This, seriously.

getbentgent · 2020-12-01T02:46:43+00:00

Not only that but in my pickme days I tried to be cool with guys and give them jabs and joke with them like they would with each other. Well, they called me a bitch and said I was putting them down. Like, I can't even joke around without being called a bitch? 🤡🤡

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2020-12-01T06:28:34+00:00

It's completely pointless to accept bad behavior, because the ones who act like clueless shits have zero intention of sticking around. Don't make sacrifices for romantic relationships in general, but especially not ones that have zero chance of lasting.

matte_personality · 2020-12-01T08:39:06+00:00

You know I used to think that just because I have a lot of love to give, I should only expect a little back because just a little would be enough and maybe people don’t love like I do. All it does over time is chip away at everything and you end up with a bigger void there than when you started because you should expect the same amount back. If not more. People have to match your energy without you having to say much.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-12-01T02:15:06+00:00

Men are demeaned for allowing their girlfriends to have a say in the relationship. Women are praised for allowing men to do whatever, whenever, however. We have to let that set in.

munissa · 2020-12-01T08:44:12+00:00

Yup. To this day my exes probably still think I’m crazy for refusing to be disrespected and “acting out” when I felt like I was. Looking back though, I really was crazy for staying in those relationships and crying over them.

bearded_dragonlady · 2020-12-01T14:18:25+00:00

Agreed, also don't verbally demand a guy treat you with respect. Just withdraw your attention and energy from people who don't treat you correctly.

solaris-et-lunara · 2020-12-01T05:01:13+00:00

I used to be like this, until I realized that no, I wasn’t really happy pretending to be the cool girl who was starstruck that a boy even paid her attention. So many doors have been opened to me now and I have a man who is willing to give me everything I could ever want in a partner.

s_slayer · 2020-12-02T21:43:29+00:00

My daughter is 16 and has several friends who are displaying this behavior. Most of their boyfriends are emotional wrecks, threaten suicide, and manipulate them in different ways. The girls complain to my daughter yet continue to accept this behavior, sometimes for years. Who is teaching the boys these days? Are men going to blame women for this, too? These are boys having sex and they still put a huge burden on their girlfriends, so lack of access to sex is not a valid excuse for male emotional disturbance. It’s not as if girls don’t get depressed too, but so many of them are busy taking care of depressed boys that their own mental health falls by the wayside. We have serious problems going on in these younger generations. A lot of codependency already going on. It’s very heartbreaking. My daughter wants nothing to do with boys after witnessing what her friends go through. She just does her own thing and finds contentment in her own hobbies. I’m very happy about that believe me. I don’t know what I’d do if she felt forced to mollycoddle a boy who used her as an emotional tampon. It sounds so exhausting at any age but especially for a child.

Tugallois · 2020-12-02T13:43:33+00:00

And it repeats in their relationships... My ex told me some of the things I expected from him were unreasonable. I repeatedly explained to him what I needed from him and why, but it was "impossible" and I should be ignored. I almost believed him.

My next boyfriend gave me those exact things without being asked or prompted.

-badmadAM · 2020-12-01T11:24:04+00:00

Before they put you into the situation to "be a nagging ***" just leave. If he doesn't do "communication" he gets none, only a "bye" if he is lucky. Problem solved.

keyboardmarilu111 · 2020-12-01T04:52:31+00:00

!!!! YES

Surprise-Turbulent · 2020-12-01T20:18:30+00:00

Honestly don’t nag though

Too much energy

Just leave

miphasgraceful · 2020-12-03T03:24:06+00:00

My ex used to be called “pussy whipped” by his brother anytime my ex went along with any of my choices. As if compromise was a bad thing in a relationship.

DigitalFriendForLyfe · 2020-12-01T05:04:37+00:00

SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE GIRLS IN THE BACK

2020-12-01T04:53:06+00:00

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Title	This, seriously.
Author	WatermelonSugar47
Upvotes	1473
Comments	30
Date	December 1, 2020 2:10 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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