Should men still approach?

LikeMyNameIsElNino · 2023-12-02T11:07:13+00:00

Only if youre likely to succeed. If your odd are 1/10000, its just demoralizing.

Only a handful of young men are likely to succeed

macone235 · 2023-12-02T17:53:24+00:00

Most men shouldn't approach, because they don't approach, and they don't approach for a reason - because the effort is not worth the reward anymore. Rejection is a part of life, but blindly accepting it no matter what is not. Rejection wears down the psyche regardless of who you are, and enough of it in combination with unsatisfactory rewards is just going to make you more unhappy than you were pre-rejection. Sometimes, you just need to accept you are in a lose-lose situation.

pyroblastftw · 2023-12-02T07:51:37+00:00

I think most guys should do it a few times simply to get a reality check for where they stand in terms of attractiveness to the population around them.

It’s a way to effectively verify if your confidence (when it comes to dating) is justified or not.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-12-02T10:41:09+00:00

Hot men yes, unattractive men no if they don't some very nasty rejections or a restrictions order.

SmellHeavy9016 · 2023-12-04T13:04:15+00:00

whatever happened to bros before hoes.. no, a man shouldnt approach, dont feed their already massive egos

Capital-Literature-9 · 2023-12-02T11:06:49+00:00

If you want to meet someone/ interested in getting yourself out there into dating yeah, you kind of have to.

The reality is the percentage of men who don't have to actually try and just have women flock to them are in the minority, and chances are you don't fall into that minority. So it's kind of up to you to put yourself forward and take the plunge so to speak.

The good news is if you're somewhat socially aware, know how to strike up a normal conversation, and know when you're fighting a losing battle it's nowhere near as bad out there as someone dudes would have you believe. You'll take a lot of hits and be turned down more times than accepted, as well as coming across some real pieces of work, but it's all practice.

Wattehfok · 2023-12-02T07:50:20+00:00

Yes.

Have a nice lil chat and don’t be weird about it. You might even meet someone you like.

MattPayneWrestler · 2023-12-02T22:13:25+00:00

Nah, women should approach us. Were cool with being approached, and they consider it harassment if we do it, so logically society should place the entire burden of approaching on women. But that will never happen cause women will never approach. So heres what happens:

Women call being approached as harrassment.

Good men listen and never approach and be sad and alone.

Assholes don’t give a f**k and just approach, cause they done care if it bothers women.

Women only end up with assholes cause they’re the only ones approaching.

Asshole have their sexual fun with multiple women and then ditch them.

Women will complain how men are assholes and be alone and sad and mad.

Assholes and players will have a great time!

Oof!

Sophiatab · 2023-12-06T21:12:49+00:00

If they are content with a celibate life and only other men for companionship, men should avoid women. If they want female companionship, men should be prepared to approach.

YearnsToDestroySun · 2023-12-02T07:55:40+00:00

chicks think in hiveminds, especially on the internet.

It drives me crazy the lack of social individuality women have compared to men. Takes a lot of searching to find a woman that is free from that and justifiably so in her wisdom/intelligence/charisma.

ArtifactFan65 · 2023-12-02T08:20:41+00:00

If you are attractive/charismatic then sure, otherwise you're probably better off approaching women as friends first in hobby/social sport clubs.

OtPayOkerSmay · 2023-12-02T16:36:19+00:00

I'm a bit egalitarian in this aspect. With the removal of gender-based roles from society at large, both men and women should be approaching people they are interested in getting to know. If the social contract was still in tact, I would say men should be doing the approaching; but it's not, and there are so many other factors that have made approach a very risky gamble if you're not genetically gifted and having a high level of charisma.

To add to this, women approaching would lead to rejection that may pop some overinflated egos and force women that overestimate their value to start lowering their standards to a more reasonable level.

projectimbili · 2023-12-02T12:00:12+00:00

Yes, you still need to learn communication skills

Recluse007 · 2023-12-02T08:28:48+00:00

Women don't really like men as much they advertise, period. A man is a tool for women. Look at the single woman who has it all. She usually doesn't care about men cuz she'd rather be shopping, doing some random activity, or out with her friends. The single man who has it all most likely has multiple women or at least 1. Elderly Men still want sex/women. Elderly women just want to be left alone or be with their friends.

I say all that to say, men have no choice but to approach. Or else you'll be waiting forever on a woman's approach. Men are more interested in the opposite sex, hence why we have to approach and do all the work/strategizing/planning etc.

ScorpioZeal · 2023-12-04T09:43:04+00:00

Nope, women get enough free attention as it is.

I’m not giving a random woman an ego boost. Especially any gym thot that has been ran through and is looking for fresh meat.

SeveralLiterature980 · 2023-12-02T09:59:13+00:00

Men today are very scared of approaching. Some of it I can see, but most of it I really struggle to understand.

A lot of the justification comes down to "but wat iff she doesn't wiiiiiike me, wat if she's meeeeean?"

Who gives a shit? Regardless of what she does or says to reject you (unless you've had a really bad day and she's the cherry on top then you can be a little mean lol), be polite and say "have a good night," and move on. At lot of the time just being chill and composed can force them to realize how much of a bitch they're being.

Real life example

In HS I thought this one chick was super foine, and like, the second day of class 9th grade I asked her if she wanted to hang out after school or something. She cocked her head, pushed this long blonde strand of hair away from her face, then lazily pointed at me, "you? and me? you must be joking." Literally everyone around started laughing. I just shrugged and said, "ok." and went about my life like nothing happened.

Like a week later (this was back in the days of passing notes), I'm at my desk doodling while class is going on and I get a note. It's from this chick.

"Hi."

This went back and forth until she said she was sorry about the other day, and that sometimes she ends up liking guys after awhile.

I literally wrote "that's cool, whatever. class is about to let out. bye."

^ this girl literally ended up carrying an extreme torch for me throughout the entire 4 years of HS.

Other things have happened like that over the years. At a bar, rejected, say 'ok have a good one' and move on, only to somehow get in a conversation with them later and it ends up going in the other direction.

Be direct. Be polite. LEAVE AS SOON AS THEY SAY NO.

^ follow those rules and you're GUCCI

Safinated · 2023-12-02T17:44:41+00:00

If you want to get laid you will

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like_a_record · 2023-12-02T14:30:06+00:00

What's happening now is everyone is afraid to escalate

Everything starts and ends with some polite intro small talk, no one takes to leap to actually risking rejection by asking for numbers, etc

99% of dating advice is something like, "ask her a question about what's she's doing" ignoring the most important part about escalating

Everyone waiting for the other person to get the hint and take all the risk

harmonica2 · 2023-12-02T18:47:30+00:00

Examples are only a used in videos where women respond negatively. No one ever uses positive examples and I think there are still positive examples out there.

No-Description3010 · 2023-12-02T19:04:21+00:00

She turned around, he saw her face and changed his mind.

apresonly · 2023-12-02T21:48:31+00:00

i dont think its ever been normal in human history for men to approach strange women.

Spydive · 2023-12-03T05:43:14+00:00

Yes, at least for me I’m more submissive and shy. So when someone approaches me, it tells me that they are a leader and aren’t submissive which works really well for both of us.

Miserable_Cut_5930 · 2023-12-03T11:53:22+00:00

No point in approaching women if your a sub5

One-Store2972 · 2023-12-03T23:12:11+00:00

80/20 rule dude. Most men are not hot enough to be approached by a woman, but most women are hot enough to be approached by a man.

jonabay4 · 2023-12-04T04:49:18+00:00

Yes, but in social settings, not randomly.

ChipEducational2543 · 2023-12-04T06:11:12+00:00

If you look good, do it. Most of the rejections you get will be cordial anyway

Title	Should men still approach?
Author	South-Wallaby3123
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Comments	73
Date	December 2, 2023 7:31 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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