That’s pretty much the post. I’m tired of seeing posts about how a man is high value because he GASP enjoys listening to his girlfriend talk or because he remembered to pick his laundry up off the floor.

Ladies, the bar is in fucking hell. Yes, those things are great, but they do not a HVM make. They just mean he isn’t completely LVM. There is a DIFFERENCE.

Please, please, please can we stop praising the bare minimum? I know that there are so many examples of LVM out there that it’s easy to jump on the first positive trait you see.

When you’ve been treated like shit for a long time, I get it. It’s easy to think that he’s amazing just because he isn’t using you explicitly for sex. I’ve been there. But let’s make sure we’re holding out for people who exceed our standards and delight us — not just people who meet them.

I will say this again: WE SET THE BAR. If men think they deserve a cookie and a blowjob for listening to you talk about what a hard day you had or the book you just read, that is exactly the type of behavior we’ll get. And nothing more.

For the standards to be high, we have to make them so.