Called sexist for having a type

EdgarFrogandSam · 2013-07-28T22:26:16+00:00

No sexual partners before you? Are you a virgin?

Moxiecontin · 2013-07-28T22:20:20+00:00

It's okay, I'm a horrible, shallow bitch because I don't find short bald men attractive. There are always going to be people who are angry because you're not attracted to them.

ScrapinDaCheeks · 2013-07-28T21:37:53+00:00

Not addressing the question but you could easily find a girl like that at an Asian catholic church. I know a bunch of them.

rightsbot · 2013-07-28T21:36:17+00:00

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NemosHero · 2013-07-29T00:03:56+00:00

As others have said you're not being sexist, but I would urge caution in how specific you're being about the individual. Its your life and do what you want, but think about it.

Deport777 · 2013-07-28T23:15:27+00:00

She feels threatened and believes an accusation of sexism will at least silence dissent and at most force you to act as she says. ironically this means she must be aware on at least some level of her own female privilege, since this is an attempt to assert it.

It's possible for 'standards' to be hypocritical or unrealistic, but... and I'm gonna say this in bold because it's important...

Any accusation of discrimination for not wanting to sleep with someone is sexual entitlement, almost universally seen in the form of female sexual entitlement. This is directly equivalent to rape culture.

It doesn't even matter what you said. You could have said you'll only accept a woman who is willing to be both the sole earner and a home-maker, that she must be physically stunning, and she must be addicted to sucking your dick. It still wouldn't make you sexist. It would make you a hypocritical idiot, sure. But really it wouldn't be anyone's problem but your own (as long as you didn't try to push anyone into changing to fit this after getting together).

By the way, as for what you specifically said, if you're a 'saving myself for marriage' sort yourself then it seems reasonable. And anyone who shames you for having a certain taste after asking you what your taste is is a horrible person.

2013-07-28T21:54:17+00:00

You arent a sexist for having standards and preferences.

That bullshit is nothing more than her saying "how dare you hold us to a standard when selecting a mate?"

I find it funny that women can openly specify (often to the point where a police sketch artist can draw a picture) what they want in a mate and are lauded as being "uncompromising" but when a man is specific, hes a shitlord for not accepting whatever women deem he should accept.

No. Shes the sexist. Tell her to check her fucking privilege.

Faryshta · 2013-07-28T22:42:23+00:00

A woman whom has no criminal record, exception to Petty theft before the age of 18, circumstances required for others.

Pretty logical in my opinion.

A woman who has had no sexual partners before myself.

May I ask why? Or how? People start their sex life earlier now.

Also was called sexist for just having one type of woman I find the most attractive, petite Asian with tomboy looks and a dress style of more t-shirts with shorts that go a bit over the knee.

If a girl says the same about a guy is it sexists?

Sexist mean that you attack an entire gender based on prejudgements, not that you have a type or standards for choosing the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Donutmuncher · 2013-07-29T00:16:31+00:00

A woman whom has no criminal record

You commit 3 felonies a day according to Silverglate's book. So if you don't have a criminal record by 18, you're just lucky.

I'm sure there are plenty of things you did that were illegal (which you were aware of) but weren't caught. Looks like you're not good enough for your own standards...

AnnArchist · 2013-07-29T04:32:47+00:00

A woman who has had no sexual partners before myself.

LOL GOOD LUCK WITH THAT

That is the stupidest qualification for a mate I've ever read. Seriously. Good luck meeting one of those after high school.

cutcoguru · 2013-07-29T01:08:41+00:00

Expect more of this as time goes on. Apparently it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to have a laundry list of traits she wants in a man, but the moment a man has the same with a woman, it's utterly scandalous.

To borrow a line from the feminist playbook, anyone who has a problem with men being human beings as opposed to walking ATMs, human shields and penises on legs, needs to get back to the 1950s where they belong.

Captaincastle · 2013-07-28T23:10:02+00:00

Don't have a problem with any of that other than the no sexual partners thing. I don't think it is sexist, I just think it is stoopiiiidd!

Pecanpig · 2013-07-28T22:25:02+00:00

Same here, except the sexual partners thing because that just narrows the field to much, but it would be preferred that she had no sexual partners before me or at least very few and the good grace not to bring them up, ever.

I prefer women who dress in a more "proper" manner, something that shows she isn't an idiot.

Deport777 · 2013-07-28T23:16:50+00:00

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Deport777 · 2013-07-28T23:42:33+00:00

A woman who has had no sexual partners before myself.

this is really the only problem I can see with your stance. Are you a virgin yourself? If not this is a huge double standard.

Prtyvacant · 2013-07-29T01:42:00+00:00

I get called sexist for not liking unattractive and/or overweight women, women who are uneducated, or women who demand to be stay at homes. To expand on the last part, I'd be okay with a wife who stays at home with the kids, I just don't want that to be a goal in her life. My point is, the only women who will call you sexist for having standards are ones who don't meet them.

PerniciousOne · 2013-07-29T02:18:47+00:00

Women are the Gatekeepers of Sex.

Men are the Gatekeepers of Relationships.

The characteristics of a woman that you are looking for are pretty decent, wanting to be mentally and physically attracted to a person that you are looking to marry (in this social climate) for the long term is a serious vetting process for you.

The girl you marry has everything to gain, and you have everything to lose. This is why you need to be choosy.

caius_iulius_caesar · 2013-07-29T02:30:56+00:00

Pretty specific type, but not sexist.

You don't deny anyone else's right to have an equally specific type.

geengaween · 2013-07-29T03:27:49+00:00

You can make your "preferences" as specific as you like, the only person it's hurting in the end is you. You're not a woman, and unless you have a buttload of money you don't get to have the opposite sex trying to initiate relationships with you. Therefore you can't afford to be so discriminating. In a few years you'll realize how naive you were.

ZeJazzaFrazz · 2013-07-29T03:41:05+00:00

In my opinion it's not sexist or wrong in any way. But you ARE limiting your chances. You can be as picky as you damn well please, you just have less options.

Fun2saymukluks · 2013-07-29T04:21:52+00:00

The no prior sexual partners is kind of weird, and good luck with that this day and age. I don't think you sound like you are being sexist. That is a bit of a stretch.

Deport777 · 2013-07-29T05:23:50+00:00

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abwcorporation · 2013-07-29T04:15:26+00:00

Look it's your right to like what you want (so long as its legal), but this probably not the right subreddit for this discussion.

Men's Rights is about equality before the law and society, not about liking deflowering virgins.

comehitherhitler · 2013-07-28T23:13:46+00:00

You're not being sexist. "Sexist", "misogynist", "creep", "neckbeard", etc.: you will hear these terms used by people who want to make you feel ashamed for having different or displeasing opinions, but don't want to do any of the thinking required to accurately express themselves.

What I would say is maybe you should take a look at whether you're letting your fetishes dictate your love life too much. No one can answer that for you other than yourself. You might find as you get older - the way a lot of us do - that you just want someone who cares about you, trusts you, and wants to be with you, and that it doesn't matter so much if they match your ideal "police sketch" (someone else in this thread used that term and I like it). Or maybe you'll find your oriental snowflake and live happily ever after. None of us can say for sure, and it really doesn't matter that much to anyone's lives but yours and that of your future mate.

Moebiuzz · 2013-07-29T03:37:25+00:00

You are not sexist, just an idiot. Maybe sexist on the side, but it shouldn't be as much of an issue.

fdsaf3 · 2013-07-29T02:13:27+00:00

My personal opinion is that it's not sexist to have a "type", but you should probably get over a woman's history - especially the sexual part.

ThePigman · 2013-07-29T01:07:27+00:00

"A woman with at least enough intelligence to carry a serious debate."

Unrealistic expectations guarantee disappointment.

"A woman who has had no sexual partners before myself."

Unless you are willing to break some statutory rape laws, it aint gonna happen.

Having a "type" isn't sexist and your friend is a moron. Ditch her before her feminism becomes even more rabid.

Title	Called sexist for having a type
Author	Deport777
Upvotes	20
Comments	151
Date	July 28, 2013 9:34 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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