We have set the bar for men SO low

pinkyberries · 2020-05-05T16:51:52+00:00

I'm always curious about guys who live alone and can't cook...do they just eat instant noodles, always have a pickmeisha gf or just order takeout all the time?

How do they live??

JasmineAndCloves · 2020-05-05T17:02:36+00:00

Women need to stop giving men credit for doing the bare minimum.

A woman can be highly educated, physically attractive, financially independent, work a high-paying job, be emotionally mature, etc. and a LVM will still find things to nitpick.

Meanwhile, LVM wants you to be impressed that he can feed himself.

Desperate-Nectarine · 2020-05-05T19:56:28+00:00

My ex could cook but expected me to do it because he was too important. Or if I wasn’t there he would cook and then not clean up after it and leave dirty pots on the stove literally until mold grew waiting for me to come clean up after him. He also had a cleaning lady that he fired when we moved in together and then told me it was my job to keep the house clean. Also before me he would take his laundry to wash dry and fold but once we got together he expected me to do that service for him. He also actually would call me mom sometimes. He was a weird guy. So glad we broke up.

_boring_daven_ · 2020-05-05T17:05:26+00:00

I’m dying. Cockholm syndrome! 😂

gursky0 · 2020-05-05T19:32:27+00:00

"My man can cook"

Ok...and?

alluringiv · 2020-05-05T20:53:49+00:00

My step dad thinks I should cook for him because he’s a man. Boy I can’t wait to move out.

acadametw · 2020-05-05T23:51:38+00:00

It's absolutely true that part of why older men prey on significantly younger women isn't because they are oh so more attractive but because they are literally just sort of stupid (like most 20somethings) and have less experience at living. They are by definition easy to manipulate and easy to please. Because they are only just getting used to paying their own taxes, any level of mastery of adulthood displayed by a middle aged man--even one on multiple bankruptcies, divorces, children, addictions, whatever--seem like this worldly catch of accomplishment who recognizes you for being ever so mature for you age.

It's one of my disqualifying factors for men in all possible relationship roles--if they are for example in their 30s and think anyone who isn't at least late twenties really has something to offer them and things in common, they can't sit with me. Dudes will lower their own standards for women in terms of looks and education, personality, independence, sanity to play the numbers game and congratulate themselves for being players. They will pat themselves on the back for tricking people they believed were stupid and vulnerable from the beginning--there isn't a way to read that that says anything positive about them. They are proud of wasting everyone's time including their own. Meanwhile, respectable men want to find impressive and respectable & and it makes them feel good that they were able to capture the attention and affection of such a great woman.

I swear--the dude I wrote about in a post recently who's also in his 40s and has a 20something baby momma he treats like crap--she had to leave for a week or two for a work thing a while back and he drove two states away to have her parents take care of the infant because he didn't want to have to do it alone. EMBARRASSING.

torabull · 2020-05-06T00:10:48+00:00

I always say I don’t know how to cook from the second I meet a guy. I use the same excuse everytime which is my mom never let me into the kitchen therefore, I didn’t learned how to cook (true story), When I turned 18 I moved out and I had to learn how to cook, but Ill keep lying cause I refused to cook for a LVM.

pinkliquor · 2020-05-06T01:18:55+00:00

My ex complained about how he was gonna starve every night if I didn’t cook. So I was supposed to cook, clean, make his lunch, do his laundry etc all because “men don’t belong doing that stuff” I couldn’t stand him and he put me through hell. Never again.

Mean_Green_Kween · 2020-05-06T01:05:54+00:00

Lmaooo The bar really is this low 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

thowawaywookie · 2020-05-06T01:54:44+00:00

Hot pockets lol

Roommate guys:

One would make these elaborate meals but leave the kitchen a wreck i mean how he managed to spill so much on the floor and get most pans dirty, ill never know.

Another would bring home a different foreign student most nights. Hed cook steak and eggs for them in the morning. They probably thought he was unique. Nope. Had the same routine for each one. Other times hed eat frozen dinners.

Men are very good at burning pans. For some reason, they turn the gas burner on high and leave it.

septemberfinestt · 2020-05-06T06:20:39+00:00

Putting men on a pedestal for normal behavior will always make me cringe

wateryyvibes · 2020-05-06T04:54:11+00:00

Just yesterday i saw a post saying something like "cooking is incomplete without cleaning the kitchen afterwards, tell your man that" and some woman was like "no, till now all these feminists wanted men to cook and now they want them to clean too?!!! First we should 'get them' to cook by appreciating them, it should be done one by one".. And FYI all the likes she got were from men. I had never seen any men in that page before.I still don't know where they emerged from all of a sudden. SMH.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-05-05T20:33:04+00:00

So gross. Hopefully she wakes up and realize her boyfriend is a creep.

2020-05-06T06:27:58+00:00

just like people who praise men for changing diapers

buffalocoinz · 2020-05-06T02:36:38+00:00

Okay I don’t “cook” but i also don’t eat takeout every meal or have my SO cook for me. The meals I cook are meant for ME and my nutritional needs. I’d never make what I eat alone for anyone else.

Title	We have set the bar for men SO low
Author	er1nj045
Upvotes	2098
Comments	69
Date	May 5, 2020 4:27 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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