Do you think people should eventually outgrow RP/BP/PP?

2020-04-16T06:55:48+00:00

I agree with the sentiment of this post. I’ve learned more in the real world than any debates here that take subjects such as n count and make it extremely black and white when there’s a lot more nuance to it. I was generally purple pilled when I lurked on this forum more often a few years ago. But honestly, once I started going out more I’ve noticed how prevalent the black pill is in terms of how people date in leagues, and how prevalent assortative mating is.

There are truths to everything discussed by the pills. But everyone is so uniquely different that one’s SO appears to be more red or blue pilled depending on their character.

Just keep getting out there, hopefully you’ll meet someone that you like that likes you back. And vet them properly in your relationship to see if they’re marriage material. Never settle for less than what you want. Sometimes our standards scale down to match our reality, but if you’re fine with scaling down your standards then it’s not really a big deal.

Sid_Insidious · 2020-04-16T07:52:33+00:00

The more people I meet the more I value time with my dog.

pixelatedlizard · 2020-04-16T07:03:43+00:00

Yes. None of this shit is healthy. Just accept people are people, and some are better some are worse and they're all individuals. Their demographic doesnt play a part in their value, it's their character.

Mrs_Drgree · 2020-04-16T06:10:03+00:00

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SeemedGood · 2020-04-16T06:48:01+00:00

As someone who casually wanders back here when he has women shit on his mind,

You’re coming to the wrong place if you want to break that loop.

passepar2t · 2020-04-16T11:09:28+00:00

The important thing is that you found a way to feel superior to everyone.

missnettiemoore · 2020-04-16T06:19:33+00:00

Yes I think a lot of people do. The more time you spend in the real world you realize a lot of this pill stuff doesn't apply. Life is life, sometimes it is red, sometimes it is blue, sometimes it is purple. People are people, sometimes they are red, sometimes the are blue, sometimes they are purple. I think as people get more and more settled into their life a lot of the pill stuff begins to become more irrelevant.

CuriousIncel2 · 2020-04-16T06:18:26+00:00

The primary source of my opinions is my lived experience and observed experience.

I just come here with an open mind to find wide variety of perspectives, some corroborating my observations, some in complete opposition, and then some I hadn't even hitherto considered.

Zippo-Cat · 2020-04-16T13:30:33+00:00

Oh look, it's the monthly "wow y'all are just so, like, I can't even" thread.

Now watch a bunch of lurkers come out of the woodwork and agree wholeheartedly.

ItchyHealth · 2020-04-16T07:26:10+00:00

“Outgrowing” RP would mean engaging in wilful ignorance.

Nodoxxintoxin · 2020-04-16T12:20:28+00:00

There are a lot of angry people who come and go. Some will find a SO, some won’t, but the anger phase a will subside for most. Ask me how I know

DangZagnut · 2020-04-16T07:56:23+00:00

RP is what you have left when you outgrow tradcuckery and childish fantasies of how the world works.

TheJim66 · 2020-04-16T09:24:16+00:00

Why would I outgrow something that has improved my life and accurately describes reality?

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Workaholiconew · 2020-04-16T12:53:49+00:00

Depends. The sexual/relationship market should not be a thing you live for. It is unhealthy to be in that for too long

resolutions316 · 2020-04-16T13:39:34+00:00

Your goal for ANY mental framework should be to adapt whatever works to your life and drop the rest.

RP is made by people; people are fallible. Take what works, move on to something else.

But in this sense, you never “outgrow” it. You don’t outgrow knowing how the world works.

2020-04-16T14:26:47+00:00

RP/BP/PP are worldviews. We carry those throughout our lives. Some people might change worldviews, a lot of guys go from BP to RP, but we always have worldviews.

the_calibre_cat · 2020-04-16T20:54:08+00:00

Yes, because living exclusively one way or the other is a non-stop exercise in self-inflicted misery. You either stay in it and off yourself, or determine to find a way to move on. Exception: Purples. They don't seem a maladjusted bunch, even if they're WRONG.

AdolfGandi · 2020-04-16T11:53:17+00:00

You're right. I'm going to delete my account after the lockdown has ended.

I don't want to be the sort of person who spends an inordinate amount of time in an internet rabbit hole. The people who do that are never happy.

majani · 2020-04-16T06:32:43+00:00

Most red pillers will quit the life because plating women is hard work, and most FDSers will end up settling for an unattractive beta.

insertcredit2 · 2020-04-16T10:24:52+00:00

I'm not here for any of that. I have an interest in the social impact of online dating, of women having the majority of degree's and out earning men under 30 and the rise in incels.

I like it here because you can watch the ground war of a big societal shake up.

bonusfruit · 2020-04-16T14:01:47+00:00

I wish people would grow out of the 'go out and meet people, the internet isn't real life' phase

Christian_Kong · 2020-04-16T14:07:51+00:00

Fucking go out, meet people. The internet is a cesspool of negativity, why are you letting some random person with who fucking knows what issues dictate how you feel? It's not reality."

The reason why people can go on endlessly in this sub is because they go out and meet people. Anecdotal evidence isn't exactly the best way to take in a world view, even though in a way it should.

2020-04-16T15:50:12+00:00

Is this mostly just a pit stop for the depressed and lonely and put out

Don't forget the washed up :D but nah seriously there is something about this place that is really interesting. It's like "challenge to a debate about damn near anything as long as you can tie it back to the topic "

And you realize most things can be tied back to the topic one way or the other

I_sort_by_new_fam · 2020-04-16T16:01:19+00:00

Yes. And the fact that the only ones not willing to look past this are RP says something. People willingly ignoring RP arent ignorant, perhaps we dont want to partake in their frat

wtknight · 2020-04-16T16:02:11+00:00

Yeah, I think that people should emotionally mature and outgrow their obsession with casual sex, which is where I think that most of the problems on this sub stem from.

Women should stop trying to have casual sex and should emotionally mature and settle down into relationships. Men should stop trying to emulate Chad and hating on women because they are having casual sex with Chad and should start developing the romantic, emotional qualities that would make a woman want to settle down with him.

imtheoneimmortal · 2020-04-16T17:53:50+00:00

We grow upon what happens to our childhood

goneaway2thewind · 2020-04-16T18:06:27+00:00

I take breaks from here frequently, but its actually speaking to women and couples that triggers my PPD vents and returns.

nemporisso · 2020-04-16T18:40:23+00:00

Of course. These discussions are all beyond stupid. I'm in your same boat. Reality pill hahaha

G77R23D · 2020-04-16T19:56:18+00:00

Yeah it's best not to consume so much debate that it makes you cynical. But men who dont heed the warnings taught here will marry a poor choice and regret it in silence like millions of men out there now. Get just enough to keep you on your toes.

PeppyHydra · 2020-04-16T20:18:45+00:00

Just 🐝 yourself

XtremePeace · 2020-04-17T01:18:32+00:00

I was just making a post about thid aimed at men who can't get laid in here how they fool themselves with intelectual verbiage instead of connecting to their instincts and becoming more attractive which is objectively what would give them the experiences they want. Of course it was moderated by a woman as "low effort" (lol just proved my point about hamsterwheeling and furthermore indicates women are making some kind of emotional or other kind of profit from this mental masturbation about them) Most of this pill shit is garbage and won't concretly improve your life that's what I have found. It will just polute your mind with bullshit instead of naturally calmly just walking through life. It will exagerate problems and ignore simple individual solutions, it will analise life from an external perspective instead of encouraging you to trust yourself live from the gut connect to your peaceful secure inner self.

methylotroph · 2020-04-17T17:16:07+00:00

Out grow trying to find truth?

p_and_q · 2020-04-16T12:18:29+00:00

All the subs, RP/BP/PP/FSD/ect. have some truth to them. They are not absolute truths though. You need to calibrate how much any of the truths apply through personal experiences. This also means you have to go out and meet people to have these personal experiences. The thing is, the people who stay in these subs tend to have the worst personal experiences and staying in the subs can create a negative feedback loop, which paints these experiences as darker then they usually are.

Current events (COVID19) is making all of this worse because people can't really even go out anymore.

Title	Do you think people should eventually outgrow RP/BP/PP?
Author	MisterJose
Upvotes	37
Comments	70
Date	April 16, 2020 5:52 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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