircles
Upvotes	1032
Comments	49
Date	January 26, 2020 6:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/eu35hm/no_more_ride_or_die/
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