I’ve always been a strong supporter of a woman’s right to choose. I believe no one should be forced to carry a pregnancy against their will. Everyone deserves the freedom to decide what happens with their own body. However, I recently encountered the concept of financial abortion—the idea that men should have a say in whether they take on financial responsibility for an unplanned child—and it surprised me.

I assumed that feminists, as advocates for bodily autonomy and choice, would naturally support the idea of men having a say too. But instead, many seem to oppose financial abortion, using arguments similar to those employed by anti-choice advocates against women. I’ve heard responses like:

  • “If you didn’t want a child, you shouldn’t have had sex.”
  • “Men need to face the consequences of their actions.”
  • “Even if you were raped, you still have financial responsibility.”

These arguments closely mirror the same logic that women and feminists have worked so hard to dismantle. It feels contradictory and unfair. If bodily autonomy is essential for women, why shouldn’t autonomy over financial obligations be a valid discussion for men?

This has left me conflicted. I still believe women should have the right to abortion and understand how crucial it is to stand against forced parenthood. However, I find myself struggling with the idea of supporting a movement that not only overlooks men’s challenges but seems actively opposed to addressing them.

I want to support reproductive rights, but I’m grappling with a difficult question: How can I fight for a cause that doesn’t seem willing to fight for me—and, in fact, works against my rights? Is it reasonable to expect men to champion women’s right to choose if those same women dismiss or reject the concept of choice for men? If equality is truly the goal, shouldn’t reproductive freedom and fairness apply to everyone?

P.S. I tried posting these on the feminist subs, but my posts were removed with snarky comments. lol.