N-count question.

PennnyLame · 2018-05-31T01:58:55+00:00

If a man has a low n-count due to his values and wants his partner to share those values, he should 100% act on those preferences. I have yet to hear any other compelling reason for being invested in a prospective partner’s n-count. With that in mind, hiring a sex worker is not something that fits within my value system. I would fear it would be too large a disconnect for me to have a successful relationship with a man who regularly visited them.

killallthenarcs · 2018-05-31T02:20:15+00:00

I think you will find that there are very few people who say that it is always wrong to have a level of concern for n-count, although those few are very vocal indeed. What you will find is a great many people (me included) who think that virginity fetishes disguised as concern for n-count are something a man will need to get the fuck over if he wants to live a happy life in modern western society. He's probably not going to get a virgin and if he does she's going to be much younger and grow out of him (hello divorce) or she's going to be a religious prude or certifiable weirdo. So I guess that puts me in the camp of

>Or any variety of thought that says rejecting a potential partner due to their n-count is a either immoral or unwise decision

because fuck yeah it is unwise to reject perfectly suited women who just happen to have counts within the low range of normal bounds and go looking for a weirdo instead.

Anyhow, yes, with my current level of knowledge of the SMP I would reject a guy who had been a regular user of the prosties. There is some visceral disgust for it, partly due to the germ situation and partly due to the financial idiocy.

mossiness · 2018-05-31T02:52:41+00:00

What is so bad about being called insecure? I want a low n-count man because I am insecure that he will dump me like he did the last 6 women. Hot, high value women probably wouldn't care. Why do Red Pillers take offense at being called insecure?

Jammerly1 · 2018-05-31T02:48:08+00:00

I don’t think it doesn’t matter at all but it doesn’t nearly as much as you all make it out to be. You have to look at the person as a whole. And some of you freak out at n-counts that are laughable low.m, which makes you seem insecure. If she’s got 50+ that’s probably cause for concern but some of you got your Hanes in a tight wad over women in high single digits.

poppy_blu · 2018-05-31T03:08:21+00:00

If any man doesn’t want to date a woman with a high count, that’s his choice. I would not tell him he shouldn’t make that choice and you can look through my comment history and see that I’ve said this many times before.

The fact remains that, town bicycle aside, most experienced men don’t care. Pointing this out usually sends TRPs into an angry frenzy but that doesn’t make it untrue nor does it mean anyone is telling TRPs they should make a choice that doesn’t fit with their own values.

I wouldn’t care if he had visited prostitutes before me as long as it was safe and he got tested.

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RockinSocksII · 2018-05-31T01:39:07+00:00

As long as he was using a condom or something to protect himself from STDs, it wouldn't bother me. It's more time effective than wastinga whole night trying to get laid.

Hdhdjjduufjndjidjdfj · 2018-05-31T08:57:19+00:00

I'd probably feel quite insecure that he'd be comparing me to them. But that would happen regardless of how many or the sort of women he'd slept with. Testing would be essential though.

mistresswhat · 2018-05-31T19:08:53+00:00

I would and I have.

Honestly, might even add an extra level of safety -- escorts use blacklists and civ women don't so I'd have a better chance of finding out if he'd been a shit to any of them.

BookwormJane · 2018-06-01T00:06:29+00:00

. Would you be completely comfortable dating a man who disclosed that in between relationships when he was single, he was regularly visiting prostitutes and having safe sex?

No because I don't believe in 100% safe sex. People get drunk, people forget to use condoms. I'd be disgusted and run away

Bruchibre · 2018-06-05T03:45:39+00:00

Thanks for asking the real questions. I came to the same conclusion: a woman having ONS/hookups to a man is like a man going to see prostitutes to a woman, talking about the impression it can give. Some will not care, somme will be grossed out by it for any possible reason. It's more accurate comparison than comparing ONS with ONS.

Gravel_Roads · 2018-06-05T10:01:17+00:00

I have no problem with it. I was an escort for a few years, myself.

whitebunny87 · 2018-05-31T02:27:50+00:00

i wouldn't care, as long as it wasn't because he couldn't get laid normally.

TheMedsPeds · 2018-05-31T22:57:45+00:00

I have 0 issue with men or women having preferences and expectations. It's when there are double standards I have an issue with.

You are some alpha red pill guy who's boned 30+ women before the age of 25, spinning plates of whatever gibberish words you use for it but when you decide it's time to marry and settle down you flip out when you find out your girlfriend boned 10+ guys in college. Hypocrite, go fuck yourself.

For me personally, I slept around a bit, nothing major. I am not that outgoing or attractive. I also didn't date that many guys. So if I were single I'd want someone with at least a similar background to me.

I just feel I couldn't relate or connect with a guy that's had a super successful dating life prior to me. We are on different wave lengths. A guy friend of mine were once discussing our love lives. I told him that I exclusively dated 3 guys before I met my husband. He seemed dumbfounded. "I've dated like 30 girls. I mean, some of them didn't last longer than a week or two but still."

30? I doubt I've met 30 guys total in my life that I have even considered wanting to date, not alone actually having him like me back, both be single and it work out, even for a bit.

Willow-girl · 2018-05-31T03:26:45+00:00

One of my husbands was retired military and had visited prostitutes, bar girls and had 'arrangements' while he was stationed overseas. I didn't think anything of it; I figured most soldiers and sailors do that, especially if they're not married. A man has needs, lol.

Title	N-count question.
Author	TheMiddlePeak
Upvotes	2
Comments	144
Date	May 31, 2018 1:32 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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