Would you date a feminist?

hissiliconsoul · 2010-04-17T22:27:00+00:00

Never again. I'm out thousands of dollars and my cats.

SnakeJG · 2010-04-17T21:09:05+00:00

Depends if feminism actually means "equality" to her.

PeterArching · 2010-04-18T03:19:58+00:00

IT'S A TRAP!

Gareth321 · 2010-04-17T22:28:36+00:00

As slicknasty said; only if they're genuinely interested in equality. That's not my experience with the majority of feminists I've known. I also strongly disapprove of the generational payback mentality. It goes something like "my grandmother wasn't able to go to university, so I think it's fair less men are allowed to go now".

kru5h · 2010-04-17T21:22:11+00:00

Most likely not, but I'm willing to make some exceptions if she isn't too insane about it.

Just like I could date a girl who is a Christian, but if she brings up "Christ" on the first date, I know that she's so into it that it's not worth sticking around. Similarly, if a girl brings up feminism on the first date, I know it's time to walk.

ignatiusloyola · 2010-04-17T21:44:07+00:00

Gender feminist or equity feminist?

I dated a gender feminist. After we broke up, she became much more hardcore.

I would gladly date an equity feminist, though. As long as a person respects equal rights, I don't see their self label as a detractor to a relationship.

bad_keisatsu · 2010-04-17T21:21:21+00:00

The question is would a feminist date me?

MeanMotherHubbard · 2010-04-18T17:56:50+00:00

Sure, but she better be able to have some perspective. Not everything is designed to oppress women. Yes I can cook, but if I get home at 8 and you get home at 4, then it's just practical that you cook or we eat at 10. I can do something else that helps the house out.

TeamDisrespect · 2010-04-17T20:45:31+00:00

Depends on how well she cooks.

BenedictKenny · 2010-04-18T17:51:08+00:00

I have dated the kind of feminist (a year ago) that we fight against. It was awful for so many reasons. AMA.

mayonesa · 2010-04-18T03:22:49+00:00

Never again.

kloo2yoo · 2010-04-18T02:53:50+00:00

nope.

(I don't date. ever.)

Starcrusher · 2010-04-17T20:52:20+00:00

I'd date Lizzie Borden if she puts out.

2010-04-19T20:21:26+00:00

I would be turned off by any woman who sees herself as above me, feels entitled or expects me to be respect any unfair female privileges she feels she is owed, whether she is feminist or otherwise(actually, if anything, most of the women I have known to feel entitled because of their gender were not feminists, they were just women using, or abusing, the female privileges feminism acquired/reinforced for them). In all likelihood though, those women would also probably not date me either, as they could easily find other men ready and willing to support them in their chivalrous or misandric fantasies. Although, on an intellectual level, I think I would also get kind of annoyed with any feminists who tried to convince me that feminism was really about equality.

In any case, though, I don't think I would let any of that deter me from actually dating someone; feminism certainly means different things for everyone but I would also try to focus on her qualities rather than her faults; her identity goes deeper than a simple label or a few political views. There is also the reality that, while she may be a feminist to begin with, she will also continue to change and grow as a person; so, even though there is a chance her views about feminism will always be the same, I don't think it is really all that important.

jelliedbabies · 2010-04-17T21:34:59+00:00

I dated a bisexual, animal rights activist, feminist. She was non of those after a year with me. Let her want for "self respect" get in the way of a good sexlife though but she loved bacon and penis by the end. So yeah I have and it gets annoying at times but at the end of the day it wasn't anything bigger than all the other annoyances that enter a relationship.

Little_Kitty · 2010-04-17T21:02:51+00:00

Yes, so long as she wasn't the insane type.

I can think of many matters more likely to affect such a decision.

mobius88 · 2010-04-17T22:55:46+00:00

I do date a feminist, and I am one myself. We just stick to the actual definition of the word.

Feminism: the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

freedomgeek · 2010-04-18T08:32:18+00:00

Feminist as in equality? Definitely, I don't know if I'd want a women who isn't a feminist under that definition.

Feminist as in all men are rapists, E=MC² is a sexed equation, etc? No.

XFDRaven · 2010-04-18T00:09:57+00:00

No.

The last gal I was going out with was very bright, fun to be around and seemed to be a good person. She slipped that she was a feminist at some point, which ended it shortly thereafter.

A woman who subscribes to feminism is openly associating herself to all of the hypocricy and sexism associated with the group. She's warning you that should you build a relationship with her, you're going to wind up in the default fucked-over-male role so be ready and open up your wallet.

The few people I know of who are in healthy relationships also have partners who disassociate themselves as much as they can from feminism. As I have said before, if a lady admits she's a feminist, end the conversation and walk away. Don't waste your time and your life with someone unhealthy like that.

Rygarb · 2010-04-17T21:17:59+00:00

Hell no.

Psychovore · 2010-04-18T03:34:07+00:00

Of course. Real feminists advocate equality of female rights. I would have absolutely no trouble dating one of them- anyone who would is a hypocrite if they are part of this /r/. When it comes to "feminists" that are in name only, however, we run into more of an issue. Would I date one? Probably-? Would I regret it? Most likely.

papadelicious · 2010-04-19T05:05:19+00:00

I am a feminist, because I believe that women should have the same rights as men.

trucekill · 2010-04-18T03:13:14+00:00

A fun feminist. :P

Godspiral · 2010-04-18T17:09:07+00:00

I would because you can hold them to their ideals.

feminists will tell other women that they deserve to get every penny they can from the implied abusive child molester they tell her to leave, but they are more likely to internalize that they are independent human beings capable of entering contracts/agreement that does not presume their future dependence on a man.

edit: i'll let you know how that is workin out for me.

rmbarnes · 2010-04-19T11:56:59+00:00

Fuck, no

VoodooIdol · 2010-04-19T15:09:03+00:00

I once had to break up with a girl because of her feminism.

rzm61 · 2010-06-13T04:17:18+00:00

I'm sort of dating one right now. She is simply amazing. We've still yet to actually sit down and talk about her feminism cause I usually shoot it down right away (I'm kind of a dick) but I want to hear her out. I'm hoping she wont turn out to be a psycho.

HolidayBlues · 2010-04-18T20:02:33+00:00

I only date feminists, i dont want a submissive girl who isn't proud/happy with who she is.

2010-04-18T00:32:38+00:00

Sure. Why not?

Liverotto · 2010-04-17T23:02:00+00:00

Yes, because women change their mind faster than I change my underwear.

2010-04-17T22:01:16+00:00

Depends on how much she's paying me.

brahle · 2010-04-18T01:08:17+00:00

I think you can't. She can, however, date you... Maybe in Soviet Russia what you say is possible.

[EDIT: a slightly better wording]

prossii · 2010-04-18T04:33:34+00:00

No.

Edit: Well, does she have big (. Y .)

fontoon · 2010-04-18T05:09:44+00:00

If she put out yes, but I wouldn't marry.

rodentdp · 2010-04-18T10:03:09+00:00

So long as she wore lipstick and heels, yes.

ristin · 2010-04-19T05:25:21+00:00

What a stupid question. Why would a man-hating feminist try to date a man in the first place? And why place the blame for their sexism and bigotry onto the victims of their sexism and bigotry?

And if there is a feminist who wants to date a man then maybe they should try not blaming all men for all problems and all the other usual hate-speech feminists spout against men.

Title	Would you date a feminist?
Author	RuffBrute
Upvotes	15
Comments	127
Date	April 17, 2010 8:39 PM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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