Weaponizing sex

Observer_7578 · 2023-10-02T21:55:23+00:00

Women have an idiosyncrasy. They won't necessarily like a man, but they will want said man to like them so they can feel better about themselves. This is a bad thing because as much as women complain about being objectified (sometimes they like it), its an example of women using and objectifying men. Also, when a woman is attracted to a man and wants to have sex, she will, and that decision can be made within seconds. So, if a woman is playing the 'waiting game' (waiting cause she wants it to be special) that's exactly what it is, a game because she is using said male.

McFeely_Smackup · 2023-10-03T02:50:33+00:00

Women have "weaponized" sex for as long as sex has existed

That's why feminism has always opposed and demonized prostitution and pornography. They undercut the monopoly on sex that women use instead of working for a living.

PrecisionHat · 2023-10-02T21:50:37+00:00

Every time you meet a girl, jerk off beforehand. If you are cool-headed, it is more difficult to be manipulated.

Only you set the limit for how long you want them to play with you.

Tiny_Professional358 · 2023-10-03T00:54:17+00:00

It’s funny because they’re objectifying themselves despite claiming to dislike that. Also funny how they want to be seen as more than just a sex partner yet use sex to get what they want.

63daddy · 2023-10-02T22:56:03+00:00

They say women are the gatekeepers of sex, but I’ll add it’s partly men’s fault for letting them be.

As bad as it may seem in dating, it’s worse in marriage. If a wife starts withholding sex or leveraging sex, there is nothing a husband can do about it, short of a messy and expensive divorce. If he threatens to stop supporting her in return, it’s financial abuse.

My feeling is don’t marry. If a women I’m dating starts a power play, sexual or otherwise, I can end things and walk away with no penalty.

There’s certainly an argument that having an occasional sugar baby, happy ending massages or even a prostitute is way cheaper in terms of sex than marriage, but I really don’t have a first hand comparison on that one.

Obviously, marriage is about a lot more than sex, but I’m framing it from that perspective based on the topic here.

mrmensplights · 2023-10-03T12:43:38+00:00

It’s consistent. If a woman uses sex as a means to power, then by rejecting them you have devalued that power. You’ve taken the Ace card and let them know it isn’t always reliable or can’t be played at all. They lose their shit because they are losing a means to power over you.

False-Eggplant2662 · 2023-10-02T23:04:39+00:00

My ex was an expert at weaponizing sex. She used it as a tool from day 1. After 16 years, it became transactional, and I completely lost interest. Now, at 60, I find it so amusing that women my age are so focused on getting laid. They are single and have lost the control they had over their exhusbands, but are eager to regain it. I think I will stay very single. 😄

TomcatYYZ · 2023-10-03T00:27:09+00:00

What you allow, will continue...

LouisdeRouvroy · 2023-10-02T22:04:28+00:00

Not only do they do this, but then they also use "Well, a gentleman always pays for a lady". This then puts us a used and then denied all at the same time. It is a struggle power play that many women use once they have a grasp on their sexuality. They want to be able to use sex as a "potential" allurement, but not given while they get everything paid for by the guy. Then when they do allow it and we are "meh okay" they act offended to the point that it's almost like rejection of them, not just the act of sex. Lastly, if they aren't good in bed and we were bold enough to suggest they need to learn more, that would be a definite affront to the relationship, not just a constructive criticism.

It's tough being a guy in the dating scene. Trying to balance morality, gentlemanly, caring, flirty, confidence, and personal flare (both seen & perceived).

Mobile_Lumpy · 2023-10-02T22:35:04+00:00

There's your problem, you're trying to date in the west. God speed man, god speed.

DrSpitzvogel · 2023-10-03T03:45:46+00:00

They think sex is everything. They’ve heard it from their moms and their besties that those dirty men would do everything to get into a vagina. But there are more things which skyrockets my dopamine, like, for me it's business or a hobbi.( that's why they hate satisfied men) and they get mad when they see I’m not mesmerised by a zillionth vagina lol.

8nt2L8 · 2023-10-03T04:01:56+00:00

Pat Benatar - Sex as a Weaponhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD_d5mkZ52M

Off of her 6th studio LP, Seven the Hard Way;Released by: Chrysalis, 1985; Produced By: Neil Giraldo, Joe Chiccarelli & Mike Chapman; Song Written By: Tom Kelly & Billy Steinberg

2023-10-03T12:13:19+00:00

I'll share my take on this.

It's just what they do. It's all part of expecting a man to pursue/initiate/chase them. It's what they get off on. They're never straightforward and to the point about what they want, they just expect that we're thinking the same thing they are. If I could go back and do it over again I would just do coffee dates and have an honest no bullshit conversation about what we're looking for. And if I can't find anyone I agree with then I would find a nice stripper or escort I could have a regular business thing with. (I guess things still did kind of work out that way)

On a side note to that, the guys I've seen that are really successful with getting laid with lots of different women really do use that chasing thing to their advantage. They understand women are primarily looking for a "relationship" and play the "yeah baby, you'll get everything you want, it will all be on your terms" card really well, use them for all they can get, dump them, and then repeat. Weird thing is women have trouble letting old boyfriends go, especially if he did a good job, so not only is he dating different women but he has old girlfriends that still hit him up. It's fucked up but those guys know how to use women, it's just too dishonest for my taste, but kudos to them.

RedFox3001 · 2023-10-03T04:58:27+00:00

That’s what it’s all about.

Imagine if women didn’t have tits and a vagina. Would you date them? Would we marry them? Would we live with them?

They literally swap sex for everything a man can provide.

FlleaBagg · 2023-10-03T03:57:06+00:00

That’s a woman who is addicted to attention.

dibberdott · 2023-10-03T12:10:54+00:00

Dude move on when you run into the mixed signals. Huge red flag or at least a female who has zero social skills and needs to improve. Keep looking until you run into a emotional and socially mature female.

yoitsericc · 2023-10-03T01:16:01+00:00

"The possibility of sex is the modern woman's weapon of choice."
-Kevin Samuels

hotpotato128 · 2023-10-02T23:45:41+00:00

Also they want you to want them at allll times of they day while they are rejecting your advances (which I respect each reject I don’t push) but if you aren’t in the mood for flirting or sex etc it’s like a done deal with them.

My female friend stopped responding to my texts. Maybe this was the reason. Lol

DutchOnionKnight · 2023-10-02T22:13:32+00:00

Especially in the work place. I can't find it, but there was this thread on reddit (I believe), where women pushed each other to sleep with their boss if that will get them higher up. So what is it? Do you want to be sexually objectified in the work place, or not?

And if not, why wearing make up? The look good, but for who? Amd why? Make up is highly sexually provocative.

Or in a datingsub, a guy asked what he needed to change to match his gf libido who pushes him to have sex, even though he didn't want to be sexually active. I'm sorry, but what?!

Delicious-Agency-824 · 2023-10-03T06:53:59+00:00

Women can weaponize sex. Men can weaponize money

2023-10-03T03:47:11+00:00

Old saying.

“Women Are Mean & Men Are Stupid”

DTreatz · 2023-10-03T00:12:55+00:00

Obviously they do, it's all they have.

The only time a female completely submits is if she gives her sexuality to you, even when she's denied her wants or isn't in a particularly "positive" emotional state, like in anger. Those females are rare af, because like a good worker or soldier, they know they still have to do their job regardless of how they feel, and I can respect that.

2023-10-03T12:29:09+00:00

Just went through the same thing. This girl swears up and down that she hasn’t had sex in months and isn’t looking for a hookup. Same day she spams my phone with pix like THIS. Shower videos too. After she sex dumps all this media, she demands private access to my life like what I’m doing and who I’m hanging out with. The texts would be hilarious if they weren’t so pathetic. Very controlling behavior.

Reality TV & Social Media has completely ruined women. Now they live in narcissistic fantasy world where men are useless to them if they’re not simping. I saw straight through her BS and blocked her.

2023-10-03T06:17:44+00:00

Yes, 57 now, had plenty of women around me and still have. Women just don't need it as we do, before important stuff, decisions, relationship stuff. I used to spank the monkey back in the day but now I have changed my strategy, If somewhere in the relationship , especially the beginning, she starts this sex game, giving it, next day not, suddenly losing interest, I just, I will get it somewhere else, I have given myself that permission but under no circumstances will I beg or get myself into that dynamic again and it kind of works The idea of me giving myself this permission and being fine with that, which cost me a lot of thinking and changing some ideas I had, gives me that power of being able to walk away on the spot..., oh boy she feels it .... somehow. They don't want to be objectified ? fine with me, she doesn't feel like but is turning you on and suddenly walking away ? Giving you the .."tonight we are going to have a special night" and you are sitting in front of the TV all night ? fine with me... I

Daketa34813 · 2024-01-20T20:39:09+00:00

Had an ex-gf who weaponized sex against me. Was mad at me because she was depressed about her looks and being home all the time and I was so focused on work (I was the breadwinner working 60+ hours a week) so she punished me for how she felt about herself and eventually told me she wasn't attracted to me(she later admitted this was a lie and that she was projecting). I ended things, got her out of the house, and within a month, she was coming over for some dick. This went on for about 5 months until I told her no more since she didn't wanna be in a relationship with me anymore. 3 years later, I get a message from a buddy with screenshots of my ex trying to contact me because she's missing me. By this point, she's had a kid with another guy and they're still together, but she wants me back.

I'm in a wonderfully happy relationship where both of our needs are met and we both love each other very much and our intimate needs are met. It's just funny to me how much women do it to themselves and then get mad at us lmao

2023-10-03T14:44:30+00:00

In essence, women are like drug dealers and men are the drug addicts. You do everything to please them just to get that drug.

2023-10-03T06:11:25+00:00

i really do feel sorry for straight men. i don't have to deal with woman at all if i don't want to.

aren3141 · 2023-10-02T23:27:17+00:00

How do they use it as a tool to get you to do what they want? Is it like a trade?

BallzMcgheee · 2023-10-04T02:58:18+00:00

Only reasonable solution is to start focusing on chasing money instead of chasing women. You’ll lose every dollar you make the second you start chasing a woman. You’ll have every woman wanting to control you the second you start chasing money. So money is far better than women. Forget them. Focus on money.

Title	Weaponizing sex
Author	martialardis
Upvotes	290
Comments	82
Date	October 2, 2023 9:31 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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