Misogynic content regularly gets more upvotes than downvotes on this sub. What does it say about this sub and the men's rights movement?

iainmf · 2025-10-09T19:08:27+00:00

Please report misogyny (and misandry) to the mods.

Inevitable-Tennis-49 · 2025-10-09T09:03:12+00:00

You know, the world has already reach the phase when cries of "misogyny" are not moving us. You really expect me to stop being a men's rights activist because of some mean words while feminism doubles down on allowing women to torture, rape and murder men and walk away scott free? Are you really so stupid?

Tricky-Mistake-5490 · 2025-10-09T12:22:49+00:00

Government does spend a lot of money favoring women. So? Stating it down is misogynist?

SchroedingersDebate · 2025-10-09T08:56:49+00:00

"The Complete Destruction of Traditional Marriage and the Nuclear Family is the Revolutionary Utopian Goal of Feminism."

— Kate Millet circa era 1975

lecture from feminists is no longer moving anyone.

we have done enough self reflection. It's your turn feminist.

KochiraJin · 2025-10-10T04:46:18+00:00

So your evidence is two removed posts, and part of the second most upvoted comment of one of them, with the omitted portion saying men and women are largely similar. Notably the top comment you skipped over is a refutation of the idea that women are incapable. Seems like pretty weak evidence to me.

63daddy · 2025-10-09T14:43:23+00:00

If you go back two years and the most misogynistic post you can find is someone saying women gaslight, that shows how unhateful this sub is towards the opposite sex compared to feminist subs.

A sub open to anyone and everyone is going to get some poor comments. Generally speaking, actual misogynistic comments get down voted and again are relatively rare compared to the feminist subs that constantly spew forth strong misandry, that strongly promote discrimination against men, and spread enormous disinformation in support of that agenda.

SquaredAndRooted · 2025-10-09T09:51:42+00:00

OP, that’s a fair point. Out of curiosity, have you posted a similar question on women’s spaces - about how they handle misandry or generalizations about men? It would be interesting to compare how both sides handle *self reflection***. Can you please share the link?

An example from two years back: A post saying that all women are gaslighters was upvoted and allowed by mods.

Link you provided

I am not a Mod but IMO if the user is sharing personal pain & asking a rhetorical/emotional question like “Are all women gaslighters?” out of frustration, it’s not misogynist. It’s an expression of hurt - not hate.

When such posts/comments get upvoted, it doesn’t mean the sub supports misogyny. It means the members are saying - Yes, I’ve felt that pain too!

shingaladaz · 2025-10-09T09:01:40+00:00

It sounds like you aren’t here for men’s rights, but to keep men in check. Typical misandrist behaviour.

BanFeminism · 2025-10-09T20:35:41+00:00

Just ban this post, why is wrong with you mods here?

mrmensplights · 2025-10-10T03:24:32+00:00

Are you capable of “retrospection” (self reflection)?

Because you desperately crawl the sub looking for the smallest examples of misogyny in a sea of content and then use it to condemn an entire sub. Anyone can see you started with a goal in mind and worked backward with a biased point of view.

The irony is that this very post proves you wrong. While you crawl in the dirt looking for anything resembling misogyny your post is allowed to stay up and form discussion and mods sticky a comment supporting the reporting and removal of misogyny and misandry. If this were a feminist sub and you raised the far more prevalent, disturbing, overt misandry you’ve be banned long ago.

VolcanoSheep26 · 2025-10-09T09:05:26+00:00

I think we do have an issue with misogyny and I wish we didn't.

That said I think it's very understandable. We're face with constant lies and hatred from many feminists and I think it's naive to think this won't in turn develop into a great deal of anger for many guys.

They regularly pull the biggest load of shit and, especially online, they're often celebrated for it.

Stop with the constant hatred, lies and bullshit and I think you'll find that a lot of the anger men feel will begin to naturally die down.

W_Smith_19_84 · 2025-10-09T09:32:42+00:00

As if the rest of this site isn't filled to the brim with misandry? but I don't see you complaining about any of that. You are nothing but a hypocrite, trying to tone police & selectively enforce reddit's double standards.

Input_output_error · 2025-10-09T09:23:05+00:00

An example from a couple of days back, a post seriously suggesting that men are better at any hobby and discipline than women was upvoted and allowed by mods (removed now):

Oh the horror, how could the world still be turning with such cruelty in it...

But on a more serious note, this seems pretty mild. I mean, it isn't as if they're advocating for violence or harm upon anyone. If these are the kinds of misogyne that you're mad about you might not want to look into what feminists are spewing. Like 'Kill All Men' or the that 'men' should only make up 10% of the entire population. Not to mention all the bad ways that men are portrait in western media.

I would certainly not call this 'women friendly' in anyway, but to go and make this post and complain about mIsOgYnE seems misplaced.

Mitsuki_Amahara · 2025-10-09T19:42:14+00:00

I am a proud misogynist but I don't make sweeping generalizations without evidence. There's nothing to gain for men to lower themselves to the level of feminists. The childish, vitriolic snark that misandrists and feminists employ is repulsive to most men and won't convince any sane person of anything.

Discussion should remain rational on this sub and extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence for safety's sake.

Panda-Maximus · 2025-10-13T04:19:25+00:00

If the term "misogynistic" hadn't been thrown around every time a feminist heard something they didn't like for decades, I might give a fuck.

The term has been used and abused to the point of irrelevance.

The fact is, men don't hate women. Most of us are just exhausted by the hypocrisy of feminism.

Randomuser223556 · 2025-10-09T16:21:29+00:00

How many accounts do you have and how many times are you going to copy and paste this?

quaderrordemonstand · 2025-10-09T11:37:05+00:00

But what about...

lasciate · 2025-10-09T19:22:39+00:00

Mods are too lax in this sub in general. Rule violators, spammers, trolls, etc. stick around way too long. Posts that should be removed stay up for most of a day or more and then only get removed once they're reported, if at all.

Case in point: your post violates the "no meta posts" rule, but has been implicitly endorsed by at least one moderator instead of being deleted.

Meta-discussion Policy: Topics related to the moderation of the subreddit should be sent to either modmail or, for public discussions, /r/MensRightsMeta. All meta-discussions will be removed from /r/MensRights.

MountainRays · 2025-10-09T21:08:28+00:00

Yet another gaslighting post done by feminist psyops to subvert MRAs. Do feminists really can't do anything else than lie?

g1455ofwater · 2025-10-10T04:33:30+00:00

It's irrelevant, this isn't a sub about all injustices in the world.

In addition to that, to expect men of this sub to be specifically sympathetic to that which has so often been fraudulently weaponized against them is a rather callous and ridiculous expectation.

BanFeminism · 2025-10-09T20:37:12+00:00

Misogyny ain't real sis

Novel-Classroom5802 · 2025-10-10T21:05:50+00:00

https://www.change.org/p/hold-are-we-dating-the-same-guy-and-tea-groups-apps-accountable-for-exploitation-harm

TrainingGap2103 · 2025-10-11T00:09:37+00:00

I agree that hatred towards anyone is bad and while I don't see too much actual bigotry against women here, I agree there is some.

On another note, I hope you recognize that this post has been allowed by this sub to be up for a long time. Quite a more open-minded approach than you'd find if you called out feminist subs on said feminist subs.

MR_GLASS_HALF_EMPTY · 2025-10-11T03:06:21+00:00

Some men here actually support men's rights well others use this platform as a way to be misogynistic. Its the same fucking thing in feminism where a lot of people support women's rights, but a lot of people also use it as a platform to express hate. Everyone that does that is a fucking loser that should go fuck themselves.

Qears4snears · 2025-10-11T09:13:36+00:00

I've been glib about this but I understand your concern. Wholesale sneering contempt of the opposite gender is not the way...oops I accidentally just defined feminism... But mirroring that clearly in no way elevates the conversation.

the facts on the ground are that men are going to dominate in any performance based metric because that's what we are hormonally evolved to do... Perform.

And females are evolved to watch the show and separate the wheat from the chaff.

Women exist to be the judges of the competition, sitting at the table with the pitcher of ice water, scribbling with their pencils...what they are not is the competitors.

That's not misogyny, that's just the role they played in keeping this species alive for the last 300,000 years.

KPplumbingBob · 2025-10-12T08:51:22+00:00

The fact that you had to go two years back for one of the two examples says it all.

Feminist subs have 10x more misandry and it is freely allowed. What does that say about their subs and women's rights movement? Or are you not concerned about that?

Holding male spaces to impossible standards is a classic feminist move. Now is the time for you to scream "whataboutism!".

CzarOfCT · 2025-10-10T02:58:54+00:00

Misogyny doesn't exist. That makes this entire post invalid.

naaawww · 2025-10-09T21:40:42+00:00

I think a lot of guys just aren’t the best with their words. Like, some people in here make innocuous claims without knowing there’s readily established anti-responses to overinflate the severity of their original comment.

(Also I say “anti-response”, it’s not a standard term, but it’s like a predictable, prepackaged reaction, designed not to engage with the original point, but to neutralise, moralise or escalate it, like reframing it as harmful, problematic or threatening.)

Qears4snears · 2025-10-09T23:15:17+00:00

Credit where it's due--women historically have a stranglehold on crafting, journaling, and vision-boarding.

Ill_Situation_6564 · 2025-10-15T17:18:02+00:00

Now let's talk misandry on Reddit with posts who have tens of thousands of upvotes. Including posts that literally call for male genocide, mutilation and torture.

Fuck off.

mohyo324 · 2025-10-09T16:57:06+00:00

gender "egalitarians" when most organizations, media, art, science academia and human cultures dehumanize men and actively steal from/oppress them but a random guy made a comment complaining about his abusive wife (it was deleted 5 seconds after)

SmellFragrant4037 · 2025-10-09T21:05:08+00:00

Women most affected

YetAnotherCommenter · 2025-10-09T09:19:34+00:00

I've noticed this too.

Honestly I suspect it is false flag behavior, and/or an influx of the "red pill anger phase" types due to the fact that every other "containment space" for them has been gotten rid of (which in turn gives The Powers That Be an excuse to get rid of us).

We need to be more careful, even if our venting is absolutely justified, because they will use the handful of arguably-misogynistic posts as an excuse to shut the subreddit down.

teeoth · 2025-10-09T09:13:47+00:00

Yes, you are correct. Many people here get emotional, generalise and to do women the very things they hate when they are done to them

Capable_Ad_4551 · 2025-10-14T16:40:48+00:00

Mods kick this person

Upstairs_Ear4172 · 2025-10-09T09:09:20+00:00

I've found this too, many people in this sub are incredibly sexist. I mentioned in a post how sexist jokes really aren't funny and I got many replies calling me a woman as an insult and 'go make a sandwich' jokes despite me literally being a man 🤷‍♂️

And yet, members of this subreddit will complain and wonder why this subreddit has a bad reputation. Read any post in this sub and I can almost guarantee there will be a sexist comment somewhere, whether in the actual post or in the comments.

Both_Relationship_62 · 2025-10-09T11:04:19+00:00

I’ve been noticing misogyny in this community for a long time, and yeah, it’s depressing.

Misogyny is just as unacceptable as misandry, full stop.

If moral arguments don’t convince you, look at it practically: every misogynistic comment here is another nail in the coffin of the men’s rights movement’s reputation. It's so hard to watch these people shoot themselves in the foot. If we want to ever be taken seriously, we should avoid misogyny at all costs.

Anyone who actually cares about men’s rights should oppose misogyny. The more society believes women are less capable or rational, the more pressure falls on men to be providers and protectors. Misogyny doesn’t help men. It reinforces the very gender roles many of us are trying to escape.

What do such misogynistic comments say about MRA in general? They certainly don’t mean that the issues MRA addresses are fake or unimportant.

What do they say about this community? Nothing good. The example of r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates shows that men’s rights advocacy without misogyny is perfectly possible.

A large number of upvotes under those misogynistic comments probably says more about human nature in general than about MRA specifically. A lot of people who upvote those comments probably aren’t true misogynists — they rather react emotionally or follow tribal instincts. But of course, some are, and they use MRA as a cover for resentment or nostalgia for rigid gender norms.

I think that, in general, the marginal status of any movement or community dooms it to a certain amount of inadequacy or radicalism. The more mainstream and "systemic" a movement is, the more it naturally and automatically avoids controversial or harsh ideas and formulations. For MRA to have less misogyny, it needs to enter the mainstream.

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