Why so much hate for pick-mes?

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-04-19T15:26:02+00:00

No leading questions

MarBitt · 2023-04-19T14:46:50+00:00

Personally, I appreciate women willing to stand up for men, or to acknowledge that men also have a hard time with something and the like. A woman who shows that she is grateful for her man, values him, loves him, and is willing to do a lot for him to please him, has my natural sympathy. These are not pick-mes, but wise, healthy thinking women in good relationships who I can learn a lot from.

On the other hand, going against one's own principles, convictions, in order to gain a few likes or advantages, whether from women or men, always seems low and pathetic. Whether someone plays the victim, the saint or the super woman. It works poorly for would-be feminist men who try to get into women's panties by pretending to support an ideology, simps who think that if they adore every woman who walks by, some will take pity on them and keep them to ass-kissing, to macho wannabes who think that if they play the toughest guy in the world, everyone will respect them, and to pick-me women who humiliate themselves just so that some man will notice them and choose them.

People respect those who respect themselves.

wtknight · 2023-04-19T14:36:27+00:00

It’s because women say that their value should be determined by their own assessment, not men’s assessment. Women who act as pick-men are encouraging men to continue their patriarchal power, supposedly.

EulenWatcher · 2023-04-19T15:00:12+00:00

Mostly because they push their agenda on everyone and suffer from superiority complex. It isn't "I do this and that and it works for me, but it might not work for you", it's "you should be like me and do this and that". People don't like when others tell them what to do, especially when these others are pathetic in their eyes.

Also the phrase about house and reflection makes as much sense as a phrase "woman's jewelries are a reflection of a man she's with". It's just an easy manipulation.

TheLonerCoder · 2023-04-19T15:07:50+00:00

I think it's because of the context. Being a pickme is basically the woman version of being a "simp". Like, for example, no one has a problem with a guy who wants to generally become more desirable to women. Like if he gets in shape, gets a good career, looksmax, etc. But there is a fine line between that and trying to do or say ANYTHING to impress any woman to the point where you come off being desperate. A pickme is basically the woman version of this. There is nothing wrong with genuinely wanting to improve yourself to attract men. There is something wrong when you come off as desperate trying to impress men.

Doesthisevenmatter7 · 2023-04-19T14:44:22+00:00

Pick me’s are hated cause they’re women who agree that women’s dating value is determined by men and they choose to be what men want to have a better chance of attracting a man. Women hate that as they want their dating value to be determined by them and not by men.

Which makes no sense cause value is determined by the buyer. Women determine men’s dating value and Men determine women’s. I don’t really understand why that concept is hated so much by women but it’s not going to change pick me’s are clearly the smarter ones.

baresquad · 2023-04-19T15:06:30+00:00

They’re unattractive and pathetic. Too dependent on validation from men for doing simple shit like cooking and cleaning. Everybody can do those things, doing them for a man doesn’t make someone special.

I don’t want to be with someone like that.

Safinated · 2023-04-19T15:12:12+00:00

Desperate people of either gender are no fun to be around, inspire no respect, are annoying when they repeat dumb behaviors and then whine about the results, and will ditch or exploit you in order to get what they want. Because desperate

Due-Lie-8710 · 2023-04-19T15:14:44+00:00

Men hate simps, women hate pick me , men love pick messages, women love simps

1Here4Bach · 2023-04-19T14:52:36+00:00

Pick me’s are the female equivalent of simps. The same reason males hate simps is the same reason women hate pick me’s

Maffioze · 2023-04-19T15:08:58+00:00

Somehow caring about men has become being pick-me.

I only date so called "pick-me's" and I happily "simp" for a woman that treats me amazingly.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2023-04-19T15:45:44+00:00

Because its a self serving farce and ego boost.

Eventually you reach a point in life where you realize the people who 'walk the walk' are doing so quietly and peacefully.

They generally aren't on tiktok seeking out or producing content that are just empty panaceas.

Pick me girls are already doing their thing naturally and reciprocally with guys that are simps for them. Its called a loving relationship.

However highlighting and exalting specific behaviors women may do for men they love as some sort of standard is just...weird, and a naked admission of seeking attention.

Like, calm down ya'll, if you are so good at being a girlfriend how about you stop peacocking on the internet and just...go be a girlfriend?

dysonRing · 2023-04-19T15:23:19+00:00

Feminism at the absolute core is the hatred of men. See the local feminists here that are opposed to paternity tests.

They hate good looking women in porn but support disgusting bbw porn as empowering.

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cmvmania · 2023-04-19T15:26:15+00:00

hipocrisy and virtue signalling bullshit. Tell her to get real and fuck the insecure dudes she's advocating for on social media, tons of them are damn insecure for a reason and I doubt she would fuck and date any of them.

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Title	Why so much hate for pick-mes?
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