We block and level up!

sorshii · 2020-08-11T21:53:16+00:00

Plus if you do this and you manage to work a miracle and "fix" him, he'll get right up and leave you for another girl and treat her better than he ever treated you.

plutonian_princess · 2020-08-11T22:12:37+00:00

When I was younger I thought that insecure men are just more sensitive and have kind hearts.. until i got involved with one. He verbally abused me, negged me, and sexually assaulted me. He was studying philosophy too 🙄 Once when I proved him wrong in a discussion he got so angry he started calling me idiot, wh*re etc. God, he was the biggest piece of shit ive ever encountered. And he was ugly as heck too. Hes now severely depressed, addicted to opiates and looks like gross scrote in his 50s (hes 27) I dont feel bad for him at all. You reap what you sow. If I had FDS back then he would be blocked within first days

Pahapan · 2020-08-12T01:34:58+00:00

My ex left me a hollowed out shell but it's like I've been broken down so that I can build myself back up even stronger. It's also clued me in as to who among my family and friends actually care about me, who among them are really there for me. Now I know who I can discard just like I discarded my abusive ex. If you're not adding as much value to my life as I am to yours, bye!

RivenRoyce · 2020-08-12T02:43:48+00:00

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PoeticINFP · 2020-08-12T00:43:41+00:00

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daisy_0720 · 2020-08-12T06:52:40+00:00

Don't ever enter a relationship with a man with low self-esteem, as by the time the relationship ends, YOU'LL be the one with low self esteem.

Elturtleo · 2020-08-12T04:43:13+00:00

Being friends with super insecure people can have similar issues I’ve noticed. Not necessarily the building up but just dealing with people like that is exhausting.

Dating insecure people is a whole other mess. I had an ex fake a coma once. I think it was to “test” me since it was about to be long distance. I told his “sister” that I was thinking of dumping him when I was contacted about the fake drunk driving accident that apparently killed 5 other people. Very easy googling and seeing his trade school grad pic a month later proved that was a lie. 🙄

greatcathy · 2020-08-12T04:59:23+00:00

Signs of an insecure person when they ask you on a first date:

"I've gone out with some really *WeIrD* women."
"Are you sure you want to go out with me?"
"Wow, I can't believe you said yes!"
"I'm so glad you're so *chill*"
"My ex never wanted to go to/do (insert place or activity here) with me."

Any others people can think to add?

Queencake504 · 2020-08-11T23:37:24+00:00

"Or show him you're 1000% down for him". Oof,this made my damn stomach hurt🤦🏾 They DO NOT respect you for that s**t.You will look like a clown because you are a clown 🤡.My NV-ex told me to my face ,"i know you ride or die" and laughed.

Pinklepurr1 · 2020-08-12T02:11:24+00:00

Wow this resonates with me. Can someone spell it out: What is an insecure man?

2020-08-12T06:53:45+00:00

I had to block my alcoholic ex of 4 years who dumped me mid pandemic but expected me to continue to live with and take care of him. I leveled up, got a new job, a new loft, and gained some weight in the right places.

Last week he called me crying about having depression and all the stuff that happened to him as a child. Telling me he heard I’ve “glowed up”.

I gave him my ear and heart. Answering his calls, etc. We started flirting again, typical stuff. But he’s also the last person I’ve been with (even though that was 6 months ago)

but then I noticed he was now talking to me as if I was some random person he’s sleeping with. “Hey big head” texts late night.. really sexually aggressive type comments towards me. I had to shut shit it down.

I blocked him.

angelcake893 · 2020-08-12T02:19:32+00:00

This advice would have saved me 2 years!!

nenindis · 2020-08-12T08:44:11+00:00

The tweets that come from this person in particular are 🔥🔥🔥 . Always harsh and, yet, much needed reminders we owe it to ourselves to do better.

deviantchipmunk · 2020-08-12T05:06:21+00:00

Somehow I did "fix" him, and he thanks me for it cause I kind of helped him be more self-aware in general...it did cost me a lot though. But I guess it's at least good there's another human being out there that now tries to be considerate towards others.

ThatOneRedditGirl · 2020-08-26T02:57:24+00:00

I’ve done this for 10 years. No more. Seriously don’t marry someone you think your can “help.” I lost myself completely and I’m just now finding myself. After a DECADE. Don’t let them waste your best years. (I’m almost 28 and saved everything for this man just to have him betray and lie over and over. So. F*^king done).

sorshii · 2020-08-11T21:50:41+00:00

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Title	We block and level up!
Author	basicbagels
Upvotes	1221
Comments	48
Date	August 11, 2020 9:47 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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