When a man acts as if him being empathetic is some rare gift and not a normal thing everyone should have, I always think of this meme

Snoo32629 · 2021-12-17T18:13:42+00:00

Self proclaimed empaths from my experience are usually narcissists LMAO

Jekawi · 2021-12-17T18:30:38+00:00

My ex claimed that he was very empathic. I just stared at this man whos emotional range was suppressed onto a teaspoon. A man who's emotional labour was non-existent. At that point, him claiming he's so empathetic must mean he actually did notice my struggles and did nothing.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-12-17T15:14:32+00:00

Well there’s a difference between people who have empathy, and an “empath”. No offense to anyone but irl people who have described themselves as “empaths” to me or others were always, uh, questionable.

Men DO act like wanting them to use basic empathy is akin to wanting them to be an empath or “psychic” and that’s a bunch of bullshit for sure.

fireforestfairy · 2021-12-17T14:00:52+00:00

Most people have empathy unless they have a personality disorder or something.

janestnycrk4 · 2021-12-17T16:20:54+00:00

That sounds more like they are psychopathic to me. RUN

CCVeediVee · 2021-12-18T00:46:03+00:00

This meme is exactly why most men make terrible friends to women. They start off acting like they understand you but eventually devolve into telling you the reasons for what you do and say because they suddenly know you better than you do.

YoU'rE juST DoINg tHIs FOr my ATTenTiOn...

animal_girl79 · 2021-12-17T13:44:46+00:00

Lol that's funny. People that identify as empaths give me major "not like other girls" vibes.

We all are capable of empathy. We do not have a special skill to be capable of it. 😆

Disastrous-Tasks · 2021-12-17T14:10:38+00:00

Maybe I’m just going too far, but most people who call themselves “empaths” are either manipulative men or women who do a ridiculous amount of emotional labour for anyone they meet

BeingLucky859 · 2021-12-17T22:12:24+00:00

If you have to say it- you’re not an empath you’re just repressing your feelings and/or don’t know how to respond in a healthy way to other peoples experiences 🤷🏻‍♀️

keep_my_stuff · 2021-12-17T21:34:43+00:00

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FDS-MAGICA · 2021-12-17T16:50:29+00:00

Ugh, I have a (gay) guy friend who been saying for years that he's an empath and that whenever other people feel emotions around him he feels them too, but intensified. He literally means that in a magical psychic sense. At least he doesn't think he's an 'indigo child'.

No_Fig2938 · 2021-12-17T19:53:37+00:00

Being an empath doesn't mean you have basic empathy, everyone has empathy, it means you have excessive empathy and towards all people regardless of who they are, and towards all kinds of emotions they shows as if you're connected to them, I had empathy for cruel criminals just because they looked sad when caught, this of course is a terrible trait, I think it's result of childhood abuse I went through which resulted in my obsession with being considerate and not have other people go through the same, and additionally having someone show they actually love me made me happy that they spared me love, and I believed I need to make them happy as if it's my duty, tho it just made me an easy pray for abusive people as I was super suspectable to guilt tripping, I couldn't dare build any boundaries since the guilt I felt when I saw I hurt someone was immense (no matter how much they fucked me over) especially if they're someone I love, I thought that hating a person is terrible because it hurts thier feeling, even if they deserved that hatred, I know I was a doormat but I seriously didn't mind as long as I don't have to see someone hurt, I just ignored my emotions because they were to dull in comparison to the emotions other showed me at the moment.

This has been my reality for most of my life and I couldn't overcome this until after years of narcissistic abuse and terrible friends that I could not take it anymore, I was under so much stress at the time I exploded with anger for the first time, a bit after that subsided I dissociated and no longer could feel empathy as I used to, I didn't feel anything in general which is why, one of the closest people to me and one of the few of who treated me with kindness had died at the time and I didn't shed a single tear, I felt like a monster, but I was glad because for the first time I felt truly free of others emotions, though it came with the price of having no reason to live anymore, the only thing that prevented me from throwing myself of a building was my religion, though now thanks to fds I've retained a bit of empathy (towards certain topics) and I'm feeling a bit better, I'm still more stoic and cold, a lot of the consideration I show became just a performance from how I used to be, I intend to go to therapy in the future when I can afford it so hopefully I can feel like a person again and this is temporary.

When men use the word empath, most are not actual empaths, but are just not as emotionless as the rest they feel special, because most men lack empathy those who does are a god given I guess and sould be worshipped.

I just hate how men ruin everything, but I don't want women who have this trait to feel ashamed of themselves because of that, if I had taken this more seriously and actually dared to stick for myself I wouldn't be in this situation, I don't want anyone else having to do through this also.

Ok that's the end of this rant, I just had to get this out 😅 also fitting my experiences in one comment was kinda hard so forgive me if it's a bit messy.

keep_my_stuff · 2021-12-18T14:01:20+00:00

oh, if they're such empaths then do they also not watch p.rn? You know, because they empathize with the exploited women there ?

SolunaJune · 2021-12-18T15:16:27+00:00

We got this new temp contractor guy who calls himself a "reactive empath." He's claimed that once he was having a bad day and was feeling sick, and it was because, unbeknownst to him, his sister in law was breaking up with her boyfriend.

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

He's tried a few manipulative tactics on me and quickly learned I don't fall for that bullshit. Also, he does this thing where he will stare at you from 6 feet away and expect you to address him, instead of just coming up to you and asking his question. I just let him stand there until he realizes it's not working and just speaks up. An absolute fucking weirdo. He even weirds out the men on my team.

spicyspa · 2021-12-18T02:05:46+00:00

Empaths don't exist, just people who claim to be empaths.

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-17T18:03:38+00:00

I've never met a person who says they are that, but if anyone does I'm ready to troll them. "So are you feeling the contempt I have for you already? How about my deep desire for you to f*ck off?"

mareetran · 2021-12-17T13:35:39+00:00

I’m screaming, this is totally my narcissistic rapist ex.

Title	When a man acts as if him being empathetic is some rare gift and not a normal thing everyone should have, I always think of this meme
Author	aoi4eg
Upvotes	1039
Comments	43
Date	December 17, 2021 1:30 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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