Ask Anything Friday - 12/05/14

illwill203 · 2014-12-05T17:07:25+00:00

TL;DR: I have a fitness background and don't see a lot of help on this page for people looking to get in shape. Would there be interest in a thread where I answer peoples questions.

I only somewhat recently found TRP, maybe about two months ago. I love it and since my divorce, which wasn't bad and actually didn't destroy me at all, I have been practicing a lesser version until I came upon this site.

anyway, one thing I did on my own was create a body I was proud of, which ended up earning me some extra cash through modeling and shows. Something I don't see a lot of on here is a how to guide on getting started. I've seen a lot of people refer to the fitness page but I have run through there and I wasn't impressed.

I was a personal trainer for a short period of time and came close to finishing a kinesiology degree before switching to MIS. Anyway would there be any interest if I stared a thread answering questions people might have? I can post some before and after pics and just talk about what worked for me and the basics of nutrition and what not.

SBxFlacko · 2014-12-05T16:49:17+00:00

If I don't write this now I probably won't ever ask this. I don't like using the terms 'Alpha' and 'Beta' but I feel it will make this easier to understand.

Things to understand: I'm currently in monk mode (gym, learning tae kwon doe, began reading books again and focusing on my career). I'm 19 undergoing a gap year working as a bartender.

At the moment, I'm being shunned by my group because I'm not in awe of the alpha female and I'm the only one that calls her out on her shit and sees her for who she is - a manipulative she-devil. I'm also being shunned because I no longer talk to a beta whiteknight of the group who decided to become an orbiter of my ex girlfriend, and abuse me because she thinks I'm an asshole so 'logically' he must stand up for her and prove his loyalty and chivalry by sticking it to tha man (me).

My question is: do I abandon this group despite there being awesome guys in it (who are all orbiters) despite not having another group to goto? My bestfriend is outside of the group and also believes in the redpill so I still have a couple of friends to hang out with.

tombreck2 · 2014-12-05T14:21:13+00:00

Monk mode is starting to feel like prison; all I do is work, lift and read without alcohol, sex, video games or much socializing. Is this normal

Metalgear222 · 2014-12-05T14:52:24+00:00

I'm all but obsessed with RP logic at this point. I'm beginning to swallow RP concepts and notice myself fixing posture, hands out of pockets, taking women off the pedestal and more. But everytime I get past an open with a woman, I slip back into typical BP me and lose all attraction. How can I hold frame? Is there a process?

Derjenige · 2014-12-05T14:11:50+00:00

I'll kick it off not with a question, but with a reminder. Don't get caught up in the details. Don't read 26 articles that you saw on TRP and try to implement 500 changes in your life. Read and analyze how it relates to your life.

Do people take advantage of your niceness when you "just can't say no" to helping acquaintences move, or helping that 2nd cousin repaint his living room? Practice saying no.

Pudgy? Hit the gym and learn about nutrition.

Don't try to do too many things at once. I made that mistake when I was trying to fit learning the guitar, learning Python, and learning Mandarin Chinese into my already busy schedule. Guess how good I am at any of those today. Bingo, I suck at them.

By contrast, a few years ago I was unhappy with how out of shape I had become, and how unhealthy I was eating. I started going to the gym with a buddy of mine and learning about nutrition, and it's been our thing ever since. It's now just something I do, and it's easy to add things on top of that. Sure, there have been setbacks with injuries or illness, but it's a long term journey with long term commitment.

Applied to this post - you might have something you want to ask about a date this weekend. Don't worry about how to do that weird triangle gaze thing that PUA forums talk about. Don't worry about touching her arm just so at this precise time. Dress well, hold your frame, and have fun. If things feel right for some kino, do it. Don't overanalyze it.

StubbornGorilla · 2014-12-05T17:32:21+00:00

Just argued with my girlfriend, I kept calm and I think I managed to maintain frame okish (still practicing that). When she got hissy I told her I am going to go until she thinks about what she said. After I leave I get a couple of texts saying something like "Go to "Becca", go to her and fuck her brains out if you think we aren't sexual enough. I won't let anybody change me." I ignored her texts. What should I do now?

Edit: to clarify, Becca is the girl I hooked up with before we got together.

IceColdTang · 2014-12-05T16:32:56+00:00

While practicing game on a HB8 she said "I don't tease well" with a smile. I can't take that at face value, but I can't see what's in between the lines here...

let_terror_reign · 2014-12-05T16:38:32+00:00

How do you do monk mode while in an ltr?

needless_pickup_line · 2014-12-05T16:39:31+00:00

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cdnz0mbie · 2014-12-05T16:53:53+00:00

Is there a sub for men who were already married when they took the pill?

Derjenige · 2014-12-05T16:56:13+00:00

Sometimes I like to go on TBP and just find gems like this:

I'm what you'd call "traditionally masculine". I have a respectable job and position in society.

I'm also a staunch feminist

Just lol

k_e_o_l · 2014-12-05T17:11:34+00:00

Maybe a slight off topic question, but something has been bothering me for a while.

So a former plate always said my name often in conversation, e.g "k_e_o_l what was that all about?" Instead of solely "what was that all about?"

Maybe a wierd place to ask but I've been pondering about this for a while, and haven't met anyone who does the same.

I'm aware this might be off-topic to TRP but I just thought I'd pop this in, so what does it mean/point to?

needless_pickup_line · 2014-12-05T17:53:08+00:00

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BinarySolar · 2014-12-05T18:29:35+00:00

What are some real situations that I should call out a plate/gf/female about, and how to do so without being butthurt?

pupupow · 2014-12-05T18:51:10+00:00

Isn't the idea that men can "cheat" pure misandry? Men are naturally polygamists. Men can have sex with multiple women and still remain loyal to a primary female. It only benefits women to push men into unnatural monogamy. Marriage is a woman's contract designed to subjugate men, is it not?

zudomo · 2014-12-05T19:01:33+00:00

I've been on TRP for a month and initially started using it just a guideline or motivational tool to improve my life (Lifting, gaining skills). I read but didn't care heavily on the posts about women at first.

I'd probably say I'm in the Denial phase of the 5 Stages of TRP in regards to women.

I'm beginning to realize that women do act and behave the way it is represented on here but the part where I am having difficulty is reconcilling it with not only my past beliefs (i.e. Disney Fucking Fairy Tale) but just in my "morals".

It feels very manipulative and deceitful the tactics and games. 48 Rules of Power is written in such a manner that you should use them for immoral purposes. It doesn't even try to hide or manipulate into another point of view.

I know in the sidebar, there is material that addresses this but I feel it's more than just "wanting what you want" vs "purposely hurting someone to garner attachment".

Is overcoming that an eventuality or is there a different point of view that can help overcome it?

Axotl · 2014-12-05T19:31:22+00:00

This is a specific one. Last weekend I was approached by a woman at the club who wouldn't leave me alone, was very heavy on touching, near constant eye-gazing and showed all the signs of interest that every other woman I've been successful with has done.

At no point did it seem like I 'lost' her, but when I asked for her number she said no, she never gave her number out and wanted to swap facebook instead.

I did what I always do and translated 'I never give my number out' as 'I would never give it to YOU' but her behaviour was completely at odds here. When she refused I just stopped playing the game with her. It's practically in the user manual that refused number exchange = no interest, move on. Disinterested girls always walk away without exception and show clear signs of disinterest, but this one wouldn't go away and wouldn't leave me alone even after refusing to share her number.

Eventually she left without a peep when I started talking to and dancing with other girls. What was the deal here? Just a girl looking for a ONS and nothing more? I have heard of such before just trying to reveal as little information as possible and only wanting a bang. In the past I've always been good at getting numbers and following up. Even other ONS share their numbers.

Derjenige · 2014-12-05T15:44:17+00:00

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readyforlaunch · 2014-12-05T16:46:29+00:00

I don't know about you guys, but I love bringing eggs to work - they're easy to eat, I can cook them in the morning, and I always find a way to make them taste pretty damn good.

What's your favorite way to make an egg based meal fit for the lunch hour?

yesidoes · 2014-12-05T18:11:02+00:00

What does TRP think about gay alphas?

Safia_Frostweaver · 2014-12-05T16:23:58+00:00

This is more meta, but is there a way we could have tags, like /r/marriedredpill does?
For instance, one for RPW or those in a LTR. Different things like that.

Eezo · 2014-12-05T18:43:00+00:00

A female co-worker mentioned off-offhandedly that I sound straight-edged. Being black, I'd been told I "talk like a white person" a few times growing up, but never straight-edge. I imagine this puts my straight into beta territory. Then she sort of asked whether or not I smoked or went out. I do smoke on occasion, but mostly stick to drinking when out with friends.

I know it's kind of stupid to ask without you hearing me speak, but anyone have any experience with this? I tend to mumble or stumble over my words unless I put a bit of thought into what I'm saying, which may be the cause of it.

Jaereth · 2014-12-05T18:58:15+00:00

Have a bro. He has one failed marriage already (wife cheated on him, he caught her, "omg sorry take me back", three months later she found someone else and wanted a divorce). Read into that what you will, but he's definitely not commanding respect and keeping attraction up to get into that situation.

So then he meets this other girl after divorce. 10 years his junior (way to go bro). Seemed like a good thing for him, but she's approaching the wall, and has no kids. She pressures him to marry her and make a kid.

So he proposes to her. Seems like it's going well. They already lived together. However, now I hear so much from my other family members:

She does absolutely nothing at the house. Granted yes, she works, but acts like she can't be bothered to do anything else on days she works. Also, on days she doesn't work, she doesn't do much either because it's her day to relax. That, and I also hear she screams at him at home such as "Get up and do it right fucking now", that kinda stuff. Turning the TV off on him and such. Obviously, problem signs of her not respecting him are already there.

She already spent thousands on a wedding dress, and somehow has like 5 parties planned for the whole thing. I don't think he should get married. There is no kid yet and right now he could walk away clean. However, he already had the whole "engagement party", sent out picture postcards, save the dates, booked reception hall and paid wedding stuff.

He's afraid bigtime. He doesn't want to get so old and be alone. He doesn't want to have to tell the family that "guess what, i'm not getting married now" (family is traditional catholic). He already has a son from previous marriage.

What can I do subtly to try and save this poor bastard? There are all secrets my mom told me at dinner the other night, i'm not even supposed to be privy to this information, but damn, my bro is about to fuck up again. (note: he did get divorce raped the first time. Lost tons of money).

blacwidonsfw · 2014-12-05T19:06:56+00:00

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FarOrAMess · 2014-12-05T19:16:46+00:00

I absolutely despise physical activity. I can't seem to find good guides on how to start from scratch, but I really can't see myself making a life-long commitment to sports. I remember hating it for as long as I can remember and even though I did start to jog lately I can't seem to really like it. I am satisfied when I'm done, but it's always a temporary thing in my mind. Should I look for an alternative to lifting? My social circle is pretty weak so I would need something that doesn't require bringing people with me.

NightwingTRP · 2014-12-05T20:04:44+00:00

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robotghow · 2014-12-05T20:11:26+00:00

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itsemalkay · 2014-12-05T20:11:37+00:00

Im able to get numbers, but i cant seem to get them to meet up with me. How can i build rapport for them to meet me up?

wiseclockcounter · 2014-12-05T20:43:04+00:00

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lordofthejelly · 2014-12-05T21:06:58+00:00

Question regarding Automod:

How hard would it be for AutoMod to automatically flair all users with the date of their first submission to TRP (comment or post)?

I realize some users ditch old accounts and start new ones as a precaution against doxxing, but it would still begin to help newer readers distinguish between who's a veteran and who's not

BadJokeHour · 2014-12-05T21:38:03+00:00

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reddick1 · 2014-12-06T06:34:08+00:00

What does TRP think about sugar-mommas? I'm mid 20's and she is 30 from a well off family. She pays for everything when we go out to expensive places that I would not normally be able to afford. I am fairly attractive, she is slightly lower than me but acceptable.

I know she is pining for a husband as she revealed to me that she rejected her former BF who proposed to her a few months ago. So what I am wondering is if she is just playing the field with me, or actually trying to start something?

I have other plates, and we have never mentioned about being bf/gf. and yes I wrap that shit up tight

jerrytheman1998 · 2014-12-05T19:51:58+00:00

I've been trying to apply RP theory as a junior in high school. It's partially worked. I notice girls checking me out doing things, sometimes a pretty senior will say hi in the hallway, things like that. The only problem is I find it difficult to initially start a conversation with a girl and when I do, I always find it hard to get her number. I feel like when I do it'll come off bad. Fear of rejection? Perhaps.. Anyway any advice for this?

GayLubeOil · 2014-12-05T16:21:28+00:00

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Title	Ask Anything Friday - 12/05/14
Author	The_BitterTruth
Upvotes	40
Comments	161
Date	December 5, 2014 1:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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