Can we share our stories? This is inspired by an earlier post this from week. What did your partner threaten/imply they were going to do? What did they end up doing? If they didn’t fall through on their threats, where are they now?

In my experience, the exes that I’ve had that threatened mental health deterioration/suicide, are absolutely still alive, a decade later. Even the one that cut his wrists (leaving an actual scar that I did later physically see a week later) and he pretended at the time that it was life-ending, and acting like he was letting himself bleed to death over the phone. One of his later exes called me a couple years later, and I found out it was a pattern for him to either harm himself just enough to get himself into the hospital, or fake a crisis entirely. It would make whatever poor girl he was entangling (who was always in the middle of either waking up to his abuse or just not abiding to his love-bombing) stick around longer to “make sure he was okay”. The mental abuse was never ending. The only solution for me at the time was to grey rock and then go no contact. I regret absolutely nothing and wish I had left sooner.

What are your stories about partners and their abuse that was combined with mental health deterioration/suicide threats?

I’m hoping that this can help anyone going forward in dealing with these kinds of situations, who’s worried about these partners doing the absolute worst to themselves “because of them”, and only staying because “their death would be on them.”