This book I’m reading has an interesting part on classic pick me behaviour. Written by a clinical psychologist.

Parking-Act · 2020-02-19T00:28:59+00:00

I always loved the advice from woman to woman of would you accept if this was happening to your daughter or sister.

Its not the same as when men only care about womens issues by saying "I have daughters and sisters" because they are men.

MakingBadDecisions · 2020-02-19T00:54:31+00:00

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Ms_Tilly · 2020-02-19T01:34:56+00:00

All that wasted time on "this could work". It won't be me. I hope current or former pick-me's will learn to take the advice here without getting defensive. We're just trying to help them to stop wasting time on low value males.

curlygirl507 · 2020-02-19T02:09:00+00:00

Oh my god, this is insane. I only had one friend like this, in college. My grade school friends and I would never have behaved this way in high school (I'll focus on them because I know more details about them). We rejected boys. We made boys make an effort for us, commit to us, and at least three of us made them wait about a year for sex after they became our boyfriends. They would take us out to dinner. They would buy us jewelry. They would buy us flowers randomly. None of them were rich but somehow they managed. I guess there's something to be said for small-town values (none of us are or were that religious, btw).

Where are girls and women getting these ideas?!

ConnectYogurtcloset1 · 2020-02-19T00:40:01+00:00

What’s the book?

starfire0630 · 2020-02-19T01:25:24+00:00

This is sad to be honest 😕

pallta · 2020-02-19T10:49:42+00:00

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Yankeehero · 2020-02-19T03:45:46+00:00

Reminds me of Jane Says by Janes Addiction. 'I want them if they want me. I only know they want me.'

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-19T04:41:38+00:00

Oh wow. This is definitely me! Trying to make it the old me. I used to let guys pick me, and then they would play games and be hot and cold, and then I would chase them or try to change them, or prove myself to them, and I never even wanted them! Until I did and I was in too deep with a guy I never would have even liked 🙄

InfiniteScrubland · 2020-02-19T03:08:08+00:00

Damn, past me feels personally attacked

Lizadeviza · 2020-02-19T14:35:38+00:00

Why does this happen so much to women? Unlike men, women can become attracted to subjective qualities or perceived qualities. A woman who feels desired or has a false sense of comfort/worth is willing to be with someone who is way below her or mistreating her in some way. Men know this and play to it in order to get their way. Beware the friendly stranger.

damselinareddress · 2020-02-19T04:05:00+00:00

I see some of this in myself. Lordddddd thank god for change.

JesusisKingisLord · 2020-02-19T13:30:51+00:00

Is this by Meg Jay?

hello-earthlings · 2020-02-19T15:34:43+00:00

Literally me for the past quarter century 😭

Title	This book I’m reading has an interesting part on classic pick me behaviour. Written by a clinical psychologist.
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Date	February 18, 2020 11:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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